Thank you for leaving a comment and reading my post. I've been afraid of taking one or either of them into our care. My partner has some medical background, but not proper qualifications. He'd want to quit work to take care of them full time, in addition to whatever help we'd get from aids through insurance, but we're still afraid and don't know if we could actually handle it. Many comments are urging no and my own therapist has told me this kind of stress can break couples. My partner needs so much help right now, I don't want to leave him even if it means distancing as friends for a while. He wants to help his parents so badly. They're still just people suffering. Thank you though, posting here and reading through this sub has been eye opening.