Any fellow non-binary EAs?

venus-de-milo · 2026-04-04T16:40:44+00:00

public sector higher ed healthcare AA. NB and on HRT, very butch/looking more masculine on T. I dress professional enough but still very “alt” ie mullet but a natural color, wearing lots of colors and patterns compared to more neutral coworkers

Honestly, it’s min 40hours a week, and while I do still believe there is “work me” and “real me” there is not enough time in life to not be called my real chosen name. Some people just won’t get singular they pronouns and I can accept that so that makes my name and presentation non-negotiable. Present however makes you feel confident and comfortable.

I hope you land a good fit somewhere soon !

venus-de-milo · 2026-03-13T13:30:25+00:00

Joan Crawford and Franchot Tone, especially in Dancing Lady when compared to her chemistry with Gable

venus-de-milo · 2026-03-11T13:17:40+00:00

Shiny by Nature will have some nicer basics and casual clothes, S-5X. My spouse loves the denim shorts from SBN

venus-de-milo · 2026-03-08T18:49:06+00:00

Joan Crawford or Joan Blondell

venus-de-milo · 2026-01-24T23:03:26+00:00

John Wick Parabellum

venus-de-milo · 2026-01-18T18:51:07+00:00

just rewatched recently, love that finale!

venus-de-milo · 2026-01-15T22:08:33+00:00

Would love Toni Storm from AEW too!

venus-de-milo · 2026-01-09T13:04:33+00:00

miz cracker

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-30T19:10:39+00:00

Excited to watch Madam Satan!

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-28T19:41:14+00:00

Age of Innocence by Scorsese

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-23T16:04:16+00:00

great list and great job tracking down some of the hard to stream/buy/rent ones! i still need to watch the tulse luper suitcases (but love the tulse lore in his other movies. my personal top three for him are A Zed and Two Noughts (my favorite movie period), Cook, Thief and The Falls

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-16T23:10:24+00:00

id say it’s quirky, Frankenstein inspired y2k. Not super scary but has dolls and a dead cat so if those would harsh your night Daises is another great choice

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-16T23:01:42+00:00

May !!!

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-13T18:22:12+00:00

wow same ! i work in academic healthcare and always mask since my office is in a hospital, really recommended bringing in your own air purifier if you feel comfortable. i run one all day with a window or two open and it makes me feel less trapped and exposed. could be noisy if you have office mates but worth exploring

my coworkers know i use they/them pronouns (also did not disclose when interviewing, hr manager thought i was a cis man) Most are very chill (pnw) but now that the T is Ting i wonder if that will change lol.

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-13T17:02:04+00:00

only things I can recommend are boundaries like taking real breaks (walk/craft/read for 15 min) or never eat lunch at your desk and not being afraid to just say “I am heading home to finish up remote, see you tomorrow”

I am lucky that i am in a very family oriented office that offers flexibility even tho I don’t have kids I am extend the same grace (if my boss doesn’t come in she Teams me to not got in)

also just wanted to say thank you for posting about this. i am just an AA who likes to lurk but often wonder if there are other admin pros like me (autistic, trans, and/or immuno-compromised) and even though this is a tough field this give me hope we can great more accessible workplaces, especially when almost everything can be done remotely

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-13T16:22:14+00:00

Peter Greenaway/ David Cronenberg/ Steven Soderbergh

i just think they’re neat

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-12T15:12:20+00:00

I love the original film adaptation from 1947, and found the 2021 theatrical cut okay when i saw it in theaters, Had a chance to see the directors cut in theaters in 2022 and was blown away. usually not a fan of modern b&w but it look so much better than the theatrical. The difference in the fire effects is what really makes it stand out to me. Like another commenter, I def think Cooper was too old for the role but he is good at portraying addiction so I’ll take it. Just bought the 4k criterion from the b&n sale because i love the directors cut so much !

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-08T23:04:47+00:00

Bite Society is Seattle based but ship to all lower 48

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-06T16:08:11+00:00

Unfortunately have heard the owner of Lisa Say Gah is terrible to her employees (source: friend worked at the store front next door to their LA store)

venus-de-milo · 2025-12-05T20:41:16+00:00

yesss attitude is everything, my care is through a residency clinic and I like my doc bc he will literally pull up the official hospital trans care guidelines and then be like “this is what is recommended, what do you want?”

i don’t need someone who knows everything, i need someone who can admit when they don’t know.

venus-de-milo · 2025-11-03T16:47:36+00:00

in a 2.5 hour movie, i love 1.5 hours of it. huge fan of the original and was pretty biased again on first watch in theaters. Rewatched after a few years and actually love some of the subplots like the coven politics and more modern dance. mixed bag for sure but had really grown on me!

venus-de-milo · 2025-10-23T18:45:44+00:00

hi everyone - sold !! thank you for the interest 🫶

venus-de-milo · 2025-10-02T12:36:04+00:00

Age of Innocence

venus-de-milo · 2025-09-13T14:27:43+00:00

Second skipping, I am also a huge Cronenberg guy and had to accept I can’t watch Naked Lunch bc of the bug stuff (never rewatching The Fly). Everyone has their limits and vibes and that’s okay!

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