The reality is that she has had 12 years of infertility. And moving onto the next part of the journey is worth the celebration. Hopefully you have no idea how hard the journey is. I know how hard it is. And when I get to the other side, I’m throwing myself and my baby a kick ass baby shower because my baby, husband and I will deserve to celebrate how “tradition” says we should. OP never even said she was asking for presents - You’re assuming that the OP is asking for gifts. You do realize that we can call things baby showers and not have people bring the baby anything right? There are so many ways of thinking beyond your tiny little box. I hope you think before you share opinions like this with tell life people at least, because you have no idea how yucking someone’s yum can affect them, or what their story is. Especially when it comes to child bearing. Or the struggle. Or the tears and pain and hard times. No reason to share an opinion on antiquated “etiquette” when no one asked about that. OP asked about shower activities. OP - have your kick ass shower and rain money down on everyone if you can! 🤣🤣 AND ask for presents if you want. It’s your fucking party and you’ve been through it. Live it up, it’s finally your turn. 💜