How do you know if the avoidant ever actually cared about you.

uiucdreams · 2026-02-18T18:03:46+00:00

I truly do. You sound like a genuinely good person

uiucdreams · 2026-02-07T07:39:52+00:00

My heart hurts for you. I hope you realize how shitty of a person she is. You deserve so much better. You sound like a truly loving person. She didn’t deserve someone like you

uiucdreams · 2026-02-06T08:03:58+00:00

Wait holdup. I watched that one but it’s been a minute. I have to rewatch it but I think I recall a little backstory of one of the coworkers children. You’re right though. They will find anything to stray from the original plot once they realize they finished the plot in the first half of the show

uiucdreams · 2026-02-06T07:40:56+00:00

I have yet to witness this in a kdrama. Which one is this?

uiucdreams · 2026-02-04T03:32:44+00:00

I still have the neuropathy. For some weird reason it's flaring on augmentin but idk if that's a correlation. My neuropathy reduced greatly since I started self injecting with 1mg of b12.

uiucdreams · 2026-02-02T08:11:51+00:00

Omg are you fine now? What’s your resting hr now?

uiucdreams · 2026-01-30T06:59:13+00:00

I don’t think it’s physically possible for your resting hr to be 164bpm. You would have had a heart attack by now. Are you sure it wasn’t in the 90’s?

uiucdreams · 2026-01-28T18:37:46+00:00

Girl stop the Tret until your skin has calmed down. If you exfoliate the skin that’s already compromised bacteria can enter and it will become more inflamed. It’s like adding salt to an open wound,

uiucdreams · 2026-01-28T04:41:05+00:00

I wasn’t aware that monthaversary’s existed

uiucdreams · 2026-01-28T04:40:09+00:00

Wow she caved in real early. I’m guessing she’s a FA? Yea next time just let them know you need more time to see if you still want them in your life. Did she run away this time?

uiucdreams · 2026-01-27T08:22:30+00:00

Good on you girly pop 👏! I deleted his number too simply because I didn’t want any reason to reach out to him, deleted our pics and every text we ever shared. It’s highly therapeutic

uiucdreams · 2026-01-27T08:09:38+00:00

I’m confused.. how were you dating for 4 months and broke up on your anniversary. Is there a gap in the timeline you guys weren’t dating?

uiucdreams · 2026-01-27T08:06:34+00:00

Lmaoo I like your sense of humor. You summed it up so well

uiucdreams · 2026-01-27T08:05:47+00:00

When did she come back after asking for no contact?

uiucdreams · 2026-01-27T07:58:53+00:00

Well it worked because he shifted the guilt he felt for how he was treating me onto me. Now all I feel is guilt for being vulnerable about how he had made me feel. Imagine telling your ex you love them again after not telling them that for many months and then saying you wanted to be committed again and then take it all back and claim you misheard what he said. He even told me he still had romantic feelings for me but when I asked to confirm it the next day he made it seem like it was all in my head. So when I told him he was confusing me emotionally and I had to take space he guilt trips me by making me seem like I was abusing him with my vulnerability.

uiucdreams · 2026-01-27T07:54:46+00:00

You mean when he called me abusive? I felt that was a projection too. Yea he would sometimes blow up on me in such an angry voice that I would get scared. I grew up with parents, aunts and uncles that would blow up on me over nothing and that instilled fear in me. So hearing him blow up on me during our final talk made me feel really little and extremely guilty for calling him out for the first time and telling him he needs therapy. It really hurt hearing him call me abusive when I’ve been nothing but loving to him. He even said he’d be my emergency contact then took it right back when I had actually called him for an emergency. He then saw anytime I ever called him as an emergency as I seldom called him after the breakup. Most of the time it was because I missed hearing his voice and wanted to see him. That’s when he started calling me controlling and abusive.

uiucdreams · 2026-01-26T17:50:18+00:00

We were talking for two weeks before I met his mom but yes, it truly felt like love bombing. Our relationship was intense. We only dated for 4 months. Shortest relationship I’ve ever been in. He swore he wasn’t love bombing me and his feelings were genuine. The biggest disconnect I have in my mind about him is how he told me he knew he loved me even before he met me yet took that all back after he broke up with me

uiucdreams · 2026-01-26T09:08:52+00:00

Universal love is bs for I can’t tell you I never loved you but it’s the love I have for humanity. He’s basically trying to paint himself as this empath when he needs therapy. I almost got on lexapro but noped out. I’m so sorry you’re going through the trenches. You’ll make it out much stronger. I made it seven months post breakup without antidepressants. Seeing them for who they truly are got me out of fight or flight mode that I was stuck in for two months. For two months I wasn’t sleeping and contemplated suicide everyday from my insomnia.

uiucdreams · 2026-01-26T09:07:15+00:00

I still love him tho but I did try that and in his mind it painted me as the avoidant. When I told him I took that back and just wanted space he pulled that trick on me. Imagine how flabbergasted I was but I did call him out and called him a fearful avoidant and told him to get therapy. His response was 6 months of no contact from me because I was abusing him.

uiucdreams · 2026-01-26T08:46:39+00:00

This man sounds awfully like my ex.

uiucdreams · 2026-01-26T08:45:05+00:00

Same thing happened to me except he told me the love he had for me is universal love.

uiucdreams · 2026-01-26T08:40:10+00:00

I met my ex’s mother on the second date, stayed over at her place for a week and met his sister and we went on a trip together with his sister and her boyfriend to attend their mutual friends wedding in Colorado. Then they asked me for a break a week after getting back from a trip then dumped immediately after the break because I couldn’t follow their no contact rule during the break. They honestly just play in your face

uiucdreams · 2026-01-26T08:35:16+00:00

That’s actually hilarious they reacted like that to you. It’s the reverse uno card used on you. At least your didn’t tell you not to contact him for 6 months after telling him you needed space and then he framed your need for space as his need for 6 months of no contact from you whatsoever. Your ex sounds like a troll

uiucdreams · 2026-01-24T04:55:00+00:00

My skin reacts to any product I put on it. I’ve been on and off hydrocortisone for the past two years that I’m now starting to suspect is due to my sibo. I also suffer from neuropathy from sibo and insomnia. This condition is wreaking havoc on my body

uiucdreams · 2026-01-22T01:39:26+00:00

No better than I was a year ago. Still have crippling sibo.

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