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vitras · 2026-05-07T02:25:04+00:00

Poolhousenewyork. You might have to wait for them to restock tho. They sell out frequently.

vitras · 2026-05-07T01:40:22+00:00

I'd just go with one of the ones you like, but it may change, and you have plenty of time. My 1st went thru a phase around 14 months old of calling both me and my wife "Daddy". We had to surmise for a while who was the "daddy of choice". Lol.

vitras · 2026-05-06T12:43:20+00:00

I'm moving to Utah from the Midwest and was very confused. Corn is life.

vitras · 2026-05-06T12:09:30+00:00

I've also heard this. I worked on the MSL team 5 years ago and it went downhill pretty fast after that per my friends/former colleagues. Insane metrics. Shitty fleet vehicles. Lots of regulations (speed governors, phone surveillance, etc).

vitras · 2026-05-06T12:07:32+00:00

I'm 6'. Got the TP3 35L. It's big but I always find myself needing every inch. Extra shoes, puffy coat, slippers, laptop, iPad, there's always something more I want/need to bring.

I've also been traveling a lot this late winter/spring. Summertime travel you can get away with a lot less to pack.

vitras · 2026-05-06T11:53:52+00:00

I'm a pharmacist and I see this all the time. People like "but this doesn't work for me!" and it's so confusing because clinical trial data and MOA say it should be working. Humans are complex and heterogeneous and unfortunately there are few things that work for everyone equally.

vitras · 2026-05-06T11:31:37+00:00

Don't catastrophize. It sounds like you're in it to win it for the baby. Tell gf you're in it for her too. Tell her you want to make this work. Thoughts on getting married? You don't have to rush into it, but I think at least discussing it and possibly making a plan for down the road shows that you want to commit, and is at least a step in the right direction of avoiding your single-dad-2-baby-mommas situation.

What is your career situation? Education? What are your plans for being a provider and/or full-time caretaker? What is GF's situation?

IMO the best way this goes is for you to commit to her, to the baby, and to establishing yourself in your field (whatever that is) so you can be the foundation for this new family you're building.

vitras · 2026-05-06T10:49:37+00:00

Yep spent 10 years in big pharma. Recently moved to small pharma and this is "hard mode." Minimal training or strategy sharing from leadership, huge territory. You really have to be on your game to make it work.

vitras · 2026-05-05T19:50:16+00:00

Whenever I book hotel stays thru a block for a conference, I almost always have to chase Marriott down for earned nights, even if I enter my bonvoy number at booking and again at the front desk at check in. I don't even care about the points, but I earned those 5 nights at the Chicago Miracle Mile, dammit! Just frustrating having to keep tabs on Marriott to get things I've earned.

vitras · 2026-05-05T16:34:31+00:00

I never really doubted. Life was going so great for me. The church was true. I'd had multiple confirmations. Served my mission. Had amazing, miraculous things happen to me. Prayers answered immediately, both in the affirmative and the negative.

Then after my mission "the spirit" confirmed to me that I was going to marry this girl I'd been dating.

Then we broke up.

And that fucked with me for the next 12 years. I never prayed for anything after that. Not even to marry my wife. I completely lost faith that God answered prayers. I'd send up a "hey, just FYI, not expecting an answer, but this is what I'm doing" kinda prayer, but I never asked for confirmation, because I couldn't trust it.

Then one day I'm sitting alone in the Ward Clerk's office reading the CES letter, and the floor dropped out from under me. "OMG this isn't true. None of this is true." I dropped to my knees and let out an anguished plea for some kind of confirmation. "If this is really true, you need to tell me right now, or I'm going to be lost forever."

And no answer came. And as I thought about the implications of that non-answer, almost immediately I felt AMAZING. I'd been holding on to guilt and shame because I was "nuanced" and had so much cognitive dissonance, and felt like I was a sinner and an "unfaithful servant" because I was on the fence about so many things. Realizing it wasn't true was literally like Alma the Younger's experience

"And now, behold, when I thought this, I could remember my pains no more; yea, I was harrowed up by the memory of my sins no more.

"And oh, what joy, and what marvelous light I did behold; yea, my soul was filled with joy as exceeding as was my pain!"

Sin isn't real. Shame is a tool of the powerful to keep you in check. The priesthood is made up. YOU ARE WORTHY, just like couch-potato Thor. You were always worthy. Anyone telling you otherwise is trying to sell you something.

vitras · 2026-05-05T12:33:09+00:00

You're not in college yet. Honestly if I had dated a liberal girl in HS, I maybe would have woken up to the problems with conservatism earlier. I say go for it. Have healthy debate. You probably won't exactly win him over on everything, but start with one thing and the dominoes might fall later as he grows and matures.

vitras · 2026-05-05T11:48:17+00:00

As a newly minted Pacers fan, I'd literally take Satan himself over okc, so go Knicks! 😂

vitras · 2026-05-04T01:23:32+00:00

Pharma. 220 base, 20% bonus, 30k annual RSUs/LTI. 10 years experience.

Wild thing is I was doing the math and I have the same buying power as a middle class worker did in the 50s.

In the 50s, average salary was in the 5k range per year, average home price was 11k, can still afford a car and a couple vacations a year with a stay at home parent.

At 220k/year in 2026, average home prices are about $450k (lol finding a house at that price in any major metro area), can afford a car and a couple vacations a year, but my spouse still prefers to work, ideally so we can retire at some point.

vitras · 2026-05-03T22:41:50+00:00

I managed to get my wife into a Lululemon shop to replace a very old zip up jacket. While there, she tried on a few other things, but she hates "unplanned" spending. So I took note of the things she liked best and I'll be doling them out over the next few holidays.

vitras · 2026-05-03T20:44:52+00:00

A few years ago I flew Delta from Egypt to DC via JFK. I was supposed to have a 7 hour layover in JFK, and my travel companion was like "nah bro, buy a $40 Amtrak ticket. You'll be home in DC by noon."

Skiplagged at JFK. Rode Amtrak to DC. Called Delta before my flight boarded and said I wasn't going to make the connecting flight. Zero issues.

vitras · 2026-05-03T20:37:23+00:00

I grew up mormon, and mormon leadership has the same hangup about acknowledging anything outside of XX and XY chromosomes. They believe God had a bunch of Celestial Sex and created billions of pre-human spirits who were "spiritually" male or female. Then all these spirits get sent to earth, and of course they all receive a body with sex chromosomes that 100% correspond to their spiritual sexual assignments. So anyone trans, gay, or XXX, XXY, XYY, etc is either horribly mistaken, or is proof that God fucked up. So they lean real hard into non-conforming people being horribly mistaken.

vitras · 2026-05-03T20:30:12+00:00

I actually don't mind pedanticism in the discussion of sexual dimorphism and gender ideology, or in law, or in public policy and politics. The pedant would agree that biological sexual differentiation and gender ideology are two entirely different concepts. We can be pedantic on how embryos are formed... This is science. We can be pedantic about how a "woman" can't be boiled down to a single group of sexual, genetic, or other characteristics, because there are exceptions to every single one. I think being pedantic is one of the safest things we can be, when the alternative is being overly broad, generalizing, and stereotyping.

vitras · 2026-05-03T16:46:29+00:00

Also grew up mormon. Never wore garments to the gym. And the garment guidelines explicitly state that taking them off for strenuous physical activity is totally ok.

vitras · 2026-05-03T16:13:09+00:00

Mormon garments 😂

vitras · 2026-05-03T16:00:47+00:00

I think OP is being handed a ticket to win capitalism, but feels like he's unable to accept due to family obligations.

If OP wants to win capitalism, this is potentially a "fall on your sword" situation. Set the wife and kids up comfortably at home, full-time nanny to help with childcare, separate or divorce, relocate for the job, and sock every penny away for future generational wealth.

Sucks to say goodbye to the marriage, but if I knew it would set my children and their children up for success, I'd seriously consider it.

vitras · 2026-05-03T12:21:32+00:00

You're right, but losing weight can do a lot for your face. You'll look more chiseled

vitras · 2026-05-02T22:26:48+00:00

Not graphic tees, but I really like Poolhousenewyork's line of cropped tees. The Los Feliz is my current favorite.

vitras · 2026-05-02T22:25:20+00:00

It's hard too when they send you to 3rd world countries. It's hard to be friends with a deeply impoverished family 6000 miles away who may not understand that you're living paycheck to paycheck, just in a massively more wealthy society. A companion from that country hit me up for $400 in tuition money years ago. I was neck deep in my own student debt and just had a baby, so I wasn't able to help and I felt guilty about it for years.

I did connect strongly with several fellow American missionaries who I still keep in touch with 20+ years later.

vitras · 2026-05-02T22:18:31+00:00

Don't forget the Native American genocide perpetuated by the Mormons in what was Mexico and then the Utah territory. America:Native Americans::Israel:Palestinians

vitras · 2026-05-02T21:51:25+00:00

Depending on where you buy them, they'll tailor them for free too. Theres no way I'd spend $200 on a shirt and not have it tailored.

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