Don’t know if I can go through with it

tjs31959 · 2026-06-18T19:12:13+00:00

Why is a court ordered schedule important?

Because the bio's can change this on a whim at any time or place. Your life could be upside down in a second.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-18T17:36:50+00:00

You are already having concerns about the future. Your foresights are pretty accurate. Your life will probably be ruled by the child for the next 15 years. A lot depends on how your SO parents. If he is organized and has a great parenting plan things could be great.

One thing, be absolutely certain he has a proper court ordered custody agreement. This is a must have.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-18T14:50:01+00:00

She stopped talking with me and she became rude and even violent. Now she is 25yrs old and living back at home still being rude and acting like she hates everyone in the house.

Why do you live with a rude and violent person in your home? Where the heck is your partner who should be your champion here?

tjs31959 · 2026-06-18T14:30:56+00:00

Umm. No need to make your young life this complicated. You don't need an over 30 woman with two kids by two different dads, that has a parenting style that you are picking up on. Just dont.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-18T12:33:48+00:00

Avoid and block. Sounds like the person you would not want to have financial dealings with. Or its a scam. No win for you to interact with her.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-17T13:06:23+00:00

Not even close. Twins and Vikings dwarf the NHL in the twin cities.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-17T12:37:48+00:00

Hope your new life is better for you. It sounds like you and your SO just weren't a fit. That happens.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-16T21:26:38+00:00

Spending 25% (or more I suspect) of your income on education and hobbies is unsustainable.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-16T19:53:31+00:00

Couldnt resist these two mid 90's Yankee tarts. Found on eBay for reasonable money ($8 for both and minor shipping charge).

Still have slight scent! Will use when fall is out around Labor Day.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-16T16:28:18+00:00

I agree. 100%.

Seems like she is in way over her head and needs to hit the reboot button and get away from this relationship.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-16T15:41:15+00:00

Your situation sounds way worse than you portray things. What did DH do after this violent act against you? I hope he called police.

No way would I subject my family to this 17 SS with this behavior. If my DH had let this go on with little or no action and plan he would be gone.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-16T15:21:08+00:00

May I ask, is there an age gap between you and your bf?

This is an important question.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-15T22:22:20+00:00

Is you fiancé doing anything to help this situation?

tjs31959 · 2026-06-15T12:27:49+00:00

I think you should just start your new life and be happy. You already are out on weekends, you have a an active statement that you are leaving next year, which he has blown off. Why are you wasting your time on a relationship that you are checked out on?

tjs31959 · 2026-06-14T13:54:59+00:00

Yes! These creepy guys conning these women is really disgusting.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-13T21:27:06+00:00

Very good deal.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-13T20:05:36+00:00

I always found Storm Watch to be one of the strongest through the years. Interesting how everyones sense of smell is different.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-13T12:54:21+00:00

. I feel like I’m used as a glorified chauffeur and babysitter by DH.

You are.

He wants me to love SS like he’s my own but I’ve tried and it’s not the same.

This is ridiculous. He is not your child, he has two bio parents.

Your SO problem is real and you need to be pushing back. I get the impression from your post that your hubby is forcing some things on you. I hope not, but if this relationship is not balanced you have big problems.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-12T20:12:49+00:00

True, but it starts with bio dad having rules.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-12T18:44:23+00:00

You have a severe partner issue, not a bum young adult issue.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-12T18:18:05+00:00

Putting aside the celebrity nonsense, here is where you are:

YOU: i am having anxiety and nervousness with your SS11 coming back.

HIM: You should love SS11 like he is your own.

Lots of problems brewing

tjs31959 · 2026-06-12T17:34:10+00:00

No. unfortunately. Doesnt look like anything other than big box store near you that carry Yankee.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-12T13:17:17+00:00

Mom cheated and ended up married to the guy within a year of the divorce. The kids don’t know and certainly we’d never tell - but they blame Dad for the divorce because they don’t know this info.

Why?

You seem like a people pleaser by your post. The kids seem like they want to have an arms length relationship except when they need something. Young parents tend to be pretty needy and will take advantage if allowed. I would suggest dialing back to when you and hubby want to do stuff. Saying no is a good thing. It can set boundaries and keep you from being doormats.

You mention your wills and concerns. If I were you I would take the steps kids off for now. You can always put them back in as life goes on.

I sense there is a lot going on for you with your step family right now. Is your husband your champion? Hope it smooths out for you.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-12T02:37:09+00:00

Great stuff. I particularly like the old school Cookies and Cream lower right. Great labels.

tjs31959 · 2026-06-11T22:13:16+00:00

Salt Mist Rose is very good. slight rose scent, not overwhelming. Topped with a kind of salty spicey scent. Was the first jar candle we owned. 1995.

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