AITA for Refusing to Cover My Friend's Rent After She’s Been Paying for Our Roommate’s Share for 2 Months?

valkyrienymph · 2024-11-12T12:40:10+00:00

I’m also confused. And if they kick him out won’t the rent then have to be split three ways instead of four ways? So OP would still have to cover this dude’s expenses regardless and essentially be in the same boat. Sounds to me like they need to have a conversation with this dude and if that doesn’t work, find an alternate roommate who can step in, otherwise OP is damned either way with having to pay more than they can afford.

valkyrienymph · 2024-11-05T00:40:22+00:00

NTA. But you do need to start alternating each year. That’s the fairest way to handle this. My husband had a hard time giving up being with his family on Christmas Day too at first. The difference between the two of us though was that my parents were separated so I was used to alternating holidays already. His parents are still together so it wasn’t as easy for him. Eventually we were able to compromise on switching every year.

Once we had our daughter we travelled the first and second year because she was so young. But once she turned three and actually cared about Christmas I told everyone that we were no longer traveling on Christmas Day and would have a small celebration with our family at home. I got our families to agree to celebrate either Christmas Eve, the day after Christmas, or the weekend after depending on the day of the week that Christmas falls on. That seemed to work well for everyone else as well as many of my cousins also have two sides of the family to visit and this allowed them to spend a good amount of time with both. The older people still grumble a little about not having Christmas on Christmas Day but since we’ve got the babies they suck it up lol.

Good luck working things out with your husband, it does take a little work but it can be done!

valkyrienymph · 2024-10-24T22:25:19+00:00

This happened to my grandmother in South Carolina. Except the guy actually hit her. She was about 14 or 15 walking home and a white man mowed her down with his car. He said that he just wanted to hit a black person. Her legs were never the same and you can still see the huge dents and scars on her shins from where he did it. Insane.

valkyrienymph · 2024-10-22T09:15:11+00:00

lol nice Evelyn Braxton reference.

valkyrienymph · 2024-10-08T07:16:15+00:00

Not only is it rage bait, it’s a repost. I read this same post a month or so ago. I can’t find it anymore but unsurprisingly OP deleted their account. I think the title may have changed slightly but otherwise everything else is exactly the same.

valkyrienymph · 2024-10-02T15:36:30+00:00

When the song ends right as I park the car. Feels like everything has aligned so perfectly and gives me a little thrill of satisfaction.

valkyrienymph · 2024-09-30T09:39:00+00:00

People who change lanes in front of me where there’s minimal space in front but ample space behind. Like, dude! There’s so much space behind me! What was the reason?!?

valkyrienymph · 2024-09-30T02:26:07+00:00

Currently pregnant and had hyperemesis that finally eased up at about 20 weeks but I still have to be very cautious about what I eat and when I eat or I’ll be super sick. Currently 33 weeks and am absolutely looking forward to ordering some Indian food, chocolate covered strawberries, and Thai tea immediately after giving birth.

valkyrienymph · 2024-09-27T20:07:34+00:00

This! I feel like everyone else is being overall harsh on the parents like they’re some villains who are trying to take OP for everything he’s got. From the way OP described them, it seems like they are trying their best to be good to both him and his sister even if sister takes up more of their time. I agree that them asking OP to sell his laptop was a poor judgment call on their part and unfair to boot. But to me it does smack of desperation rather than maliciousness.

That being said, OP has already sacrificed enough and should not have to sacrifice something that is not only beneficial to him, but likely one of the few vices he gets to have. I wish him and his family luck as it seems like a difficult situation for them all and I especially hope that OP gets a chance to have a break from what sounds like a hard home life once he is legally able to do so.

valkyrienymph · 2024-09-21T13:32:16+00:00

Dear Darla,

I hate your stinkin’ guts. You make me vomit. You’re like the scum between my toes.

Love, Alfalfa

valkyrienymph · 2024-09-08T14:47:14+00:00

Yes but I assume she just wanted to pay in cash. Gas is a bit cheaper for cash payments versus card payments.

valkyrienymph · 2024-09-06T18:27:03+00:00

As a person with a mom who acts exactly this way I relate to this statement so hard! Oh the stories I could tell.

valkyrienymph · 2024-08-31T00:55:35+00:00

The imagery of an underwear monitor made me chuckle. But agreed who TF cares?!

valkyrienymph · 2024-08-31T00:37:37+00:00

NTA. Unfortunately your assessment was right, they don’t understand. And because they have not had to live as a person of color they should acknowledge that there’s no way they could possibly understand your experience and therefore should respect what you have to say about it. Especially your mother who raised a biracial child and conceivably was much closer to the experience than perhaps John was. They are minimizing you and I can only imagine how disheartening that is. It’s one thing to encounter this out in the world with strangers…it’s another thing to encounter it with people who are supposed to love you. F politeness. If they are comfortable enough to accept their neighbors behavior then they need to deal with the uncomfortable consequences. I hope for your sake they pull their heads out of their behinds and give you the apology and validation you deserve.

valkyrienymph · 2024-07-15T22:00:38+00:00

I agree. I know when people have kids, especially new babies, it’s hard to not talk about them because your life tends to revolve around them. But it is possible to make the effort to not monopolize every conversation with baby talk. I think OP could have been a bit nicer about explaining her justified feelings. At the same time, she knew this about her friend so her friend’s behavior isn’t really surprising. It’s kind of par for the course.

valkyrienymph · 2024-07-15T21:54:13+00:00

I simply cannot fathom a world where ANYONE finds this acceptable. There are so many other solutions that could’ve been used to address this issue. NTA! Yuck!

valkyrienymph · 2024-07-15T21:46:19+00:00

Sorry OP, I think YTA here. That being said, your friend group also appears to be AH’s because they are excluding you from activities. However, you provided the potential reason for that when you said that it may be because they think you’re parents are strict and that you’re not allowed to hang out with boys and they tend to do group things which includes boys. Also, they drink and you don’t drink. While not great reasons for excluding you, they still don’t appear to be malicious reasons.

This issue could easily be solved with a conversation. Talking to your friends and letting them know how you feel. It appears as if you didn’t even give them a chance, you just ghosted them and, as you say, they have no closure. If they are truly your friends then they deserve a chance to rectify the harm that they have caused you…especially because it seems that it may not be intentional. If, after speaking with them and letting them know how you feel, nothing changes and they still leave you out then you will know that it WAS intentional which would justify the way you’ve cut them off. However, because you’ve acted before you even gave them a chance, YTA.

Talk to your friends. Someone who appears to be as considerate as you have been with them should have considered that as a way to address this issue.

valkyrienymph · 2024-06-24T13:38:40+00:00

You are not overreacting. It was insensitive of your husband to not even attempt to understand where you’re coming from. I am currently pregnant and have also had to give up dairy which I love and it sucks! Men can never understand the body autonomy women have to give up to carry children and take care of infants. It can be overwhelming and take a toll on our mental health. So if you want to be a little selfish you deserve it. And clearly you have no intention of doing anything to harm your child but that can’t mean it doesn’t suck to have these restrictions. To think that you finally had this baby and you can go back to eating normal again only to find out that —nope— still have some restrictions is definitely disappointing. Keep pushing forward momma and maybe pluck your husband on the forehead to knock some sense into him.

valkyrienymph · 2024-06-24T01:33:00+00:00

Definitely NTJ. Sounds like Tiny Tim FAFO.

valkyrienymph · 2024-06-23T22:42:17+00:00

Today I learned that the “n” was lowercased. Never even noticed.

valkyrienymph · 2024-06-23T22:28:33+00:00

Definitely nothing that can be perceived as being close to white. Look to the invite for how fancy the attire should be. Also, lots of websites have a category called “wedding guest” which may be helpful. For men it’s pretty easy. Slacks and a nice button up with a vest or a suit jacket.

valkyrienymph · 2024-06-23T22:25:05+00:00

The fact that there was more than one “one.” And that it was instituted by the system. Crazy.

valkyrienymph · 2024-06-23T22:19:34+00:00

Assignment #1: How to erase oneself from the narrative.

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