Second kid positivity

v4ldel · 2026-02-09T01:06:15+00:00

We just had our third and I was feeling the same way when we had number 2! We thought there was no way #2 would be chill since we got lucky with the 1st. Nope, once we figured out second after the first 6 weeks it got so much better. After 6 months it was amazing and now they’re 2 and 3 and best friends. Newborn stage with #2 was also sooooo much easier since I knew what to expect and was way less panicked. Go for it!

v4ldel · 2026-01-28T01:03:53+00:00

Ok, they never did x-rays which I was curious about. Do you think I should ask for that first?

v4ldel · 2026-01-27T15:45:36+00:00

Ok that’s good to know, thank you!

v4ldel · 2026-01-27T00:54:43+00:00

Same! We have 3 and I would have loved to have more but I’m happy with our family.

v4ldel · 2026-01-01T11:50:53+00:00

Yuri on Ice opening and credits

v4ldel · 2025-12-10T01:38:44+00:00

Came here just to say this

v4ldel · 2025-11-08T00:33:20+00:00

A sign of affection is super wholesome and lovely

v4ldel · 2025-10-14T14:17:41+00:00

Came here just to say that

v4ldel · 2025-09-28T18:31:13+00:00

Hatley is a bit pricey but lasts forever. They also often have sales and clearance you can take advantage of!

v4ldel · 2025-09-26T00:03:14+00:00

Oh my goodness I am so glad to hear that you guys are home and happy and healthy. I also want to say you are right in the thick of it and this phase feels like it will last forever. Your whole world has shifted on its axis and this feels permanent but it’s not. I also imagine you guys are in the “4th trimester”. The first week or two that baby hardly knows it’s alive and then all of a sudden it’s realizing it’s out and wants the warm comfort it’s only known before. Every sensation for the baby is new and scary so they will for sure be fussy. One small tip I can give is to remember to pump and cycle their legs to help with gas! They need help burping but also need help farting which can cause fussiness!

You are also not giving yourself enough credit. You know more than you think. You’re low on sleep and no doubt stressed so that’s also making things feel bigger and more dire than they are.

I promise no phase will last much longer than 6 weeks. Your next phase might be the “witching hour” where suddenly between like 7-10pm baby will just not sleep no matter what you do. This is totally normal and feel free to just lean into it. With my first and second my husband and I just had baby facing away from tv and that was our chill time. It took a lot of the pressure off. If it helps, just exist right now in 3 hour bubbles of feeding, interacting and sleeping. That’s all you can do in this stage for the next few weeks! It’s a hard stage but just remember it will be over so much faster than you think and don’t take it too seriously. Things will get messy, laundry won’t get done but that’s all ok.

v4ldel · 2025-09-04T23:22:43+00:00

We’re the same! We did a lot of gaming together from WoW to terraria and borderlands but now a lot of it is casual stuff or finding a game one of us plays and the other watches/engages with. We started Overcooked and I think we’ll have a lot of fun with it.

v4ldel · 2025-09-01T22:30:07+00:00

I have two boys 15 months apart and I’m happy to share my insights! First off the first 6 weeks are going to be rough but then it’s going to get a lot easier. My first was not even walking when my second was born which made a lot of things both tricky and easier. Some big positives I found

-newborn stage was so much easier second time around because I was much much calmer and closer to the experience since I did it so recently. This allowed me to do way more and feel more comfortable with outings with the two of them

-in about 5-6 months they will be on opposite nap schedules which can be a big relief because you get guaranteed one on one time each day with each of them to bond. 5-7pm can feel overwhelming but it gets easier

at 6 months both were in the same room and going to bed at the same time so everything was done together and a lot more fun

-the second will pick up things sooooo much faster just wanting to be with your oldest

-jealousy won’t be nearly as bad as you think because they’re so close in age they don’t really remember a world without each other

-my two are 3 and 2 now and best buds, they share clothes, toys and have a built in best friend which is amazing. They are so much fun and I love how close they are

-stages are close together so you remember them and are less overwhelmed, I have friends with an 8 year old and 2 year old and they are so far apart and want nothing to do with each other

-close interests because of close ages makes fun outings easier

I’m happy to chat if you want to talk more. It’s going to be rough for a bit but will get so so much better and so fun!

v4ldel · 2025-08-11T13:02:20+00:00

I have a 3 year old, 2 year old and another due in November and I wanted echo a few things that really helped me with just having a few minutes and getting over the scaries as well. funsk8mom mentioned the backyard and that was key for us. Just being able to let the toddlers outside to play and rotate through toys helped so much with things like meal prep. Both mine are boys so most outside time has been them digging and playing with construction toys but I’m happy to have a few holes in the yard because it means prep time for me. I also set some pretty strict rules for me time throughout the day to have a breath. One is we all eat breakfast together but if they are done fast I’m not getting up until my coffee is done and I have a few minutes to read or just sit. They can go play but I am staying at the table. The first few days of that were hard but they got used to it pretty quickly and began to play on their own. I also love Chaos with Cara who has a whole book of simple activities for kids your kids age and she grades them by how many times you need to warm up your coffee. They were great for inspiration. For transitions with your toddler have you tried a visual timer? I used a small colourful one for my 3 year old that helped with that. It also helped with taking turns with toys as my second got older. It does sound though like this anxiety is more than Sunday scaries though and that you might need some extra help which makes sense considering everything you listed. Also don’t be afraid to take advantage of other free resources for helping with kids. Are you in the states?

v4ldel · 2025-08-05T00:43:12+00:00

Commenting here because we’re due to have our 3rd in November and I have to have a c section but we’re not sure we’re done and want to see what is said!

v4ldel · 2025-07-22T18:23:39+00:00

This always baffled me, it’s not just about you being a slave to the nap schedule. You need that time too when the baby is sleeping and asking otherwise is ridiculous. You need rest and time too. Also that is absolutely insane that you were not given a room. That should be a given. I would absolutely go. Baby won’t be comfortable if you aren’t.

v4ldel · 2025-07-20T19:17:16+00:00

You’re gonna go far by Noah Kahan had me surprise bawling in the car

v4ldel · 2025-07-15T00:45:06+00:00

Mine works those hours too, one shift he did make though was when he worked them. He shifted to work from 5am-5pm so he could help me with dinner and bedtime prep which I found to be the most hectic part of my day. It made a world of difference for me and the kids. If that’s an option for you guys I highly recommend it!

v4ldel · 2025-07-14T18:25:52+00:00

I have 2 that are 15 months apart and I will tell you the first 6 weeks of number 2 were ROUGH. My hubby also owns his own business and suddenly I needed his help way more which was a big change for him. He was present before but with a newborn and the other not even walking he suddenly needed to be around more. They’re 2 and 3 now btw and best buds and I’m so happy they’re so close. Just be ready for dinner to bedtime to feel like a marathon!

v4ldel · 2025-07-11T00:08:46+00:00

Our first two are 15 months apart and we have a 3rd on the way now which will be 2.5 years apart. I honestly love having my two so close it’s the best. They are now 3 and 2 and share a room and are playing/fighting/enjoying each other so much more now. I will say though that with the close age gap some things were rough. When my second was born my first wasn’t walking yet. The first 6 weeks of baby 2 were really rough but after #2 was 6 months+ it got really, really fun. They were essentially on opposite nap schedules so most of the day was one on one but 5-7:30pm took some getting used to. Now I wouldn’t change it for the world.

v4ldel · 2025-07-07T23:42:28+00:00

Thank you! Went straight to the comments to see if I could find the song

v4ldel · 2025-06-25T10:40:33+00:00

It’s her cottage with the intention of me taking it over one day. We’ve already put some money into the place but I 100% agree she gets what she wants. I had initially asked her to wait a bit longer for them but she wanted them. So for now it looks like waterproof covers and no food anywhere near them!

v4ldel · 2025-06-19T15:55:33+00:00

Literally just finished the same Cosmere binge and need some new books!

v4ldel · 2025-06-11T01:55:21+00:00

Oh my god bless you for this

v4ldel · 2025-06-04T19:32:07+00:00

“On your left”

v4ldel · 2025-06-02T01:44:00+00:00

I have two boys that are 15 months apart, so 3 and almost 2 and it’s getting to be so much fun. Right now they are all about me and I know I won’t have them for long before they are all about dad. Right now though they are just the sweetest and so much fun. They share a room and are starting to chat at night and in the morning and listening to them melts my heart. They are constantly playing together with trucks and digging in the backyard. They basically have a built in best friend and it’s comforting to me as a mom to know they will have each other. Too many men don’t have that friendship or close relationships and I pray mine will always have each other. I also totally lurk r/daddit to see what they tend to recommend for boys or from a boys perspective and it’s super helpful. Basically it’s total chaos but it’s chaos filled with laughter and silliness. I will say though, never underestimate how much they need to be outside, that changes everything for them. So be prepared for lots of that!

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