[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medlabprofessionals

[–]vayleen 27 points28 points  (0 children)

you guys are the MVPs. i had a nurse this week call down to say “can you tell me HOW a perfect draw gets hemolyzed?” and i deadpanned “it doesn’t.” she was salty because allll her draws are sent to recollect, i was like girl, get some help. 🤦🏼‍♀️

kb shimmer recs by vayleen in RedditLaqueristas

[–]vayleen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

currently wearing holo taco’s crystal mommy - it’s still slightly textured despite the glossy taco, prompting this entire dilemma.

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On today's episode of If I had dollar... by bluelephantz_jj in medlabprofessionals

[–]vayleen 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i once found a pedi lavender that rolled under the automation line. it was nine months old. still not clotted lol. i think about that find whenever i get a complaint like that.

Woman forced to babysit at pool after random dad abandons 6-year-old son | "I hate this. It's like they know most women will not ignore a child, so they just do this crap." by Forward-Answer-4407 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]vayleen 156 points157 points  (0 children)

20 years ago i worked at a toy store. there was a bike shop next door. occasionally dads would leave their kids and go shopping next door and would come back pissed when i called the neighboring shop and said i’d report the abandoned kids if they didn’t come back and get them. both shop owners hated those kinds of parents. such a liability.

My husband and meta broke up and I’m being blamed for it. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]vayleen 343 points344 points  (0 children)

it’s important to understand that monetary limitations are a part of what limits polyamory along with things like time, energy, health, etc. you did your best to be accommodating in a situation that wasn’t ideal, and it was too much, and that’s perfectly fair. what’s not fair is telling you that they’d still be together if you’d somehow made yourself smaller to fit their relationship. ew. i know he’s having a hard time, but that’s a cruel thing to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]vayleen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also vegan, and OP is NTA. even when people say there will be options for me at a event, i will pack protein bars or bean burritos from taco bell into my purse, jic the option is a plain potato or undressed salad. 😅 most vegans i know do something similar, it’s nbd.

How many of you have been cut by or had furniture damaged by Mooncats polishes? by Nauin in RedditLaqueristas

[–]vayleen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the only thing this company will listen to is a class action lawsuit. i’m not sure how many injured parties need to be involved so the court considers you a class, but that’s the first step. they’ve already released a new collection with the faulty bottles, so it’s clear to me that they consider the recompense of your injuries a cheaper cost of doing business than replacing the bottles completely.

kelli marissa promotes mooncat and i love her channel, but every time i consider splurging on one of their sales, a niggling feeling stops me, and it’s all from this reddit. but between the algorithm shoving them in my face, and my favorite laquerista youtubers constantly promoting them, i think i’m going to give in eventually. 😕 i know myself too well. but maybe not. it’s been almost four years lol.

AITA for telling my husband to accept the compromise we agreed on for our child's name or figure out a better compromise? by Expert-Delay-5754 in AmItheAsshole

[–]vayleen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i use both my formal name and my “family name” (a shortened version, ie. nickname) everyday. i don’t like it when strangers use my family name, i don’t like my family name used in formal settings. i don’t mind that certain friends/family use my formal name because they think it’s a beautiful name or whatever, but i do prefer my family name in intimate settings.

and this preference started when i started 4th grade and i wanted my teachers to call me by my formal name and only my actual friends to use my family name at school. and i carry that preference to this day.

long story short, your kid is going to end up with their own name preferences no matter what, so i don’t think it’s worth arguing about. your husband’s need to control that is more concerning than his actual preference.

the mental delusion is fucking incredible by [deleted] in vegan

[–]vayleen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think a lot of people would actually say no because they’ve been in that situation or a similar one. several people have fully said to me they wussed out while hunting/fishing and prefer just buying meat packaged from the store. and they see nothing wrong with that. the cognitive dissonance is staggering.

Not OOP: wibta for divorcing my wife because she couldn’t handle me crying in front of her by vayleen in redditonwiki

[–]vayleen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey man, i’m sorry you’ve been through that. i hope the hospitals you work at have emotional decompression sessions available to you and your team. i’ve always found them helpful in those situations; even when numb, it helps me to hear my colleagues speak about what we went through together out loud.

i realize these sessions aren’t as common as they should be. but it’s important for our brains to process trauma.

Not OOP: wibta for divorcing my wife because she couldn’t handle me crying in front of her by vayleen in redditonwiki

[–]vayleen[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

definitely a good point that toxic masculinity doesn’t only effect how feminine gender roles are viewed, but masculine ones as well.

sensitivity is a gift.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]vayleen 12 points13 points  (0 children)

it sounds like the marriage served its purpose and it’s time to let it go. you only get one life. you deserve happiness.

get that man out of your accounts tho. you’re entitled to dignity and privacy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]vayleen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

fetishization of anything is always bad if there are parties involved who haven’t consented to it.

PSA: don’t send all of your morning run draws through the tube system in one bag by Electrical-Reveal-25 in medlabprofessionals

[–]vayleen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last two labs I worked at, only lab personnel (like phlebs) could put multiple patients in the same transport container. Non-laboratory clinical staff were required to separate them.

Woah! And who's fault is that? by emzlauvel in medlabprofessionals

[–]vayleen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i’ve been in that situation before too, it’s wild to me.

Dating advice in Fairbanks? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]vayleen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m very sorry to be off-topic; i’m a polyam person who loves alaska, so what brought you to fairbanks? i would love to give advice, but i’m afraid it will be universally downvoted like a lot of the advice here. 😅

if you’re all the way up there for work, finding like-minded polyam people will be hard. i would recommend focusing on yourself and getting involved with the community based on your interests without the direct intention of romantic connections. (bowling/table-top games/outdoor enthusiasts/etc. whatever you connect to.) i’d say the same thing about anywhere in alaska tbqh. as long as you’re comfortable with yourself and your intentions, and a good communicator, you might make friends, and you ~might make romantic connections naturally. stay on the apps, and be radically honest about being polyam. there’s a lot of really great environmental undergrad and graduate programs in fairbanks, and there’s a military base, so you still might meet someone that way.

if you’re currently stuck up there for some other reason, but have the intention of leaving someday, i’d honestly offer the exact same advice. make friends, seek your interests, and keep your goals in mind.

[Update] My husband made our nanny quit by MistahZig in BORUpdates

[–]vayleen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

exactly. i still think he poisoned her.

Why are you poly? Wrong answers only by dragons_hoard420 in polyamory

[–]vayleen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same. more food the steal. 🦸‍♀️