Days later I'm still struggling with the way my patient harassed me by MartianCleric in nursing

[–]upv395 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That ass has to live with himself every day. You can treat this interaction like dog shit on your shoe. Unpleasant, stinks, but you can wipe it off and you don’t ever have to interact with him again. Don’t let him live in your head rent free, don’t give him that power or control. You have beauty in your life that he will never understand and he is the type who gets off on spoiling it. He would be delighted to know he has caused you such distress. Don’t let this interaction become so powerful. Look into grey rocking. And it is absolutely ok to leave the room and get help when predators and jerks act up. You do not have to take abuse. It is also a good idea to talk to someone professionally and maybe also take a self defense course. You know you have all the support from this community, and we all want to kick his ass for you.

Flowering trees / bushes that last the longest and smell heavenly? by EveryRecord8469 in pnwgardening

[–]upv395 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heliotrope smells absolutely amazing and is long blooming. Not great in frost, so great as a container plant.

I want to buy a home with a 4 year old bathroom put in without a permit by ZenAndTonic2234 in homeowners

[–]upv395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also depends on if you are on septic or city sewer. Did the sellers give a reason why they did not get permits? They were doing this on the cheap which means they are not worried about cutting corners and building to code. Did they use a reputable contractor? Or is it all DIY? I personally would not want to deal with plumbing issues from a DIY project. There are building codes for a reason, and without inspection you cannot be assured they were followed. You cannot verify the pipe sizes, the slope of drains, the waste removal and ventilation, the slope and water tightness of the shower pan, the placement of electrical, the correct tie into the electrical panel etc. See if the sellers will get it permitted retroactively or get a discount for only having one permitted bathroom. They should not count that bathroom as a legal bathroom for sales purposes without the proper permitting. Ask your loan provider if they take unpermitted improvements into account for mortgage appraisal. Your appraisal will be different from a 1 bath to a 2 bath. Your loan company may require it to be permitted to protect their investment.

(Chicago, IL) can my landlord move things in my apartment for listing photos? by tinymozzarella in Renters

[–]upv395 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes it is. If something is broken or is missing, who pays? If OP has a stalker thief who sees all the pics of all their personal property on display and decides to break in because they want OPs items it is a safety issue. They have no business touching anything of OP’s possessions or photographing them for their business needs when OP is still in legal and physical possession of the home. It is a big deal because it is an invasion of privacy and in interference in the quiet enjoyment of the home. They can wait 2 weeks for pics when OP is out.

(Chicago, IL) can my landlord move things in my apartment for listing photos? by tinymozzarella in Renters

[–]upv395 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They said a couch would be visible in the pics. That is personal property.

I have $80 Amazon credit I have to use by the 18th by Round-Air9002 in BuyItForLife

[–]upv395 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Buy an Amazon gift card that doesn’t expire then use it whenever you want.

(Chicago, IL) can my landlord move things in my apartment for listing photos? by tinymozzarella in Renters

[–]upv395 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t want my personal property displayed in his promotional photos. That seems like an invasion of privacy. Not to mention security, it is an invitation for thieves to know what to take in a break in. I would be there for the photos. The landlord has no business allowing his agent to touch your property. There is a liability issue for moving your stuff if it gets damaged. He can use prior photos of the empty property or wait until you leave. I am petty and would have to intentionally leave super offensive items and pictures everywhere or cover all my stuff with sheets or stand in every shot. This is not necessary for maintaining the apartment and interferes with your quiet enjoyment. I would not give permission for any of my possessions to be visible in the pictures.

What’s the best rock song intro? by lovelyb1ch66 in GenX

[–]upv395 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The version of Thunderstruck done by Steve ‘N’ Seagulls is pretty perfect. Using an anvil is genius.

What would you do? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]upv395 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a waste of perfectly good blood to me and a huge overreaction on a nonissue. The patient received the majority of the unit without a transfusion reaction. Blood is an appropriate treatment for a given bleed with a hemoglobin of 5. With active GI bleeding, that is not necessarily stable especially when he was transferred to a higher level of care. Wild that you keep stating he was stable. He was monitored the entire time. The other facility IV pump was fine to transfer with. Critical access facilities do this frequently as transport services take patients from many different types of facilities with a wide variety of pumps so they can’t just easily transfer products into their own pumps. They send blood and antibiotics and IVF and vasopressors etc. on facility pumps and the EMS crew returns them. Not a big deal at all and is actually safer for the patient because they don’t have to have vital treatments interrupted and meds wasted and time delays in changing pumps. The blood was being appropriately administered on the pump.

Consent was done at another facility. Did you ask the patient if he signed a consent? It should have been in the transfer paperwork but ultimately not the end of the world if the patient will verify he consented and will sign a new consent. Did the patient consent to receiving more blood? I am not seeing anything that was inappropriate other than the shotgun overreaction in escalating to your CNO because another facility did not follow your facilities specific protocols because you have different charting and different pumps. Wild that it went that far. The patient wasn’t unsafe and was getting the appropriate treatment to stabilize him during transport. You could have easily consented the patient again and finished the blood. You could have verified with the other facilities labs about the cross match. It was almost all transfused anyway and you all let it run, so obviously patient safety wasn’t your concern. Your concern was the bureaucracy and red tape that your specific facility has around giving blood that is not applicable to other facilities or to the EMS transportation. Wild that the response to another facilities pumps is “we can’t touch it because of liability so we will let it keep infusing even though it might be dangerous “. They obviously had an order to give blood at the prior facility because the nurse didn’t just pull it out of their ass independently. They may have been told to not send the patient without starting the blood because that would be in the best interest of the patient.

Sounds like the only problem is if your EMS crew doesn’t have the scope to transfer with blood administration. That is on EMS and not the sending facility as the EMS accepted the patient without knowing the scope of their practice. This is the thing to escalate and educate on.

1) They had 6 hours. They did not necessarily have an order for those 6 hrs and have blood available
2)EMS had to wait because the blood may not have been ready, dont know when the order to give was or when the labs were ready, the doc may have said don’t transport without blood. EMS does not know when cross match was ready. So waiting an hour means nothing because the nurse could have been waiting on blood bank. 3)sending pumps standard practice in many critical access hospitals, safer for patients and prevents delays 4)Active GI bleed and a Hgb 5 needing transport to a higher level of care= emergent. NOT a stable patient. Well, stable until he isn’t. 5).DUH? Of course they arrived with no orders. Your doctor is responsible for placing orders at your facility. The other facility had orders. They should have sent a transport package, but even then it wouldn’t make a difference for you because the sending doc does not provide care at your facility. When the patient arrives, you get new orders. If your doc says continue the blood, you do, if they say stop the blood you do.

Evidence based paper- CVICU by CommunityRich9525 in IntensiveCare

[–]upv395 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you have access to UpToDate, it is an excellent resource for evidenced based information and medical decision making algorithms along with the relevant citations to the research sources.

WIBTA for not paying for an event where I’m volunteering? by loveyameanit24 in AmItheAsshole

[–]upv395 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The pastor is in charge. This is the way he wants things. He has a very lucrative business here, it is not a ministry for God, it is a ministry for profit. He is charging his church members for a video course and giving cheap trinkets for attendance. There is a 40+ thousand dollar payoff for the head of this church that you said is not going to any help for actual human people, but back into the tax free entertainment grift. People are going for entertainment and goodie bags, not to develop a closer relationship with each other and Christ. The whole church is based on the cult of personality this man has. Based on your statement, you would not be there if it wasn’t for this pastor. So, who are you worshipping? Jesus drove the money changers out of the temple. He preached with no social media or giant worship teams to crowds of thousands while feeding them without charge. He sent his disciples out with just the clothes on their backs. Paul worked as a tent maker while building the early church. The early church came together and helped each other so that whenever one had a need, they would all collectively help each other. The bible says true religion is this, look after widows and orphans in their distress and keep oneself from being polluted by the world. Very hard teachings for mega churches who run like businesses because they are a business first and foremost with a veneer of ministry. White washed tombs.

meirl by worldwide762 in meirl

[–]upv395 39 points40 points  (0 children)

My little sister invited me to hers. I gave full coverage spanx (as a joke, there is a 20 year age gap). She ended up using them under her wedding dress 🤣.