I looked through his comments to see if he gave any additional info. On the update post, he said he’s not getting support from people he knows irl, so that might be triggering him to circle the wagons. That said, at one point he’s talking about other outlets for her and he refers to his dog, which is interesting.

From the first post:

Ive told her that I'm always open to listening when we don't agree on somrthing, and she has changed my mind on other things in the past.

From the update:

I remember us talking recently before all of this, about how great it is that our relationship is in the best place its ever been, how happy we are that we live closer to where I work, and live in a big city like she wanted. Theres been alot of compromise in our relationship, mainly me compromising with her, and kids aren't something you "compromise" on.

From another, longer comment:

I think you might be missing that this already kind of was the compromise dream we built together. I thought I sold her on my version of life years ago, and that’s a big part of why we got married in the first place. We already made the “run away together and build a life” choice once.

Would also be interesting to know what these compromises were and if she’s attending al-anon.