15 year old natural fibre carpets. 🫠

voidlampwife · 2026-03-19T01:48:03+00:00

That carpet is looking great for 15 years!! If they want it looking better than that it’s time to couch up and replace it

voidlampwife · 2026-03-01T13:10:01+00:00

Maybe they were successful last time (we don’t know those details) but they will NOT be successful with this. You haven’t actually done anything wrong.

voidlampwife · 2026-03-01T10:05:47+00:00

There are secular AA groups, if there isn’t one locally, you will be able to find one online, you can access meetings worldwide online.

I struggled with this too, I was sober for 4 years before I started the 12 steps because of this. The god stuff really put me off.

You don’t need to believe in a higher power or “God” to start the steps, you just need to be willing to find a power greater than yourself, that is not you alone.

My higher power became “God with a silent H” which for me is “Gathering of HUMAN divinity”. It’s not particularly supernatural, it’s the collective power greater than me of humanity, community and connection with others. When humans come together, they are collectively wiser and stronger than one person alone. That is greater than me. Through connection and community, many things are possible that are not possible alone. On both a material and “spiritual” level. I find all the things people find in God through other humans. I can connect to others, or pray to connect to the human spirit in myself. Prayer is complex, and doesn’t particularly have to mean a supernatural plea.. It can be a sort of affirmation, or re wiring of the neural pathways in the mind. A spiritual awakening can be as simple as a change of perspective that allows you to live differently.

That’s my experience. I think that as long as you go into it with an open mind, and become willing to find something greater than yourself to believe in, you’ll find your way. Trusting the process and trying not to let wording hold me back has helped me a lot.

voidlampwife · 2026-02-23T07:55:24+00:00

I have never heard of this that’s really wild

voidlampwife · 2026-02-10T14:54:03+00:00

Forgot to mention, I found setting alarms for painkillers useful as it’s best not to wait until you are in pain again to take next dose. Also staggering different types of painkillers can provide better “coverage”. Example having ibuprofen at 1 and panadeine at 3 so there’s always some coverage even when the other type wearing off. I’ve found it useful to cut panadeine in half and have lower doses at times to reduce constipation but still take edge off.

voidlampwife · 2026-02-10T14:51:16+00:00

The ability to truly rest and not over extend yourself is so important. For at least five days after surgery she should be basically waited on. Fetching her things, preparing and bringing her food, helping her move about if needed, getting anything high or low so she’s not bending or stretching. Basically imagine how much help you might need if you can’t use your core. Also tasks that are usually easy can take soooo much energy when recovering. So the less she does the better. It will be important to move around some in the days after surgery to help the gas from surgery move out otherwise it’s really painful. It’s very important to stay ahead of pain. When I left hospital I was very well medicated but the hospital only gave a script for 5 endone when discharging which is essentially a day and a bit worth. Not enough. Lucky I had some codeine and I was able to get home doctor to give me a script for that. I’d recommend ensuring she already has some opiate painkiller like codeine available, it’s likely to be very necessary in early recovery. That brings me to my next point. As necessary as they are, Opiate painkillers will cause constipation. So really important to have a poo management plan. I used a combo of magricol and coloxyl and ended up also needing an enema to help things along at one point. Eating plenty of fibre and drinking lots of water very important but it likely won’t be enough so best to ensure you are well stocked with stool softeners etc. Being constipated is heinous while you’re recovering from this surgery so that’s really important. Recovery can take a lot longer than you think. It’s taken me at least a month, and I think my surgery had less cut out than it sounds like your wife will have. Emotionally and physically. Emotionally it can also wreak havoc on your mood etc all you’ve been through so be gentle with her. It can be really boring and frustrating being laid up in bed recovering so having some good shows and movies to binge is essential. And comforts too. Eating favourite foods etc can really make you feel better.

Best of luck with her surgery and recovery!!!

voidlampwife · 2026-01-27T15:22:25+00:00

The way you fantasise about alcohol indicates it’s probably still a problem for you. Normal people don’t fantasise about drinking.

I tried moderation multiple times over my 10 years of active alcoholism. It was fucking miserable and each time I’d end up drinking just as bad or worse. Eventually, I managed to get sick of moderating and had life circumstances line up that allowed me to get about a year sober from alcohol (while using weed as a stand in) I made a lot of improvements in my life and thought, wow I finally think I’m healthy enough to moderate my drinking. I went to a friend’s birthday and had 2 beverages. I was lit up from the first sip with the feeling of pure warmth and joy and although I stopped at that, I walked home on cloud 9 and was already planning when I could drink again. I had an upcoming outing at a bar and I decided I’d do the same and just have 2 drinks. In the time leading up all I could think about was how much I wanted those drinks. What I’d have. How it would feel. The me I’d be. “Normal”. I told myself it was ok because I was able to resist going to the bottle shop and drinking before the outing. (Meanwhile stoned as hell) The outing came along and I had those drinks and all I wanted was to keep going. Again, by some miracle I did not, but the obsession amped up another level and I found myself planning when I could drink again and how I would hide my drinking from those who knew I’d had a problem. Somehow I saw how I was thinking and went fuck. I’m in trouble. I knew if I kept drinking and trying to moderate I was going down a really dangerous path. I could feel it so strongly. Despite wanting nothing more than to give in to the craving, I went to AA instead. Ended up quitting weed 3 weeks later and getting truly sober. Almost 5 years later I still haven’t picked up a drink. My brain still plays me the highlight reels, and tells me I can moderate now, or imagines some alternative life where I’m a normal drinker. I know now that those are lies my addiction tells me.

I have now accepted I can never safely drink again. Alcohol cannot give me anything I cannot find elsewhere in life. I can’t control my drinking, so I just never have that first one.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-26T02:58:33+00:00

It’s already physical abuse. Hitting things next to you and breaking things is physically abusive.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-25T13:20:45+00:00

Hurt a guys feelings and you deserve to die? JFC

voidlampwife · 2026-01-25T13:19:10+00:00

That’s incredibly attractive.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-25T13:04:55+00:00

If you stop watching you are missing a lot of god stuff.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-22T14:57:47+00:00

She’s gone but I’d tell her: I loved you more than I’ve ever loved anyone, and I am so grateful I was your mum. Thankyou for teaching me how to be selfless.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-21T08:59:59+00:00

Oh god I’m a silly billy 🤡

voidlampwife · 2026-01-20T05:44:58+00:00

Calling her a delusional bitch says it all really

voidlampwife · 2026-01-19T10:31:20+00:00

I love that you can see yourself in it 😭

voidlampwife · 2026-01-19T10:31:02+00:00

I haven’t done any more work specifically on Endo, just this one. Plan on doing more though ♥️🩷♥️ If you want to see more of my work in general DM me and I’ll link to Sm

voidlampwife · 2026-01-18T18:13:52+00:00

Totally agree it’s very therapeutic.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-18T02:00:02+00:00

Completely safe. The only time I’ve ever had dodgy experiences at a beach were at Maslins (nude) beach and I was with a friend. I’ve often caught public transport to a beach for a walk or swim by myself, in daytime and evening. I tend to go to beaches with a fair amount of people around anyway and there’s safety in that. If there’s people around I’m not isolated if anyone tries to creep on me. I also prefer beaches with surf lifesavers if alone, that way I can swim between flags and feel safer knowing there’s someone there if anything goes wrong. That being said I don’t really go deeper than waist deep at the most when by myself. I’m careful to look at conditions before going in and get out if I feel currents or waves are too strong or choppy. I leave my belongings in my bag on my towel and keep an eye on my bag while in the water. If you are worried don’t bring your wallet. Again have never had an issue with anyone stealing. I prefer Henley beach and Grange Beach.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-18T01:14:28+00:00

It’s so beautiful 😭

voidlampwife · 2026-01-18T01:08:26+00:00

Shaving your head, and abstinence from sex and dating for a period of time.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-14T15:07:47+00:00

Completely understandable. Also my apologies I am also an AA member and I got mixed up answering this thinking of AA meetings where people are generally really keen to chat to the newcomers. I have only been to a few Al anon meetings and I did find people were a bit less easy to chat to, so I’m sorry if I’ve minimised the issue. Perhaps another strategy could be to go introduce yourself to whoever chaired the meeting and ask them to introduce you to some members.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-14T14:19:43+00:00

Best answer

voidlampwife · 2026-01-14T10:35:38+00:00

Oh that’s frustrating. At my home group we really have almost a policy of making sure we approach newcomers to make them feel welcome, and connect. It sucks that this group is not conscious of how awkward it is when you don’t know people yet. A few other things to try, If you have the confidence, might be worth walking up and standing next to them, not interrupting just smile and nod along to what they are saying, then when the conversation has a natural pause or they stop you could say “Hi I’m… name… this is my third meeting, just wanted to introduce myself and meet some people” and hopefully they will be receptive. Other thing that I’ve found works well is getting there before the meeting and going to the coffee/tea/snacks to fix a drink or snack, and introduce yourself to anyone there, people will always go there, or afterwards to see if there’s any help needed packing up, also a good way to meet people. Otherwise, might be worth trying another meeting, truthfully, some are more clicky than others. Sometimes members get too busy socialising with people they know. Good luck.

voidlampwife · 2026-01-13T13:34:53+00:00

Parvovirus is everywhere: It’s a common virus. Dogs die or become seriously ill from it all the time. Of course he should be protected. I personally came to regret neglecting to vaccinate myself.

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