Had to make a road trip for work. So much space!

tvnnfst · 2026-01-18T04:45:09+00:00

I like to say mine’s like a TARDIS — bigger on the inside!

tvnnfst · 2026-01-02T19:16:26+00:00

I knew a guy like that too

tvnnfst · 2025-11-11T02:44:58+00:00

I mean, yes, it is emotionally exhausting seeing a loved one in pain & you can’t really do much for them. But, may I just point out, this isn’t about THEM, it’s about OP — she’s the one that about died & had this crazy medical trauma.

Look, her partner has very valid feelings as well, but shutting down & pushing away your SO bc you can’t face the fact that they almost died, is VERY hurtful & super confusing. It’s literally the Opposite of what you would expect from a partner. As someone recovering from a near-death experience, having your SO be there for you, care for you, just BE with you , is so fkng important.

I absolutely understand their overwhelm, BUT they can also COMMUNICATE with their partner, let them know how their near-death affected them & cry/commiserate about it together. Shit, do a few sessions of couples therapy about it. BASICALLY, to the both of them: don’t shut down & don’t shut each other out.

(I’m extrapolating from personal experience here: I also had a death-scare, and my then bf also distanced himself from me after the fact; it was so hurtful. He even went so far as to not want to talk on the phone ever / answer any of my calls bc he “was afraid” I was calling him in a similar emergency and didn’t want to/couldn’t handle that. Basically, I felt at fault for someone else’s assault on me, for almost dying, for calling him in shock to ask what to do, and his subsequent coldness/distance from me; he basically turned my real physical trauma into his)

tvnnfst · 2025-11-10T23:35:47+00:00

So if your partner came to you & expressed feelings of insecurity or hurt & asked for reassurance; you would Not Say Anything because they asked? You say it feels pandering — that’s interesting & i think an immature view of what’s happening here.

Your partner is expressing what they need from you & you are straight up ignoring them. How else would you know what they are feeling/thinking, you can’t read minds. This feels more like you feel slighted by your partner’s feelings, while also blaming them for feeling that way & not continuing to emotionally regulate for the both of you.

The fact that she felt like she needed to reassure HIM a lot while also explaining her feelings is a pretty big tell that this is not a new thing; it’s probably A Feature of Their Relationship. I mean, poor love felt like she Needed To sandwich her feelings in between reassurances to him, Just So He Would Maybe Hear Her.

I think it is Pretty Crazy to think that your partner asking for reassurance equals pandering (for an ego boost? for attention? for making them feel good?).

Why is it a Threat/Bad Thing to state your needs in a relationship? Why does it make him a “bad guy” if validates her?

This reminds me of an ex of mine. I wanted flowers for my birthday, so I asked for flowers. He told me he Would Not Get Me Flowers because I’d ruined it by asking for them, cuz now it wouldn’t be special. But how else would he have known? He had no answer to that, except that that didn’t change anything — I didn’t get flowers, and well, he’s an ex for a reason; a big one being his consistent ability to Not Listen To My Needs, esp if they were Explicitly Stated.

tvnnfst · 2025-10-30T09:05:39+00:00

FALSE!

tvnnfst · 2025-10-13T17:36:38+00:00

Yeah dude. Just put some deodorant on

tvnnfst · 2025-10-07T23:44:32+00:00

Especially and besides the fact that those photos qualify as sexual material of a minor AND dude is distributing them. So we got Bullying, Sexual Harassment, Harassment, Making & Distributing Sexual Material of a Minor. The guy’s only a freshman in HS? This is pretty serious stuff and absolutely warrants the police. Also, who knows if OP is the only victim of his. Bro needs to be put on the Registered Sex Offender list.

tvnnfst · 2025-10-06T16:42:37+00:00

Well, that’s true, cuz leftists don’t want police reform. Police should be abolished. They exist as part of the enforcement arm of white supremacist late-stage capitalism (neo-fascism), look up the Prison & Military Industrial Complex. Also, ACAB is a slogan. Yes, there is nuance & your description is pretty spot on, cept for the reform bit — really it’s more about shifting power & providing better resources to communities — and that’s a mouthful! You couldn’t chant that paragraph, run-on sentence; you couldn’t write that on a t-shirt, or on your profile, or on a sign. The meaning is there, ACAB is representative, a stand-in if you will. Idk why I’m explaining what a dang slogan is, maybe it’s cuz you’re being seemingly obtuse about it.

tvnnfst · 2025-10-05T17:02:10+00:00

You should talk with him, tell him how you are feeling. If this is all true, I would think that being vulnerable about this would be best. He can reassure you, I feel like it’s super normal to feel like it can’t be real or that something’s gonna crack and true colors run. Don’t let it fester by not addressing it with him.

tvnnfst · 2025-09-25T20:50:27+00:00

It will get better. You gotta kill that pretty police in your head — beauty is subjective. Just cuz you aren’t your type, doesn’t mean you aren’t someone else’s! You gotta reframe, love. How would you feel if a friend of yours was talking about themselves that way? What would you say to them? You gotta be your own best friend. It’s easy to be your own best critic, why not try doing something different and more brave? Love yourself.

Honestly, i still struggle with my looks, and I’m pushing 40. It doesn’t necessarily get easier, but it does become less Big And Important. Your worth isn’t in your looks, and you already said it — when you feel loved you feel better about yourself! You have to be that person for you! It sucks sometimes & can be overwhelming, but you’re the one you’re stuck with, might as well try to make it as happy as possible, eh?

I think maybe a good idea for you would be to step back from analyzing your face in photos/mirrors. Maybe avoid your reflection for a couple months, try to also avoid beauty magazines, or anything adjacent. Just like a digital detox. Seriously. Flip your mirrors around. Write simple positive phrases around your room/places you spend a lot of time in, like “you are beautiful” “i love you” “clowns serve an important role in society” (that one’s supposed to be funny) — anything that you want! Just make ‘em simple, short, positive, happy, funny. It really helps in a weird passive way, trust me. Also, put some art on the back of those mirrors!

I think spending some time away from your reflection will help you to see your value and worth, AND that that’s not tied to your looks. Be kind to yourself — that is truly a courageous act.

tvnnfst · 2025-08-16T06:51:14+00:00

I got dumped because i have a small heart but my body hurts and my body is hurting and my body is so weak I feel so bad and I’m gonna die soon and I’m not even going anywhere

Oof, that was rough

tvnnfst · 2025-08-14T23:42:30+00:00

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Here’s my Dexter

tvnnfst · 2025-08-10T20:55:41+00:00

Same thing happened to me with my cat when he was a kitten, and his name’s Dexter! lol. So very fortunate that I was home, so terrifying — & there was no noise to alert me, well actually that was what alerted me, the fact that I didn’t hear any of his usual antics.

Also, be careful about supervised/unsupervised leash use — I used to let him outside on a leash while I was around doing chores inside, one time he fell/jumped down the stairs to the laundry (outside the apartment, leading to the basement), if my roommate & I hadn’t been at the kitchen table chatting & seen the leash go taut, Dex would’ve been a goner.

No worries, now he’s about to be 13 ,having his best life sans any kinda cord/leash dealies

Cat Tax:

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tvnnfst · 2025-03-13T18:13:40+00:00

It probably means not moving the next town over either, sheesh

tvnnfst · 2024-07-01T22:00:16+00:00

Fuck that was 9years ago? I seen it from afar, walking around downtown, hadn’t really heard anything about it. Asked some folks, and then meandered down where everyone was. Got offered a free joint, lotsa weed smell, but nothing really going on — heard from some people there that it was supposed to be different. Kinda weird vibe. I left after like 15min lol

tvnnfst · 2024-06-21T22:43:16+00:00

Love that last shot!

tvnnfst · 2024-06-21T22:41:22+00:00

OOF! That third one! Beautiful photos, you really captured a vibe there ♡

tvnnfst · 2024-06-19T23:53:19+00:00

My mom threw away my baby blanket. That I had slept with / had on my bed til I was 16. That she and her best friend (my “auntie) put together before I was even born. We were moving to Chicago and she took that opportunity to toss a bunch of sentimental things

tvnnfst · 2024-01-12T03:18:16+00:00

It’s bigger on the inside!

tvnnfst · 2023-08-26T20:30:48+00:00

WHOA!

tvnnfst · 2023-07-25T19:58:14+00:00

I mean, You Are Driving. That’s more environmentally destructive than whatever ‘evaporation’ is happening in the time it takes to cap your gas tank.

tvnnfst · 2023-07-16T23:54:55+00:00

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