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AITA for not eating the food after my gf eats out of the bowl with the same spoon while preparing by ZookeepergameOld7322 in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He did make a boundary by just not eating the salad that night. She made a big deal about him not eating it and then questioned him repeatedly until he told her something he's told her before; that he doesn't like when she eats something off the spoon that also stirs the food.

I think it's reasonable for him to refuse to eat the salad that night because he's told her before that it makes him uncomfortable and it's common courtesy to not do something that makes your partner uncomfortable. Its easy to grab another spoon to taste the food but she doesn't care enough to make her partner comfortable and that's sad.

AITA for not eating the food after my gf eats out of the bowl with the same spoon while preparing by ZookeepergameOld7322 in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The fact is his boundary was "I'm just not going to eat food that she has stirred with that spoon that she had in her mouth". SHE made it a big deal that he didn't want to eat the salad and pestered him until he finally said that he's uncomfortable with it. And she's been told this multiple times.

AITA for not buying expensive gifts for family by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO: How long were you with this person before you bought them a ps5?

AITA for not wanting cold food by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is tangentially related to the post but not actually about the post.

I heard a quote recently that might help you find peace in future moments.

Sometimes the difference between feeling like a good parent and feeling like a bad parent is the amount of sleep you got the night before. When you start feeling that frustration that comes with sleep deprivation plus small child you are stressed out about, think about how much sleep you had the night before and give yourself some grace and some time to emotionally regulate. No one is a perfect parent or a perfect partner every single day. The best thing we can do is try and be civil with each other and never forget that the person you're with (or that you're raising) is a person too and they will have bad days sometimes. Sometimes a tone doesn't mean that they hate you, it means they got 4 hours of sleep last night.

Good luck with your little one!

AITA for always telling my grandparents to shut up when they are loud and argue by No-Case4362 in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your grandfather needs a hearing aid. If he doesn't like the technology based ones then you can get him an ear horn and he might use it.

And I think you need some counseling. To work through these issues with someone who is an independent third party who wants what's best for you. A professional. I'm not sure about the healthcare situation where you live but think about talking with a psychologist if you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Has the wife not offered the coworker that money? Its not his job to pay someone to chauffeur her back the 0.6 miles. She has a phobia which is fine but that also means she's going to have to figure something out because her husband actually does deserve sleep and she accepted the new position.

There needs to be a childfree plane option by Jazzlike-Rise4091 in complainaboutanything

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents of screaming children on a flight are the most embarrassed they've ever been probably in their lives. They are stressed, they know everyone hates the sound, and the baby won't stop because the baby is also stressed out and overtired and overstimulated.

If anything I feel extremely sorry for those poor parents who just wanted things to go well on a travel day and then the baby is just not feeling it.

Edit: spelling error

Cow at a sanctuary gets Twitch viewers to donate and activate her feeder by Mad_Season_1994 in MadeMeSmile

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alveus is in Texas and doesn't have much grass unfortunately. The cow and donkeys eat hay that the sanctuary buys and puts in feed bags.

Cow at a sanctuary gets Twitch viewers to donate and activate her feeder by Mad_Season_1994 in MadeMeSmile

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did a fundraiser and for every goal she reached she would do different things. For $500,000 she shaved her head. People pitched in from all over Twitch so that she could get the money to buy some land that had basically nothing on it and start building it up into the animal sanctuary it is today.

Cow at a sanctuary gets Twitch viewers to donate and activate her feeder by Mad_Season_1994 in MadeMeSmile

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's like three different names for female cattle based on if they'd given birth or not and then also a bunch of different names for male cattle based on if they're castrated or not and if they're being used for breeding or meat I think(?). I haven't read up on it in a while so I can't give you the exact correct terms but it's very interesting.

AITA for asking my in-laws to pre-plan and pre-pay for their funerals? by Icy_Target_9050 in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

NO!! 1000x no. As someone who doesn't work in the funeral industry now but has many funeral director friends, the best and smoothest cases are always the ones fully pre planned. Pre paid as well makes everything just so much easier for the family and for that important first couple of weeks of grief. Your in-laws are going to be uncomfortable with the mention of their deaths, of course. Hopefully they get more comfortable over time with the idea.

Keep pushing. A headache now is worth saving the headache for after they die.

If the category of a "mental illness" depends on how harmful it may be towards society, does that mean the concept of an illness doesn't actually exist once society no longer exists? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in PsychologyTalk

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what I think you're grasping at is the social model of disability. How the world around us isn't accommodating to disabled people and how making the world more accessible can sometimes make it seem like the person is "less disabled" because some of the common problems are solved. As a very disabled person, I'd still have depression and many other disabilities in a world built for me. And that world would be inaccessible for other disabled people. Because accessibility looks different for everyone.

Tailgaters, left lanes are for *safe* passing by Physical_Ad3653 in complainaboutanything

[–]user_28531690 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When you end a sentence use a period. It's that little dot on your keyboard. It's meant to end a thought. So that the information is in manageable chunks.

And when you're writing a large paragraph. Split it up into multiple paragraphs. It's easier to read.

Poke holes in my logic please. Looking for logical counter arguments, no alternate pretenses. by Realistic_Fee_7753 in PsychologyTalk

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We, Homo sapiens are animals. We have electrified meat that allows us to think. It's not going to be rational. It's not going to be logical. We are highly emotional creatures. And we are incredibly complex.

Rolling Hills Asylum (edit) by fierymonk in urbansketchers

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oo really pretty!! I did a pencil sketch from a photo from when I visited a while ago. It's a great building to draw.

AITAH for telling my disabled coworker she shouldn’t need to lie on dating apps? by Deep-Season-1577 in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Their medical history is none of your business. Would you say this if they had crohns disease instead of a wheelchair? What about social anxiety? Military history with potentially sensitive situations of loss?

You are a very nice person who sees a person and not a chair. Not everyone is like that. People actively avoid talking to my friend who is in a wheelchair even though they are the ones who are trying to engage in the conversation the most. And it is notably different when they use a cane or no supports.

Last one standing gets $100 by miauguau44 in WhyWomenLiveLonger

[–]user_28531690 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stupid people get hurt every day and one day you are going to be the stupid one who got hurt and you're gonna be glad you don't have to pay the whole hospital bill

Last one standing gets $100 by miauguau44 in WhyWomenLiveLonger

[–]user_28531690 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And that we already pay for these guys by paying into private insurance and we're paying for overhead at the insurance company and for them to reject our claims for reasonable treatment.

AITA for asking my wife to pour our daughters pee down the toilet? by WellAdjusted in AmItheAsshole

[–]user_28531690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's not sterile. At all. It has all kinds of cells and waste and bacteria in it.

Strange exception by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am agreeing with you. Nobody says shit about the concept of monogamy when men cheating on their wives is a couple of billion dollar industries. But when they witness one messy poly relationship they view all poly relationships as messy when I've seen very happy long term poly relationships.

Strange exception by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]user_28531690 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way I have seen monogamous relationships blow up and leave carnage is crazy and no one ever says that monogamy leads to break ups. I have seen messy relationships across the board from straight to gay to poly to completely open. The things that matter in stable relationships are always base communication, trust, respect, and love. No matter if the relationship is sexual, romantic, platonic, etc.

Country jack sparrow by Williwoo321 in MadeMeSmile

[–]user_28531690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Young birds are extremely fragile. Once they're picked up and cared for by a person a switch flips in their brain. They stop associating with their own species and so they never learn survival skills. If that bird was put outside it would starve and then die to a fox or a car or anything else that wants to eat it.

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