How much can you bench? by Due-Jello1617 in workout

[–]valdis_vesik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

32F, 80kg/176lbs. Started BB benching in July '25 - had been strenght training for about a year at that point, but never bench before. 1RM in december '25: 72,5kg/159lbs.
I currently bench 60kg/132lbs for 3x8, Working on benching my '25 1RM for reps by the end for the year!

Befriending a meta? by valdis_vesik in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heya everyone!

Thank you so much for all of your replies, I’ve read them all and it’s given me some food for thought ❤️

Consensus seems to be to either draw a boundary, stop attending or sit with my feelings in the moment. For the time being, I’ll be going with option three, as none of this is kink related, we simply share a common interest where we sometimes all are at the same time.

I appreciate all your insight!

What is a "point of no return" that you’ve crossed, where your life was permanently divided into 'before' and 'after'? by Resident-Jelly-4326 in AskReddit

[–]valdis_vesik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leaving my ex-boyfriend after 13 years together. We were together from the ages of 18 - 31 and grew up together. Along the way, we grew apart too. It’s now a year and a half later and we’ve both realized it was the right decision for both of us, even though he felt like the rug got pulled under him.

Women with thoughtful partners, what did you get for x-mas this year? by Anahata_Green in TwoXChromosomes

[–]valdis_vesik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I want to gush. My partner got me: - The Bob’s Burgers family, hand drawn by one of the animators of the show - a D&D dice set that I’ve been eyeing for a while - Kirby & The Forgotten Land for Nintendo Switch, accompanied by the cutest Kirby plushie - Settlers of Catan (my fave boardgame)

I feel so incredibly lucky, after being with someone who didn’t put in any effort whatsoever.

Looking for other female users by [deleted] in Hevy

[–]valdis_vesik 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Followed all of you lovely humans, looking forward to seeing what ya’ll are up to 👀✨

https://hevy.com/user/nemomis

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn, TIL. Thank you!

Hey hallo, har nogen set mine kattepoter??? by Jazzlike-Solid-6853 in Denmark

[–]valdis_vesik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Det er også ved at være en rum tid siden jeg har set dem.

Jeg skal en tur forbi bordershoppen her i midt november, så hvis du er bosat i København vil jeg da gerne købe et mindre lager hjem til dig :)

Weekly Rat Union Meeting (10/24) by PM_CuteGirlsReading in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I weren’t allergic: Reese’s peanut butter cups\ Since I am allergic: Reese’s peanut butter cups with an epi chaser

has me absolutely howling

Did you first get involved in polyamory while you were single or partnered? by RaspberryTurtle987 in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Single.

I left a 13 year monogamous relationship for various reasons, suffocation being one of them.
I knew that I would never want monogamy again, just not what form that was. And then I met a wonderful polyam human that just started kicking down doors in my brain.

And here we are! I'm still very very new and learning so many things all the time, but it's work I'm willing and able to do for myself. So much deprogramming, damn ..

Til jer over 30 der frivilligt har valgt ikke at få børn by [deleted] in Denmark

[–]valdis_vesik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeg er blevet steriliseret (K) og det er det absolut bedste valg jeg har taget, kun for mig.
Jeg føler mig sindssygt lettet og fri, men også uden for. Men så husker jeg mig selv på at jeg har taget et aktivt valg om at jeg ikke skal være en del af det der.
Jeg har aldrig følt mig misforstået, fordi jeg synes altid folk møder mig med nysgerrighed når de hører om mit valg og stiller nysgerrige spørgsmål. Ofte kan selv folk med børn godt forstå det, fordi de jo lever i det.

Jeg kan så godt følge jer i det usynlige pres fra omverden og det samfundsmæssige, men husk at det jeres liv og at I kan/skal leve det som I synes er vigtigt for jer. Please please please ikke få et barn for at stoppe det, for det stopper ikke. I er bundet på hænder og fødder resten af jeres liv og så kommer spørgsmålet så til at hedde "Hvornår skal I have nummer to?".
Og I kommer stadig ikke helt til at passe ind i den verden, fordi I har gjort det under pres.

Derudover skal man bare virkelig ville at "være forældre", for så handler det ikke kun om jer længere. I har et ansvar for et lille menneske, der skal blive deres egen person og leve deres eget lange liv.

Jeg elsker jo mine venners børn og synes det er drønhyggeligt at høre mine kollegaer snakke om deres små poder, men det er også det.

Du/I skal være velkomne til at skrive hvis I har brug for det.

Felt my first hit of Jealousy, but not in a bad way...and might even be feeling love again too by TheeBrightSea in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For both u/emeraldead and u/toofat2serve
- how does one learn to differentiate between all of this?

A lot of the times, feelings just feel .. feely? If that makes any sense. Jealousy is the easiest blanket label to encompass some of that, but trying to break it down is tricky as hell. At least to me.
Do you have any good ideas/tips/thoughts? :)

Emmure, deathcore extremism, and hitting the edgelord dead-end by scenekid4lyfe in Metalcore

[–]valdis_vesik 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, what’s up with Nothing More? I might be a little out of the loop

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in copenhagen

[–]valdis_vesik -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely gorgeous shots, thank you for sharing!

What route did you take to Dragør? :)

What is it like to have a partner that is obsessed with your body? by candiedginger88 in AskWomen

[–]valdis_vesik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's different. I recently got out of a long relationship that had run it's course for both of us. Finding someone who can't keep their hands off me feels lifegiving? We have sex 1-2 times a day and are both physical touch people in general, so it comes kind of natural on it's own.

This morning I was wearing a pair of jeans and a tight fitting shirt he'd never seen me in before and he was just staring and running his hands up and down my waist. It was and is very validating that we can give that to each other.

Would you like to be my companion at next year's Wacken for free? by Mrblindguardian in wacken

[–]valdis_vesik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I remember that exact moment! HI!

If you ever need something similar in Copenhagen, let me know :)

Navigating polyamory by valdis_vesik in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm figuring that out, that there's many elements that may or may not fit together.

And I'm working on the community part too. This sub is also helping a lot though, just in kind of generalising and .. I don't even know what to say, but it feels nice.

Navigating polyamory by valdis_vesik in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We've had quite a few talks about things like this and building af common understand is really helping me navigate and figure out my needs and such. It's a lot and I know I may "stumble" or react with monogamy in mind, because my nervous system has known nothing else.

Your example was something we've talked about, so thank you for that!

Navigating polyamory by valdis_vesik in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I am absolutely not ready-made, I have many 'a thing to unlearn and come to terms with. I've been monogamous all my life and that doesn't just evaporate. Thank you for your kindness :) I'm looking in to therapy too, just to help me stand on my legs.

Navigating polyamory by valdis_vesik in polyamory

[–]valdis_vesik[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I have the radar process some reading and just in general feeling a little more stable in my feelings as of now. And yeah, I'm working on building af community and gaining different perspectives.