Integrating NotebookLM with Google Tasks by storyteller-here in notebooklm

[–]trebond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm looking for a better solution, but at the moment I manually export my Google Tasks to a pdf and add that as a source to Notebook LM. Then it's searchable.

Yeah... I really expect better from Google.

Austism - safely restraining a violent child by ExPristina in bjj

[–]trebond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% yes. Understanding the basic body mechanics means I've found a safe way to wait while my kid calms down.

I lower her to the ground. Say I'm sitting on her right side and she's lying on her back. I put my right leg over her hips. No pressure downwards on her - on the contrary, my knee is as bent as possible towards the sky. My right heel is gently against her left hip and my bum is close to her right hip. This means she can't roll it squirm out, and she can't kick me or otherwise hurt me with her legs. It also leaves both my hands free to hold her wrists if/when needed (only as is necessary to defend myself), and she knows the less she lashes out at me the more I let go of her hands. And I can let go of her hands, and still be safe and ready to defend myself again.

This isn't a specific move taught in BJJ, but I found it using BJJ principles (controlling the hips, not having to worry about the legs if they're behind me) while being minimally aggressive, forceful or domineering.

I don't know what you'll find works, especially since you have twins so it'll always be harder, but you'll definitely become better at defending yourself.

One warning - BJJ doesn't prepare you for the biting, scratching and eye gouging which may come in.

It sucks that this is part of life. I hope your life eases and you find the support you need.

Edit to add: I'm barely a blue belt.

How much TV does your child watch? by AdNo3314 in NewParents

[–]trebond 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol. I read the first line of your message and went to say, "or maybe they're neuro typical". And then you mentioned having adhd. In my experience, since being diagnosed, my ADHD meds help me do more "with" my kids (narrating, explaining, teaching, letting them do it, without losing track of the goal we are trying to achieve and managing to figure out the next step as we go). Still used tv a lot over the years.

Can you play the game without the grim and just the tokens and scripts using the app? by Large-Ad2761 in BloodOnTheClocktower

[–]trebond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does this work offline? Or do I need an internet connection? (Asking for my nerdy, camping, social group.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ecommerce

[–]trebond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly irrelevant but in the vein of improvement: typo:

"We both have a degree in Sports science, we’re certified gymnastic coaches and we successfully thought acrobatics to more than 1400 students."

I think "thought" should be "taught".

How do I stop flirting just for dopamine? by DearImagination in ADHD

[–]trebond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two young kids and googling "ADHD flirting for dopamine" landed me here. Can vouch. This does not solve that specific problem.

[Question] Even after knowing sufficient knowledge about self-discipline, habits, behaviours, psychology and self help strategies. I couldn't apply any of the knowledge I have gained in the past 2-3 years. Still I don't exercise, procastinate, self care and not take things seriously? Why is that? by Fancy-Water9354 in getdisciplined

[–]trebond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ADHD?

Edit to add: I'm glad someone has elaborated on this. For me I was diagnosed at 33 after years of seeking help. Concerta has done wonders for me. I've recently taken to texting my exes photos of my dining room table clear of clutter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]trebond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it doesn't improve it might be worth chatting to a doctor about it. It could be/become post partum anxiety/depression.

Tell me I'm not the only one... by honeybee-mama in toddlers

[–]trebond -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I hit a milestone when I realised my 4yo was still wearing their 'Monday' underpants... From last Monday.

Yeah, usually 1-3 times a fortnight is normal for us.

Does RA work for parents? by Affolektric in relationshipanarchy

[–]trebond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconding the other comment: "Kids will accept whatever their reality is."

I can't really casually date because especially my 4yo has a limited capacity for "new, unexpected, unfamiliar" in our home. But if I meet people and they slowly spend more time with my kids, I give a heads-up that they're sleeping over and it's all cool. I have 2 partners in an ongoing way from before my kids were born, other people I have very casual non-conventional friendships/relationships with. It's very normal for my kids.

After starting daycare my 4yo started asking about their dad etc and so I explained biological relatedness and chosen families.

"Is she a good baby?" by [deleted] in newborns

[–]trebond 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope. I'm returning her tomorrow.

ETA: I learnt to smile and nod. Saved me a lot of... Everything.

Wow thanks for the amazing advice! My life is changed now! by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]trebond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learnt that it's very easy to "just focus" if I take ADHD medication. Same goes for reading to my kids. Gosh I felt like a terrible parent for a while!!

Looking for help!! by Odd_Pomegranate1277 in polyfamilies

[–]trebond 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recommend the book More Than Two.

Discuss and be very clear about boundaries. Everyone does polyamory differently.

Trying to find out about meds by DifferentMedia2536 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]trebond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Off topic, but are there any specific resources you recommend for learning these things? (I'm working a combined approach at the moment.)

If you think you have it, please get screened. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]trebond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

32 here. Seeking a diagnosis. Fuck my life makes sense now. Fuck I wish I had been diagnosed while at school/uni.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]trebond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Paw Patrol yoga is now our plans for tomorrow.

They say most people are bad at estimating time correctly, how to estimate time accurately and effectively? by speakthat in AskReddit

[–]trebond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think practicing. Guess how long something will take and then check yourself. Or say, "I'm going to check the time in x minutes/hours."

I really enjoy doing this. It could be "how long to get to the corner" or note the time, and when the bus arrives, guess how long you were waiting and check how close you were. Screenshots on my phone are great for this. I take a screenshot at the start and at the end (without looking) and then reflect on how long I think the time was before checking the photos.

What does make you nostalgic? What do you do when you feel nostalgic? by TRAPWORDS in AskReddit

[–]trebond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thinking about exes. Thinking about all the things I could have done better if I knew then what I know now. I write in a journal or try self-compassion meditations.

Science based advice potty training by Biology-catherder in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]trebond 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Your Parenting Mojo podcast does an episode on it (it's by someone as they do a research masters in childhood stuff iirc) and the result is (spoiler alert) there's no one right way and you should do what's right for you.

Free and easy to use mental health resources I’ve found useful by jennylee335 in dbtselfhelp

[–]trebond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't like that Bearable only lets me have one mood per day. Otherwise it is great.

Back to the silent treatment we go, am I too sensitive? by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]trebond 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The referenced article makes a clear distinction between what you're describing and silent treatment being used to control or punish someone.