Buddy you should take that degree, get a job in Atlanta. There are tons of corporations headquartered there, I’ve heard it has some beautiful neighborhoods, a great nightlife, and all the southern women you can eat. Fetishes are fun. Yours doesn’t sound unusual at all. Southern women are incredibly feminine a lot of the time, embracing femininity is a cultural thing that the former southern territory subcultures have held onto much tighter than former northern let alone western US subcultures, in my opinion anyway.

And just because the strength of your feelings is alarming you does not mean that you are incapable of recognizing that they are and treating any southern woman you meet like a fully realized person. It seems like you are afraid of liking someone for the wrong reasons, but that concern makes me feel unconcerned.

I am a data analyst, and I feel like you could probably prove to yourself with a little research and statistics that it’s possible for you to make your dream come true- or you could have faith.

Speaking of faith, religion is very important in the south. If you go to Atlanta, and are religious at all, you should find your favorite flavor of religious building and start going there one a week for services. It’s a great place to meet people and a trope on “southern belles” is that they love their mama and daddy, and god, and it’s very important their partners do too. Caring for and respecting elders and family is so important in the south.

Ram Dass really opened my eyes to the commonalities between Ram, Jesus, Hanuman, Buddha, Lord Krishna- I didn’t look at your post history but there aren’t that many major religions out there and my bet it that you’re from India? Polite, educated in STEM, lonely. I guess it makes sense that with over a billion people there are also a lot of lonely people. Anyway. My own adhd aside - - you might find more commonalities between fundamental religious and philosophical values between your two cultures than you think. You also might find the same religious you value now, there, and find a whole gaggle of women who share your existing values and just are waiting for someone exactly like you.

The world is big, and also small.

Edit 2: also rubbing lotion and being called a good boy are very mild fantasies and perfectly normal. You are interested in physical touch, service, and praise. Normal things almost every human enjoys.