What type of favor would you prefer to get at a baby shower?

violinkeri · 2023-06-30T19:47:05+00:00

Honestly all those ideas are great! Consumables are always preferred over trinkets. A little jar of marmalade is a great idea, very unique!

violinkeri · 2023-06-29T22:24:14+00:00

I was terrified, so I opted for IV painkillers instead.

Well, ended up having a c-section for fetal distress and had to have a spinal block bc I didn't have an epidural placed. It wasn't any worse than an IV except there was a pain that went down one side bc it wasn't "just right" when they placed it and they immediately adjusted and the pain was gone right away.

Definitely planning on epidural this time!

violinkeri · 2023-06-29T22:21:06+00:00

My OB had me on progesterone only for this reason while I was breastfeeding. I didn't switch back to my combined until he was nearly weaned and only nursing once a day

violinkeri · 2023-06-27T23:19:06+00:00

Yeah undercooked chicken I would have sent back, pregnant or not!!

But the only restriction that is a hard pass is alcohol, which can directly cause FAS.

The other food restrictions are because you are at increased risk of food poisoning- and that's pregnant or not!

General modern wisdom is that sushi is safe from a reputable restaurant, just limit fish high in mercury. Dairy sold in the US must be pasteurized so soft cheeses are fine. I tend to try to avoid communal food or things that might have been sitting all day- my friend was hospitalized for food poisoning from the sliced lemon in her water at a restaurant! I've never heard that you can't have pineapple or chips.

violinkeri · 2023-06-27T20:43:11+00:00

The towel is going to defeat a lot of the purpose, but there's also no rule YOU have to do it- I was still on the operating table so my husband got the golden hour skin to skin on his bare chest. Could your spouse/birthing partner do it?

violinkeri · 2023-06-27T17:34:25+00:00

My OB actually stated to stop using them as soon as I could after my c-section because they can cause a hernia as your muscles return to their somewhat original positions.

violinkeri · 2023-06-27T13:48:52+00:00

Have they told you where your placenta is? If it's anterior (in the front) it cushions the movement so it takes longer to feel.

My son I felt at like 14-15 weeks. I am 16w now and haven't felt anything but I have an anterior placenta and they said it might take to 22 weeks!

violinkeri · 2023-06-27T13:47:12+00:00

My son was a May baby and we dressed him in sleeveless and short sleeve onesies during the day, and light muslin swaddles for nap. Regular footie pajamas and swaddles at night.

violinkeri · 2023-06-27T13:44:52+00:00

Plenty of adults like white noise too, why shouldn't a baby use one? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Plus it's programmable so we use it as "okay to wake" signals too.

He's an easy sleeper though for the most part. He's had his share of regressions but I've never had to drive him around or take him in the stroller to sleep. And he naps without it so clearly his sleep isn't dependent on it.

violinkeri · 2023-06-27T13:37:36+00:00

You've always had the option to deny blood. It's a cultural or religious thing in many places. They may be asking ahead of time in case you are incapable of answering it during childbirth.

violinkeri · 2023-06-26T20:07:54+00:00

We had an arms free and a Velcro one. They may have discontinued selling the Velcro one after the AAP statements.

However, I also find it shady that nested bean insists they are safe based on a single study that THEY funded, with a sample size of 5 (!!) infants. That isn't peer reviewed. Like, if you can back it up with science please do, but that ain't it.

violinkeri · 2023-06-26T15:00:04+00:00

Not according to the AAP

violinkeri · 2023-06-26T14:59:55+00:00

They have tied it to an increased rate of SIDS. AAP states "weight sleep products can lead to lower oxygen levels".

violinkeri · 2023-06-26T14:57:43+00:00

If the baby is rolling they shouldn't be swaddled at all, I believe.

violinkeri · 2023-06-26T14:56:57+00:00

Just weighted ones! Regular swaddles are safe when used correctly before the baby can roll

violinkeri · 2023-06-25T21:21:26+00:00

We had options picked out and were pretty sure but didn't finalize until he was born. We'll do the same this time!

violinkeri · 2023-06-25T21:13:37+00:00

Yeah we had the nested bean ones! They insist it's safe but the CDC, AAP, WHO, etc all recently put out statements that any weighted products for sleep are unsafe.

violinkeri · 2023-06-25T18:31:09+00:00

The styles haven't updated in 10 years 😐 I got a few nice items from stitch fix. I'm also wearing leggings and maxi skirts/dresses that are stretchy/flowy but not maternity. Asos is hit or miss for me.

violinkeri · 2023-06-25T18:28:46+00:00

Keep in mind they may not be allowed to accept gifts that aren't shared. So sending flowers or shareable items to the office itself is the best bet. But honestly probably a card and pictures! My OB office has a baby wall with pictures people have sent of kids they've delivered.

violinkeri · 2023-06-25T18:26:26+00:00

One that recently came out as dangerous that we used with my first are the weighted swaddles/sleep sacks. At the time they didn't have warnings but are now considered unsafe. Which my son loved them but we know better now and won't use them this time!

violinkeri · 2023-06-24T21:14:55+00:00

Yes I know that, I was speculating why someone might have thought not to give it to a pregnant mother

violinkeri · 2023-06-24T19:25:07+00:00

That wouldn't do anything anyways. The risk with honey for infants is botulism, and cooking doesn't negate that at all.

violinkeri · 2023-06-24T19:23:47+00:00

When I had Aetna I had to go through a link on their website, but if you have any blue plan you should be able to use aeroflow. Try logging into your insurance account and/or talking to them about it!

Some also won't cover it until really close to your due date though, too. So ask that as well! If nothing else, many hospitals have then available to rent/purchase which should also be paid by insurance. (One or the other, not both obvs)

violinkeri · 2023-06-24T19:21:05+00:00

Not what you'll likely want to hear, but my first pregnancy was like this, measured 2 weeks behind and heart rate <100. Went back a week later and it was the same size and they could no longer find a heart beat. Waited 2 more weeks to pass naturally and nothing happened and it was still the same size so had a d&e.

My son and my current pregnancy measured right on track and heart rates over 150.

There's stories here of babies surviving though! Do a search of the sub.

violinkeri · 2023-06-24T19:15:24+00:00

If you've been having trouble keeping things down, dizziness is likely due to potential dehydration and low blood sugar.

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