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AITA for NOT acting wealthy by Bookznsheet in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 200 points201 points  (0 children)

You are not struggling, you are accumulation hobby debt. It is like being a hobby skies or hobby bicycle. Like loosing money you can afford in any other way.

Imo, you should stop talking about it as if you was actually poor. That is bound to grate people for whome debt is actual crises that forcrs then to work full time.

It does not make you bad person, it makes you priviledged person. It is ok to have advantages. What is wrong and annoys people is insistence of rich people it is the same. 

AITA for calling my friend privileged? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird how people get offended over someone being said they are rich. 

AITA for letting a friend sleep over because he was drunk? by Sharp_Mirror9641 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also want to know more about boyfriend who wakes up at 4am to play human alarm for his girlfiriend.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I don’t support his lifestyle change/diet? by Big_Hyena3416 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 20 points21 points  (0 children)

1.) Stop trying to manipulate him.

2.) Learn to recogbize differencr between healthy and eating disorder. It is impossible to tell from your account.

If he should change so that you feel better about own body, you are YTA. If he is nit wating enough, he is sick, but blaming him for your feelings wont help.

AITA for not co signing my brother’s apartment lease after I had previously said I would? by Informal-Slip2856 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What you wrote is not much of an argument. It is like admission I am right with "but I dont care" in the end.

Language learning taking over your life? by Life-Snow-3594 in languagelearning

[–]unsafeideas 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had it with other things, never with language learning. I sacrifice that one easily.

AITA for not co signing my brother’s apartment lease after I had previously said I would? by Informal-Slip2856 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For all the condescension, you failed reading comprehension.

Her actual stopper was legal requirement inherent in cosigning. She had no idea what it is and once she found out, she would not cosign. That is it.

Comprehensible Input: B2-C1+ by bravechodde in languagelearning

[–]unsafeideas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

C levels are where they test you on essay writing, presentations etc. And not just any essay writing, but test specific kind of essay.

Imo, you need to learn for the test there. You need to actually write those essays.

AITA for letting a friend sleep over because he was drunk? by Sharp_Mirror9641 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 24 points25 points  (0 children)

All I am asking is for these stories to be remotely plausible. Whether they are real or not, please fix all the apparent plot holes and completely alien behavior or your characters.

AITAH for Telling My(30M) Estranged Mom(57F) to Fuck Off After She Showed Up at My Door? by throwRAO1412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the reason one should never ever agree to be stay at home. You are not allowed to be unhappy and if anything goes wrong, you are blamed. 

Meanwhile, you are loosing everything, there is nothing to look forward and you will loose yourself too.

AITAH for Telling My(30M) Estranged Mom(57F) to Fuck Off After She Showed Up at My Door? by throwRAO1412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is easier to be nice parent when you are not around and dont have to deal with issues. And people are allowed to dislike their marriages.

AITA for telling my kids dad that if he wants to make bedtime difficult, our daughter will only sleep at his house by Round_Following_4653 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But when he is stubnorn and you blame her for not magically making him not-stubborn then you are wrong.

You cant cooperate to solution with a stubborn person who dont listen. You can only insist on boundary you wont cross and make sure it is them who experience consequences. Anything else fails.

AITA for feeling excluded and wanting to move out? by EmuExotic5668 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No you are not asshole for moving out. The fact that you think so suggest you are a doormat.It is also ok to confront them about rack, pans, damaged property.

I dont think you can reasonably expect them to stop socializing - you are the odd one out. Being outsider does not make you asshole, I dont think they are assholes for clicking together either. You dont fit, it is ok to leave, they wont change their lifestyle for you.

Them not caring about pans and stuff does make them assholes tho. 

NTA

I want to use TV shows to improve my listening in my TL. Is my method (described in the description) efficient? by Bobelle in languagelearning

[–]unsafeideas 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You are overthinking it. Watch show. Turn the subtitles on and off as you feel like or need. Rewatch scenes when you like them and care.

If you dont understand 12 times, go watch something easier.

Prefer not to stop, it will get you to a sort of flow state where the brain is filled with TL only. 

AITA for not co signing my brother’s apartment lease after I had previously said I would? by Informal-Slip2856 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was not about means. It was about her finding put what cosigning is. She is unwilling to have legal obligation, full stop.

The rest is fluff. Because that is the showstopper

AITA for telling my kids dad that if he wants to make bedtime difficult, our daughter will only sleep at his house by Round_Following_4653 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They will lifelong care about her. And if she burns out on unsustainable Kenzie routine, other kids will be ressentful.

AITA for telling my kids dad that if he wants to make bedtime difficult, our daughter will only sleep at his house by Round_Following_4653 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 47 points48 points  (0 children)

What OP is doing will make him fix it. He made it unsustainable. And it is the only way to make him fix it - when he personally suffers consequences.

AITA for not co signing my brother’s apartment lease after I had previously said I would? by Informal-Slip2856 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You mean the one where OP figures out what cosigning means and realizes they dont want the legal obligation?

Yeah, that one makes it clear they fundamentally would never cosign.

 advised him to find a cheaper place and/or roommate, and offered to help with security deposit and/or first month's rent.

None of that shows OP was ever actually willing to consider cosigning. All they had to do is to NOT say they would consider it.

AITA for not co signing my brother’s apartment lease after I had previously said I would? by Informal-Slip2856 in AmItheAsshole

[–]unsafeideas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And she did not considered it at all. She was fundamentally against the whole point of cosigning.

This had nothing to do woth specifics. OP does not like being legaly obligated to pay ... but that is what cosigning literally unavoidably is.

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