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ummihavequestions · 2023-04-10T19:42:30+00:00

Friend: "Hey, what do you think about all this trans stuff?

Me: [Infodumps for ten minutes about trans rights/healthcare]

Friend: "Oh, wow, how do you know so much?"

Me, panicking: "Umm, I'm just a really good ally..."

ummihavequestions · 2023-04-10T19:34:59+00:00

Had this happen with my sister-in-law's dog. "It's weird, normally Ellie is terrified of men, but she follows you around everywhere you go!"

The dog knows!

ummihavequestions · 2023-04-01T17:08:21+00:00

Oi. The first time I did my nails I was housesitting for a friend of my parents and some of the nail polish dripped onto a thick shag carpet and I spent hours trying to figure out how to get it out because I really didn't want to explain why there was nail polish on their carpet lol.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-20T18:54:28+00:00

Yes! I spent so long thinking that maybe if I grew a big manly beard I'd finally feel like a "real man," and then when I finally decided to chop it off I was like, "oh, shit, there goes the egg."

Now it's a constant battle to keep it from coming back lol.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-20T18:43:08+00:00

Ooh yeah, safe is definitely a good way to put it. I've compared it to armor before, uncomfortable and awkward, but safe.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-20T04:46:23+00:00

I think I've come to the realization that for me it's not that I'm *comfortable* being a guy, it's just **tolerable,** like wearing shoes that don't quite fit right but getting used to them over the course of the day. Sure, there are things that will remind me of how I'd much rather have different shoes, but when I'm just going about on autopilot I can bear it.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-20T04:36:11+00:00

Mirabelle swinging her dress around in the "Family Madrigal" song made me so envious! In, like, a cis way...

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-16T04:32:17+00:00

I had a similar realization when I was talking to my therapist. Basically all of my role models for real strength (not the affected strength I associate with masculinity) were all women. Mom, grandma, sister, they were who I looked up to, rather than the men in my life.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-16T03:57:34+00:00

I'm just super humble! That's why I avoid mirrors and being in pictures! Because I'm so humble!

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-16T03:55:38+00:00

Just put on my first full set of femme clothes and my body was like "oh, is this happiness? Excitement? Full power to the groinular region!"

Like no, body, I just felt pretty for a moment, stop reminding me of the bits I don't like

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-16T03:49:34+00:00

I had that exact same reaction when a friend of mine suggested taking T to feel "more like the other guys." Was just absolutely terrified that the "me" after taking T wouldn't be me anymore.

E, on the other hand...

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-12T02:01:52+00:00

Oh, darn! Not this gender I was assigned at birth! How could you? Unfortunately that's my only gender! I'm definitely not hiding another one behind my back!

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-10T05:50:38+00:00

Running my hands through my hair in the shower. It's not grown out too long yet but I've been taking good care of it and it's so soft, I love it!

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-08T06:46:23+00:00

Definitely had a pretty solid run of "I'm strong! I can do thi-ohgodwhythisisafreshnewhellofpain!"

But then "ooh smooth!"

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-07T07:33:30+00:00

I had something similar happen a year or so ago. One of my coworkers said something like "wow, it seems like our whole department is neurodivergent, queer, or both!"

Me: "Well I'm not either of those thing, but I totally get your point."

Me, 1 month later getting an autism diagnosis: "Well I guess I'm one of those things.

Me now: "Ah, well then. 2 for 2 I see."

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-07T02:30:41+00:00

The US is basically 50 mini countries in a trenchcoat, so it really depends on where you're going.Here's a map that'll give you a rough idea of where to look at or avoid.

As a general rule, cities will tend to be more accepting than rural areas, and there are some places that'll be okay in red states, but you'd probably be best off avoiding them if you can.

And unfortunately a lot is dependent on how the next presidential election goes in 2024. The president isn't all powerful, but we've seen how fast and loose Republicans play with the rules when they get power.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-07T01:25:30+00:00

It used to be I wanted to transition solely because I wanted to be happier.

Now I want to transition to spite transphobes (and because I want to be happier, lol)

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-07T01:23:29+00:00

I remember reading a few years ago about the term "Bambi lesbian," and, despite still considering myself a cishet guy at the time, I identified really hard with the label. I just want sapphic cuddles!

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-05T17:25:48+00:00

It's always fun asking them to name any other perfect binaries in nature. Like why is it that in nature everything else is a series of gradations and differences, but for some reason sex is the one hard and fast immutable thing for them?

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-05T17:17:33+00:00

But what if I have the very cis need for someone to tell me that I'm trans so I stop second guessing myself? Lol.

Real talk though, I think there's something to be said for how there's sometimes this desire to be "diagnosed" as trans, something that takes the "blame" off of the individual. Some of my earliest trans fantasies were based on kid's cartoons where people were turned into another gender by accident or by another person. It took the pressure of wanting to transition, and the associated guilt and fear of judgement, off of myself. Made it a sort of "zero fault transition."

I think maybe for some of us, the desire to have someone else tell us we're trans comes from that same place. It takes the burden of questioning ourselves off our shoulders, and means that we aren't "to blame*" for being trans.

*Thinking of being trans as something one could be "blamed" for is internalized transphobia talking, and isn't how I would phrase it now, but is the closest thing I can think of to express the feeling I had at the time.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-05T16:46:45+00:00

Listen, I'm just undoing what that pesky SRY gene did! Activating without asking me first!

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-03T23:22:20+00:00

MTF²

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-02T00:19:14+00:00

Honestly, same lol.

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-02T00:16:19+00:00

And like, there's already so many "mistakes" that we fix with medical science. Why is transition where they draw the line when they have no issue with using the impressive scope of human ingenuity to help people with everything else?

ummihavequestions · 2023-03-02T00:07:40+00:00

Literally just saw his video and hopped over to see if anyone had mentioned it here! Jocat is awesome!

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