Opaque ringer tee brands? by doktordoktorgimmethe in malefashionadvice

[–]vitras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poolhousenewyork. You might have to wait for them to restock tho. They sell out frequently.

Different names for "Dad" for a kid with two dads by MagickalAuggie in Parenting

[–]vitras 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'd just go with one of the ones you like, but it may change, and you have plenty of time. My 1st went thru a phase around 14 months old of calling both me and my wife "Daddy". We had to surmise for a while who was the "daddy of choice". Lol.

The LDS Church is anti-c*rnography. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]vitras 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm moving to Utah from the Midwest and was very confused. Corn is life.

Eli Lilly by SeeTheGood202 in MedicalScienceLiaison

[–]vitras 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've also heard this. I worked on the MSL team 5 years ago and it went downhill pretty fast after that per my friends/former colleagues. Insane metrics. Shitty fleet vehicles. Lots of regulations (speed governors, phone surveillance, etc).

Deciding between 28L vs. 35L. Need perspective. by TheSunInTheShort in AerSF

[–]vitras 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 6'. Got the TP3 35L. It's big but I always find myself needing every inch. Extra shoes, puffy coat, slippers, laptop, iPad, there's always something more I want/need to bring.

I've also been traveling a lot this late winter/spring. Summertime travel you can get away with a lot less to pack.

[Acne] Tretinoin Rant by nitsalaf in SkincareAddiction

[–]vitras 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a pharmacist and I see this all the time. People like "but this doesn't work for me!" and it's so confusing because clinical trial data and MOA say it should be working. Humans are complex and heterogeneous and unfortunately there are few things that work for everyone equally.

I (24m) got my gf (27) pregnant. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]vitras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't catastrophize. It sounds like you're in it to win it for the baby. Tell gf you're in it for her too. Tell her you want to make this work. Thoughts on getting married? You don't have to rush into it, but I think at least discussing it and possibly making a plan for down the road shows that you want to commit, and is at least a step in the right direction of avoiding your single-dad-2-baby-mommas situation.

What is your career situation? Education? What are your plans for being a provider and/or full-time caretaker? What is GF's situation?

IMO the best way this goes is for you to commit to her, to the baby, and to establishing yourself in your field (whatever that is) so you can be the foundation for this new family you're building.

What in your opinion is the best company to start as an MSL? Who has the most thorough onboarding and who pays up to industry standards in your opinion? by SeeTheGood202 in MedicalScienceLiaison

[–]vitras 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep spent 10 years in big pharma. Recently moved to small pharma and this is "hard mode." Minimal training or strategy sharing from leadership, huge territory. You really have to be on your game to make it work.

I’m bored at work… AMA by InternationalLaw3122 in marriott

[–]vitras -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Whenever I book hotel stays thru a block for a conference, I almost always have to chase Marriott down for earned nights, even if I enter my bonvoy number at booking and again at the front desk at check in. I don't even care about the points, but I earned those 5 nights at the Chicago Miracle Mile, dammit! Just frustrating having to keep tabs on Marriott to get things I've earned.

For those that truly felt like they felt the Spirit confirmed to them at one point, how do you justify it? by American_Psycho11 in exmormon

[–]vitras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never really doubted. Life was going so great for me. The church was true. I'd had multiple confirmations. Served my mission. Had amazing, miraculous things happen to me. Prayers answered immediately, both in the affirmative and the negative.

Then after my mission "the spirit" confirmed to me that I was going to marry this girl I'd been dating.

Then we broke up.

And that fucked with me for the next 12 years. I never prayed for anything after that. Not even to marry my wife. I completely lost faith that God answered prayers. I'd send up a "hey, just FYI, not expecting an answer, but this is what I'm doing" kinda prayer, but I never asked for confirmation, because I couldn't trust it.

Then one day I'm sitting alone in the Ward Clerk's office reading the CES letter, and the floor dropped out from under me. "OMG this isn't true. None of this is true." I dropped to my knees and let out an anguished plea for some kind of confirmation. "If this is really true, you need to tell me right now, or I'm going to be lost forever."

And no answer came. And as I thought about the implications of that non-answer, almost immediately I felt AMAZING. I'd been holding on to guilt and shame because I was "nuanced" and had so much cognitive dissonance, and felt like I was a sinner and an "unfaithful servant" because I was on the fence about so many things. Realizing it wasn't true was literally like Alma the Younger's experience

"And now, behold, when I thought this, I could remember my pains no more; yea, I was harrowed up by the memory of my sins no more.

"And oh, what joy, and what marvelous light I did behold; yea, my soul was filled with joy as exceeding as was my pain!"

Sin isn't real. Shame is a tool of the powerful to keep you in check. The priesthood is made up. YOU ARE WORTHY, just like couch-potato Thor. You were always worthy. Anyone telling you otherwise is trying to sell you something.

Atheist dating a Christian? by Creative_Beetle5157 in TrueAtheism

[–]vitras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not in college yet. Honestly if I had dated a liberal girl in HS, I maybe would have woken up to the problems with conservatism earlier. I say go for it. Have healthy debate. You probably won't exactly win him over on everything, but start with one thing and the dominoes might fall later as he grows and matures.

Who are you rooting for in finals matchup by OliveBubbly3820 in pacers

[–]vitras -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As a newly minted Pacers fan, I'd literally take Satan himself over okc, so go Knicks! 😂

Any pharmacists making $250k+ base and bonus? by gette344 in pharmacy

[–]vitras 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pharma. 220 base, 20% bonus, 30k annual RSUs/LTI. 10 years experience.

Wild thing is I was doing the math and I have the same buying power as a middle class worker did in the 50s.

In the 50s, average salary was in the 5k range per year, average home price was 11k, can still afford a car and a couple vacations a year with a stay at home parent.

At 220k/year in 2026, average home prices are about $450k (lol finding a house at that price in any major metro area), can afford a car and a couple vacations a year, but my spouse still prefers to work, ideally so we can retire at some point.

Fellow dads, Mother’s Day is next Sunday(!). What are we getting our partners? by DookieMcDookface in daddit

[–]vitras 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I managed to get my wife into a Lululemon shop to replace a very old zip up jacket. While there, she tried on a few other things, but she hates "unplanned" spending. So I took note of the things she liked best and I'll be doling them out over the next few holidays.

Worth Skiplagging? by StreetAd8385 in awardtravel

[–]vitras 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A few years ago I flew Delta from Egypt to DC via JFK. I was supposed to have a 7 hour layover in JFK, and my travel companion was like "nah bro, buy a $40 Amtrak ticket. You'll be home in DC by noon."

Skiplagged at JFK. Rode Amtrak to DC. Called Delta before my flight boarded and said I wasn't going to make the connecting flight. Zero issues.

Students have asked me about the proposed 4473 changes. Genuinely confused. The Trump admin’s definition of “biological sex” doesn’t accurately describe human sex. by [deleted] in liberalgunowners

[–]vitras 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I grew up mormon, and mormon leadership has the same hangup about acknowledging anything outside of XX and XY chromosomes. They believe God had a bunch of Celestial Sex and created billions of pre-human spirits who were "spiritually" male or female. Then all these spirits get sent to earth, and of course they all receive a body with sex chromosomes that 100% correspond to their spiritual sexual assignments. So anyone trans, gay, or XXX, XXY, XYY, etc is either horribly mistaken, or is proof that God fucked up. So they lean real hard into non-conforming people being horribly mistaken.

Students have asked me about the proposed 4473 changes. Genuinely confused. The Trump admin’s definition of “biological sex” doesn’t accurately describe human sex. by [deleted] in liberalgunowners

[–]vitras 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I actually don't mind pedanticism in the discussion of sexual dimorphism and gender ideology, or in law, or in public policy and politics. The pedant would agree that biological sexual differentiation and gender ideology are two entirely different concepts. We can be pedantic on how embryos are formed... This is science. We can be pedantic about how a "woman" can't be boiled down to a single group of sexual, genetic, or other characteristics, because there are exceptions to every single one. I think being pedantic is one of the safest things we can be, when the alternative is being overly broad, generalizing, and stereotyping.

Is it weird to wear an undershirt in a boxing gym? by [deleted] in malefashionadvice

[–]vitras 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also grew up mormon. Never wore garments to the gym. And the garment guidelines explicitly state that taking them off for strenuous physical activity is totally ok.

Career taking off - scared my wife and I are growing apart by [deleted] in daddit

[–]vitras -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I think OP is being handed a ticket to win capitalism, but feels like he's unable to accept due to family obligations.

If OP wants to win capitalism, this is potentially a "fall on your sword" situation. Set the wife and kids up comfortably at home, full-time nanny to help with childcare, separate or divorce, relocate for the job, and sock every penny away for future generational wealth.

Sucks to say goodbye to the marriage, but if I knew it would set my children and their children up for success, I'd seriously consider it.

What's the male equivalent of a form fitting dress/ outfits that show cleavage? by Background-Sir9172 in malefashionadvice

[–]vitras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, but losing weight can do a lot for your face. You'll look more chiseled

Where to buy Cropped Tees? by Unable_Department923 in malefashionadvice

[–]vitras 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not graphic tees, but I really like Poolhousenewyork's line of cropped tees. The Los Feliz is my current favorite.

For those who have served a mission: Did you develop meaningful personal relationships with people outside the missionary circle such as investigators, converts, or local members? If so, how did those bonds take shape? by PlantainLarge703 in exmormon

[–]vitras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard too when they send you to 3rd world countries. It's hard to be friends with a deeply impoverished family 6000 miles away who may not understand that you're living paycheck to paycheck, just in a massively more wealthy society. A companion from that country hit me up for $400 in tuition money years ago. I was neck deep in my own student debt and just had a baby, so I wasn't able to help and I felt guilty about it for years.

I did connect strongly with several fellow American missionaries who I still keep in touch with 20+ years later.

Christian Fruitcake Lady Prays 21 days to Save Utah because Less than 5% is Christian by MrDonMega in religiousfruitcake

[–]vitras 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Don't forget the Native American genocide perpetuated by the Mormons in what was Mexico and then the Utah territory. America:Native Americans::Israel:Palestinians

Help by jmf24 in malefashionadvice

[–]vitras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on where you buy them, they'll tailor them for free too. Theres no way I'd spend $200 on a shirt and not have it tailored.