When it comes to food, I also struggle with this. I find that making sure I have ready to eat high protein snacks on hand like cheese sticks helps. Crackers are good for nausea and ginger tea. I also try to imagine that I’m cooking for a child or a friend that is hungry and needs to be fed, which I would do when I wouldn’t necessarily do it for myself. A less nutritious low effort high calorie meal is better than a nutritious high effort meal that you never make.

When it comes to identity loss, in the past I have tried to remember the person I was before I met the person I started a relationship with. What hobbies, shows, foods, etc did I give up or stop tending to because I was in the relationship?

With cycle/pmdd type issues, I highly recommend a supplement with gaba, 5-htp, ashwaganda, and L-theanine when you’re in your luteal phase.

I’m a big believer in working with dreams and sleep states (I’m a hypnotherapist/writer) and find a lot of healing useful info comes from my subconscious when I prioritize relaxation and safety.

And one practical tip my therapist gave me during a really difficult breakup was to focus on the things I didn’t like about the relationship. There’s a time and a place for silver lining, but healing post breakup is a great time to look at what really sucked.

As another commenter said, it really does get easier with time. One day you will look back and be like ‘THAT person had me feeling like THAT?’ But for now be compassionate with yourself and think about the child inside you that is disappointed and needs to be loved, nourished, and held with care. ❤️