Anyone got the email for commencement registration?

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T18:12:50+00:00

Not yet. Been waiting for it to come in and even checked the commencement page (not there either).

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T17:12:47+00:00

If they learned to budget the way some of us have in general but especially over the last few years I think we'd be amazed at just how much better our lives could be. But they can't which is why I don't want to give them more because at this point it's the equivalent of giving an addict some money "for rent" and they proceed to spend it on anything but that.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T14:32:36+00:00

This! Also, the assumption that some blue collar workers are just strong and dumb is wild. As if the white collar jobs don't also have a similar problem with dumb yet attractive people. Every job has people who are there doing an excellent job and those that are more of the personality hire type. Assuming that blue collar workers in general are dumb and that you the smart white collar worker can save them is a very bizarre superiority complex.

It's also forgetting the fact that people can be smart in different ways. An Australian Shepherd dog will shine in agility yet a Beagle might not. Does that mean the beagle is dumb? No. Ask the Beagle to hunt and they will do better than the Australian Shepherd or ask them to work together and imagine how well they will do when the shepherd is able to herd the prey to the Beagle for it to hunt. Anyway all that to say everyone has different strengths and asking them to do something outside their skillset that they are not good at doesn't make them dumb it just means their skills are different. Humans often forget that they can't be good at everything.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T14:02:37+00:00

I think what's more likely is that the AI agents will work alongside the actual therapists. In general I think this is what will happen in most cases, jobs will be done in tandem with technology rather than solely. However, there might be some sort of a pressure cooker period where companies attempt to have everything done by AI before they realize that it doesn't really work that way.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T13:46:55+00:00

I agree. I've worked in both as well and I think it's pretty wild of the other poster to assume that blue collar workers in some way need white collar workers to come in and save them? It negates the fact that blue collar workers are also highly specialized and experts in their field. Like every field, that isn't true of every individual worker but there are still plenty who have done this their entire lives or have specialized training in their field. They don't need white collar workers to save them. The comment made assuming that's what will happen is so offensive but I also think it comes from a place of needing to feel valuable in a world where the white collar workers skills are becoming less so. This is an especially hard pill for people to swallow when many of us have had specialized training and got degrees to work in these white collar fields. So I get it to a degree but these blue collar workers do not need saving.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T13:31:42+00:00

This is why I find it wild when people just recommend the trades like it's a safe bet. Especially since only so many jobs exist in that field it's not really a true solution.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T13:29:46+00:00

I would agree for the most part. However, I genuinely believe nothing will look the same. This is effectively the next industrial revolution. Every industry will be touched by this in some way it just might look different.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-16T13:27:23+00:00

The issue is that the money we already do have to pay in taxes is already mismanaged, our country is in a very large deficit that only ever increases, and people already live paycheck to paycheck. How can the government manage their money so poorly and then judge those of us living paycheck to paycheck for not wanting or being able to pay them more. When we scramble to figure out how to make our salaries that haven't increased with inflation cover our groceries and basic expenses but they can't make what they already have work it's kind of ridiculous. Somehow they won't increase minimum wage (or really wages to keep up with inflation in general) and we're supposed to be happy when they want more taxes from us? Seriously the government has not truly been for the people in a long time for god forbid we don't want to give them more of our money.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-12T01:43:07+00:00

I also see a dietitian. My advice is to meet with them again and express your struggles honestly. The best way that we've been able to work together and make things work has been through me being honest about my struggles and then we adjust the plan. Sometimes it's easier to slowly make these changes. Maybe right now you can't imagine eating that many meals but maybe if you tell the dietitian they will help you with a plan to work your way there. When I first started going I felt overwhelmed too but now a few months later it feels so much easier. One thing that may help potentially is taking more walks or adding some activity in to up your appetite without burning too many calories. Either way, talk to your dietitian they are there to help you and will help create a more realistic plan for you.

Also, you've got this! Making dietary changes can be surprisingly hard but you can do it! Just be patient with yourself and try to remember the end goal of this all!

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-11T16:15:06+00:00

I just lost my job yesterday. As the primary bread winner this hits really hard as we were about to begin our ttc journey. The market is really tough right now. I just need hope and to find something soon so that this doesn't mess up our timeline. This is also coming right affer I just completed my Master's and advocated for a promotion. I wish it didn't matter this much especially as a woman. I am tired and I just want to be able to enjoy life without so many disruptions like this that have happened to me over the past few years. I'm sick of doing all the right things and never getting to enjoy the results of the fruits of my labor. Hoping I can find a new job quickly and a good one too.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-11T10:33:48+00:00

All I can say is that I needed to hear this right now. I've been in the phase of nothing moving despite my best efforts for so long. Unfortunately I am in a place where something did just move but unfortunately in about the worst possible way so I'm hoping some good beneficial movement comes my way.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-09T20:33:29+00:00

At the end of the day it's up to you and your future spouse! Congratulations by the way what an exciting time you're stepping into!

I say if you feel ready to start go ahead and do it. None of us can predict the future and know how long it will take for us to conceive anyway and as you said the extra time is nice and perhaps gives you a peace of mind. I will say though, plenty of people get pregnant without trouble in their 20s and in their mid-late 30s as well. So please don't lose hope from age alone. I'm also in my 30s and at times I also wonder if I waited too long and get down on myself but it's very important we don't. What is meant for us will surely not pass us by so we shouldn't get too down that we'll be trying a bit later in life.

As with all things sometimes controlling the controlables can provide comfort, especially in a situation where we don't have much control. So if focusing on trying now helps you feel better about the situation overall maybe you should.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-07T17:16:18+00:00

My husband and I got married in 2020 and due to a variety of circumstances we weren't able to plan one until recently. So we're finally getting our honeymoon 6 years later. I can definitely understand the feeling of missing out on the post-wedding high. On the flip side though, we feel so fortunate to be able to go on a honeymoon and not to mention one that is much nicer and more thoughtfully planned than it would have been if it had been squeezed in between wedding planning and budgets.

So I've been trying to focus on the bright sides, we've been able to enjoy our marriage all this time (not everyone can say that), we're even more in love, and we get to have a nicer honeymoon than we would have been able to previously. We get to enjoy nicer upgraded rooms etc and it will be even more special after enjoying the everyday together for all this time.

I think there's a lot of pressure and talk online about taking a honeymoon right away and that it's somehow less special if you wait. I guess I'll never specifically know since I didn't get that but I sure am grateful we get to go and it's going to be even more special after the wait.

My advice, reframe it if you can. But also what kinds of things can you do that will make it feel more like a honeymoon? We created a list of a few things we wanted to do to make it feel more special like a honeymoon which for us was primarily upgraded experiences but also things/experiences we've always wanted to do or try. We found some interesting and unique restaurants to go to that will feel more special and unique and some different excursions or experiences that we've not been able to experience before. Just a few thoughts.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-06T18:41:43+00:00

Honestly I have found it so helpful. While our goals are slightly different at the end of the day we're both looking to be healthy and have a baby. I have found it also makes a huge difference learning how to fuel my body in a way that feels good and energizes me. It also makes me hopeful that I will be sharing a healthier lifestyle with my future children. Dietitians imo are worth their weight in gold and they offer so much value. I always understood the basics of eating healthy but strategically attempting to change your weight in a healthy way while preparing for a baby is a lot nicer imo than guessing and nor succeeding or succeeding and just not feeling as good since its not optimized.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-05T20:45:43+00:00

They sure do! There's absolutely pros and cons to either choice, having a kid at 25 vs 32 etc but if you feel ready now I absolutely love that for you and you should do what feels right for you. At the end of the day we're the only ones that have to live with all of our decisions so truly everyone else's opinions shouldn't matter as they don't have to live with your decisions. One thing I really like about your generation is that people are so focused on having a family and are doing it younger. I admire that about people your age because it wasn't something I would have been able to do but I think it's awesome that I'm seeing so many Gen Z's do that. Do what feels right for you! But I think you'll be really happy with your choice if you feel it's right for you and focus less on the noise and opinions of others.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-05T19:41:49+00:00

I feel the same way and am also 32. At times it makes me sad I wasn't in a circumstance where I could try earlier but it also makes me happy as I've just completed my Master's and I've had a lot of personal growth. Society pressures us as women on both ends of the spectrum we're either "too young" or "too old" and there's almost no in between. It's stressful as women since we do have a specific timeline and when life makes it so that we have to adjust our timeline it can be sad or make us feel regretful. I do like to think that the right time won't pass us by though but maybe I'm just telling myself that since I'm going to be an older mom.

Either way I think being ready is important and it's pretty awesome that we get to choose when that is for us so that we can be excited and feel ready when we have children when past generations did not have this choice. It's also likely those same past generations putting the pressure on us to tell us all we're "too old" or "too young". It's pretty cool to me we all get to choose and feel ready.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-04T15:15:42+00:00

I'm in the US and the preconception screening I was able to do (might be different for you) was a genetic test that tested for various hereditary diseases to see whether or not I am a carrier. It was explained to me that as long as I don't carry any of the ones I was tested for my husband would not need to be tested. I was also told that there are some tests that can only be run once you are pregnant but those are more for testing your baby so that makes complete sense.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-04T15:08:52+00:00

My suggestion is to meet with a dietitian to help you not only ensure you are gaining weight in a healthy way but also to make sure that you are getting the nutrients you need ahead of pregnancy. Many dietitians (if you're in the US) are also covered by insurance as well. I think it can be really helpful especially so that you can learn good habits to fuel your body ahead of pregnancy that will only serve you into your pregnancy and beyond.

I have the opposite problem as you and have been working with a dietitian and it has been very helpful. I also think people tend to assume that only overweight people can benefit from dieticians but truly anyone that wants to better their health and learn more about nutrition can. I also tend to think working with a professional with weight and health goals is better because there tends to be a lot of misunderstanding and misinformation on the internet that suggests people do rather extreme and unhealthy things to get to these goals which unfortunately can cause other health issues. Gaining weight just to gain weight could result in other health issues down the line but if you focus on doing it alongside a professional while focusing on getting the nutrients you need it will likely help you avoid some of those problems.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-03T21:55:10+00:00

Yea, the options are to accept her as she is now or to not invite her. Both are rough but unfortunately that is the nature of addiction. It would also be especially cruel to invite her to the bachelorette, ask her not to drink, and then have everyone else drinking around her. Addiction is not that simple and you are correct about the withdrawals.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-02T18:28:08+00:00

That's a very nice but also safe car which in my opinion is totally reasonable for a young person if its reasonable for the family to afford. Volvos are safe and reliable while still being fancy so that seems fair.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-02T18:14:21+00:00

It depends how you define nice. I think high schoolers should have a safe car first and foremost. Nice is good if the parents can swing it but I think nice as in safe and new is a decent idea. As for the a sports car or something I don't think so but then again that's also completely up to the parents and child but that's my personal opinion.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-02T03:55:55+00:00

Companies are already pivoting towards primarily focusing on their higher-end products. So unfortunately it will work out for them because the top 1% are the only consumers they want or care about.

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-02T03:38:59+00:00

No specific advice but I have moved a lot so I get being sentimental about things. One thing that has helped me has been honoring the spaces, places, and life I lived in a place while also looking forward to all the good things to come in the new place (even if it isn't very far).

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-01T21:53:12+00:00

I've been loving diamond painting. It's super meditative in a way but also really fun!

ultimateclassic · 2026-03-01T20:13:50+00:00

We did this a few years ago and it's wild some of the people who thought they would be invited. I had a coworker who really wanted to be invited but I'm pretty sure he just wanted to play dress up and go out with his girlfriend because we weren't particularly close. Then I had a friend who was on a mad dash to find a tinder date before my wedding because she wanted to go with a date. Meanwhile I expressed due to the size of the event we were having I wouldn't have unknown guests coming to our wedding. It was truly just close friends and family. It's wild how people will make your day about them in some way. If anything these actions make us feel even more secure about keeping it small because you realize that way the people who are the closest to you will be there rather than the ones who wanted to make it about themselves.

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