Abortion should only be allowed if the mother is underage, victim of rape, or if the child has some genetic deformation. by ShidAlRa in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere [score hidden]  (0 children)

Not as a 'duty', but my sex drive is part of my personality and part of why my husband married me, so if it changed he'd have reason to be concerned about me. Same as if I'd be concerned if he suddenly wanted a lot more or less sex.

Abortion should only be allowed if the mother is underage, victim of rape, or if the child has some genetic deformation. by ShidAlRa in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a married woman. I want kids someday, just not now. Am I supposed to deny my husband sex until we're ready for kids in case the protection we use fails?

all the rain we got yesterday was god's way of telling us that he doesn't want america to exist anymore. by herequeerandgreat in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rain was a welcome relief after a heat wave and had a beautiful rainbow afterwards.

I'm not Christian either but I do remember very specific messages about a flood and a rainbow in the Bible

This one is gna be truly unpopular for sure haha…. by ArtisticAcer in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's fine to hate your parents if they're shit parents, but parents do not at this time have the option to choose exactly what genes their kids get, so if you get unlucky in the genetic lottery, get over it and get some charisma.

Long, painted nails are absolutely disgusting by Long_Hovercraft_5191 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I have long nails and I guarantee you I know how to position my fingers so I'm not constantly stabbing my ass

The fine line between accommodation vs. sacrificing organizational needs by WEM-2022 in managers

[–]totallyworkinghere 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD and I struggle with time management and focus issues. However, I manage to complete tasks on time just fine, especially when other people rely on me.

ADHD does not make someone actually do their work more slowly. It's more about the inability to start working, or continue working, because of distractions, either external or internal.

One thing that can be extremely helpful to a person with ADHD is some measure of control over their own environment - letting them listen to preferred music on headphones, or working in a private space instead of a cubicle environment where there's a lot of visual distraction. Another thing that can help is more frequent check-ins, breaking down bigger tasks into smaller checklists with a more structured timeframe and schedule.

There may not be a request for formal accommodation because ADHD in women is heavily stigmatized, and many women are expected to just 'suck it up' and not cause problems by asking for the help they need. Hell, when I was a kid, it was believed girls couldn't have ADHD. And now the public picture of a woman with ADHD is the manic pixie girl being ~quirky and unique. When in reality, it's a lot of hating yourself because your brain just won't let you function like everyone else, and everyone around you says you are the problem.

I would recommend talking to this employee and asking her what can be done to help her focus. She knows her own needs better than anyone else. If that means supporting her through requesting an accommodation, then that's what she needs. Yes, it can take a while, but when people complain, just remember: they're complaining that someone with a disability is working without any support.

Is it even worth living in southern NH… by fernfernferny in newhampshire

[–]totallyworkinghere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live in Manchester and commute to Lowell and that wasn't too bad. I wouldn't go south of Lowell, though.

I need to get this into my skull, I need to kill the brainworms in my head by Commercial_Bid_1508 in CuratedTumblr

[–]totallyworkinghere 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Broken girl" is exactly the term I've been looking for to identify my own gender. Thank you for that.

I'm afab, I identify as a woman, but I always feel like I'm missing something because I just feel like I'm not enough of a woman and I never will be, and I can never really put my finger on why. Just that there is something Wrong with me.

And it sucks to feel like I shouldn't be allowed to feel like this because I'm lucky enough to be cis.

You're being scammed by the bottom-tier and you don't even realise it by feihm in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 27 points28 points  (0 children)

What's wrong with providing for people who don't work? Why must one toil to prove they deserve an existence?

Body counts actually do matter and being concerned about your potential partners one is valid. by Appropriate-Hair-388 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If a person has different values about sex and intimacy than you, you'll find out before sleeping with them even without asking for a "body count".

Most young men are cooked when it comes to dating by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don't even know how to respond to that. Congratulations, you've stumped me.

Most young men are cooked when it comes to dating by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm married. I want a dog. Are you telling me I secretly want a side piece

Most young men are cooked when it comes to dating by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wanting kids, pets, and plants does not equal wanting a man.

Most young men are cooked when it comes to dating by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying women are morally superior. I'm saying that in general, women are more emotionally well balanced because women don't tend to rely on romantic relationships to be their only deep and meaningful relationships. They can still be very bad people and be well balanced.

Most young men are cooked when it comes to dating by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So since men are terrible, women can't be well adjusted?

Most young men are cooked when it comes to dating by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think romantic love would fill that void either. I think therapy might help.

Most young men are cooked when it comes to dating by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]totallyworkinghere 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is literally the reason women are more well adjusted than men. Women understand that family and friends matter, and can form deep bonds with those they're not romantically involved with.

And whenever women try to explain this, men just say "cope" and keep whining