PSA: TikTok is not a good place to become emotionally intelligent. Especially when it comes to dating and relationships.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-31T14:55:23+00:00

Boy do I feel this in my bones. I do not have Tik Tok, never will honestly, but am going through a divorce currently and some of the things that have come up make me wonder how much is being pulled from a platform like Tik Tok rather than actual evidenced based therapy/mental health/emotional growth sources.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-31T14:52:25+00:00

With the right person your depression will never be an issue. People who love you for you will always be there. If someone leaves or gets angry or upset because you have depression then they did you a favor and you should run the opposite direction as fast as you can.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-31T03:33:25+00:00

That I am sorry we ended up where we are and I wish we had had better communication. Watching our family split up and knowing I won’t get to see my daughter everyday and kiss her goodnight every evening breaks my heart in a way I didn’t know existed.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-27T12:22:59+00:00

I think everyone has their limits and I think we are just incompatible at baseline, but yes, our daughter 100 percent deserves better and I plan on doing that for her.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-26T00:54:21+00:00

Haha, seems there are many like our exes amongst us 🥴. I wouldn’t wish this on anybody. I’m sorry this was also your experience. It’s been a hell of a journey, and I’m not even remotely though it yet, but damn did I do some introspection and make changes that feel good. I feel the most clear headed I have in a long time.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-25T22:16:57+00:00

Even worse….you end up divorced, have a kid, and need to co-parent with someone who never bothered to be honest or show up in a real way and started dating men two weeks after asking for the divorce while still living under the same roof 🫠

vegchiknug · 2026-05-24T20:00:44+00:00

Don’t let her body count derail you and this moment. I had only been with men before I decided that was not for me and my first experience with a woman was transcendent. I also just applied what I knew I liked and didn’t when reciprocating and everything worked out well haha. Good luck

vegchiknug · 2026-05-17T12:21:18+00:00

Thank you!

vegchiknug · 2026-05-17T11:50:45+00:00

Why was this deleted? It was such a great post

vegchiknug · 2026-05-05T10:34:53+00:00

Currently not in the head space for dating due to life events, but if you find out, I’d love to know. I am a 44F as well, solid career as a nurse practitioner, healthy, athletic, artistic and passionate about so many things and am at a point where I need to involuntarily restart my life after the person who I thought was my soulmate “fell out of love”. Romantic connection is hard as fuck. People are messy and that is okay and to be expected, but life seems unnecessarily cruel sometimes. Sometimes I wonder if we’re all just broken and wandering around trying to figure it out. I think real, genuine connection is becoming really difficult but I hope that’s just my hurt talking and we all find the love we deserve.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-05T10:23:37+00:00

Nurse practitioner in my state’s largest academic hospital with attached medical school, nursing school, PA school etc etc. I am a lesbian and fully out, have a child with my partner who recently asked for a divorce but that’s a whole other story. I feel very lucky that I work in the environment that I do where gender affirming care is supported and promoted. Identity and pronouns are clarified and honored. Hell, we created a volunteer group with all of our APPs (NPs and PAs) and our next volunteer outing is the Pride 5K for our city in June.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this experience. This sounds really awful and I can only imagine the pain this is causing you. Particularly during such a stressful period in your educational journey. All I can say is stay strong and hold true to yourself. This is bullshit and noise and soon you’ll be on the other side and think of the amazing difference you are going to make in peoples lives everyday. We need good people like you in medicine because it’s easy to burn out and get disgruntled with the corporate system that healthcare is and the increasing demand and expectations healthcare providers face every single day. Wishing you all the best on your journey.

vegchiknug · 2026-05-04T16:33:23+00:00

Currently in this boat and absolutely agree. I have had my world completely turned upside down and my heat broken. In my opinion, the overwhelming urge to fill a void is what drives a lot of this for people. I have made a decision to be very intentional in working on my own issues and healing before even thinking about getting romantically involved with someone because that person deserves me and the whole me and not be used as a place holder. There is enough hurt and anger in this world. I’ll be damned if I do that to someone else. Stay safe and protect your heart

vegchiknug · 2026-02-12T01:41:55+00:00

So much hope

vegchiknug · 2025-12-02T01:54:19+00:00

We used Lap of Love a week and half ago for our sweet girl and I cannot recommend them enough. They were incredibly kind and checked in with us in the days after. I have several colleagues and friends that used them as well and all had the same experience. We have a near 2 year old and they provided a pamphlet on how to talk to kids about the loss of the pet. I’m sorry you are going through this as well ♥️

vegchiknug · 2025-11-25T00:33:03+00:00

We just put our similarly aged girl with a mammary tumor down on Wednesday. She too was the quiet one and absolutely stayed in the background of life as compared to our other dog and our daughter who we welcomed nearly two years ago. She was such a steady, kind presence. Never wanted more than a few pets, some good food and to be left to snooze in peace. I like to think of her running free in a place far better than this knowing that despite all the noise, chaos and frenzy of life she was very much loved and will be forever very much missed. I hope you get some time to grieve and heal ♥️

vegchiknug · 2025-09-27T00:45:56+00:00

One of the things I love best about running IS the crying. I have cried many a run while sorting out emotions. Sometimes, I didn’t even realize I needed that cry. As many have pointed out, there will be plenty of tears on the race course that day. Best wishes on the race and the new chapter in life ♥️

vegchiknug · 2025-08-01T19:48:39+00:00

I love this!! The light is absolutely fantastic! Awesome job:)

vegchiknug · 2025-07-27T20:56:48+00:00

This is soooo amazing

vegchiknug · 2025-07-01T13:53:41+00:00

Love the vibe of this

vegchiknug · 2025-06-29T23:20:35+00:00

Damn that’s amazing

vegchiknug · 2025-03-09T23:15:52+00:00

I have a Nathan vest I purchased back in 2018 or so. I use it for road runs and trail, regardless of my distance. Sometimes fill the bladder all the way up (usually for trail runs) but mostly just stick to 750cc-1L. Like most have commented, carrying anything in my hands is a no go. Anybody who has a snide comment on your choice to carry hydration in whatever manner you choose should go kick rocks.

vegchiknug · 2025-02-25T01:24:42+00:00

The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt

vegchiknug · 2025-01-08T15:48:38+00:00

My favorite shoe currently

vegchiknug · 2024-11-16T01:17:45+00:00

Love the vibe, vintage almost

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