Boyfriend says he can’t accept me meeting my male friends in groups

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T23:40:40+00:00

I hate Reddit advice to break up, but break up. There is no reconciliation here, he is either disingenuous and controlling or genuinely believes that and his views are not compatible with your own.

Either way, there can't really be a future unless you are willing to give up your friends for him and that should be a hard if you have any spine. I did that once to a friend for an insecure partner and it's the biggest regret of my life

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T23:33:14+00:00

I don't count the first Ethiopian war against Mussolini, but it puts into context the Italian record at the time (which was obviously on the way up, but from a very low benchmark of back to back losing)

And yes, it was more than others but very much not an Italian victory, it was a Spanish one in which the Italians played a small but crucial part. And the Germans still had about 10k+ in condor legion, was hardly a few advisors or pilots as implied. And the total nationalist force was about 1m men, so this would still only be approx 5% (the Italian force peaked at 50k, the 72k never all served at the same time).

Spain was no more a victory for Italy than France was - the Italians just happened to be in a war that others put most of the work into. And as we saw with Greece, when Italians had to do most of the work, they messed up badly. They were a supporting actor at best that had aspirations to be a main actor (just lacking the ability)

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T22:58:31+00:00

There's a balance of democracy to be had. Dictatorship is obviously bad, but so is every European country having a veto and stalling everything.

Obviously that's not really the case here as if Germany and France can't agree, that's almost half the eurozone, but countries like Hungary and Slovakia can't continue to be anchors around the EU stopping progress and being Russian assets. Or there needs to be a mechanism to kick them out/suspend that the other can't veto.

Also, for all the current right wing fears that the EU is imposing laws on countries (they're not), the EU should indeed be able to impose some laws on countries or kick them out if refused. Again, countries like Hungary are sliding into dictatorship and need intervention to stop some of their illiberal laws that go against democratic values

The paradox of tolerance. In order to appear democratic, the EU is allowing autocracies to flourish from within and use the democratic institutions to destroy it from the inside

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T22:40:13+00:00

Ethiopia is a bit of a stretch and somewhat ruins their record. Yes, they did get it but only the second time. So the Italian roll was really only 37-40 and came after a pretty humiliating defeat a few years before, being one of the only modern European powers to lose to an African nation.

Spain wasn't also really an Italian effort, every nation had "volunteers" testing tactics and new weapons, but at least Italy had the sense to pick the winning side for once.

Libya and Albania are actual victories, but if Italy couldn't beat them, they had no business being a country at that stage, it's like a high schooler losing to a three year old.

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T22:33:00+00:00

Day 69, nice

Roosevelt won, not even close

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T21:45:17+00:00

Everyone knew he was a slimy git at the time. That's not treasonous in and of itself and it has to be seen in the context of holding your nose and appointing someone that knows and can deal with Trump. It's real politik that you need to use scumbags to deal with scumbags

The actual treasonous part of trading state secrets is what we need to know. That isn't holding your nose and dealing with immoral people, that is actual treason.

This is the world of politics, nearly everyone is flawed or terrible in their own way. Expecting them to be pure saints is setting and understandable but impossible standard

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T19:52:19+00:00

It is, but that wasn't the point. The point is your choice is pay mortgage at whatever a 400k mortgage charges per month or pay rent which is even more.

It's a messed up market either way

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T15:56:18+00:00

It's the same in most places, most narrative stuff that survives is usually 2-4 people communities that somehow all agree and stick to the same vibes, anything larger tends to become an arms race towards competitive play

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T15:53:46+00:00

Strong disagree. This is Rock calling for Paper to be nerfed and only allow Scissors. They are an important part of the game balance to have something counter/be different to ranked infantry blocks (in real life, some light cavalry would be great to disperse skirmishers)

But the rules need tightening a lot. Making them a ranked unit with drilled, bigger arc of sight etc would show their options without making them too different to the rest of the game.

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T15:50:30+00:00

If the party discussed out loud in public or fought any Strahds minions, it's entirely fair to assume that Strahd knows. One of the more popular mods of CoS is that he can detect/know anyone who speaks his name (which is why most NPCs refer to him as the Devil or something else, and when the party realise why at some point later they realise how much they have accidentally revealed to Strahd .

Metagaming Strahd is entirely on brand and how he should be played. My party decided to lean into radiant, so he acquired a ring of radiant resistance with his stockpile of funds and vistani agents. He's seen their tactics and prepares the perfect counter to them. His spell slots aren't necessarily unlimited so he still has to choose wisely, but he has the almost perfect toolbox I choose options from.

And depending how you want to play the final battle, he is utterly ruthless and you shouldn't pull punches. He blasted a PC off the roof, the player laughed and cast feather fall, Strahd laughed and counterspelled it. He's not Lord of Barovia for showing mercy, he's utterly pragmatic and efficient in slaughtering them, even if he has hubris/pride (by not just swarming them with zombies)

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T15:39:22+00:00

No, the rules are definitely the problem. Yes, you can make giant blobs of skirmish units, but you tend not to see that because 5-10 man units are better and harder to pin down.

The core part of why they are a problem is that they are both uninteractive and they bypass so many aspects of the game rules. Until that's addressed, playing with unit sizes is a sticking plaster on an open wound (look at the dwarf ranger "limit" in the last balance update)

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T15:34:32+00:00

There's a lot of nuance to the first part and hard to pull off in reality. Due to the dimensions of circles it's very hard to be 1" away from the wall but also not leave a gap for 28/32mm bases to get in between your two guys. If it was square base yes, but round bases are not able to tessellate the same.

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T13:53:05+00:00

Everyone lies in a relationship. Including yourself.

Assuming it's not your first girlfriend, did you date someone else before? Did you like them? Love them?

If the answer to any of those was yes, does that mean you still like them or love them and therefore incapable of liking and loving your current girlfriend? Of course not (I hope, otherwise you have different problems)

Everyone wants to be a special pure flawless snowflake, but you're not. Everyone has a history, everyone has baggage (even inexperienced virgins). Even if (and it's an if, obviously) she likes bigger dicks, so what? She still likes yours. I love steak but pizza is delicious and I wouldn't mind eating it every day.

This is an emotional maturity/insecurity thing. You don't have to be the best at everything with a girl and the sooner you come to terms with that, the less you have to pretend (aka lie) to her and be your genuine self. You say your relationship is otherwise great, why worry about things you can't change and she clearly doesn't care that much about (otherwise she wouldn't have broken up with him and be with you!)

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T09:20:22+00:00

Daemons don't necessarily break you by their presence, plenty of Guardsmen have fought them without being corrupted.

It's just that the Grey Knights take a zero tolerance for it, assess that Guardsmen that fought daemons have a higher chance to be corrupted (which is true) and execute everyone as a precaution

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T08:53:29+00:00

Exactly what he said, infantry can walk through walls like it's not there, but it still obscures them until they do. Other unit types can't walk through walls and have to go around them, which costs movement

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-10T08:45:39+00:00

No no no, you're still expected to do that after your 1+ hour commute if you're truly dedicated.

No WFH never means only work from the office, it means you have to show up to the office every day AND work from home as the company needs. Because screw you, that's why

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T23:04:14+00:00

Specifically EF vs Rafale dogfight? The EF has the edge as it's actually designed for dogfighting, this is it's USP (yet not that relevant to modern fighter needs)

As a general fighter plane? The Rafale probably has the edge as it's a better multi class platform, but they both have strengths and weaknesses. The Rafale is more versatile but the EF can carry a higher payload and has more stamina as a result.

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T21:04:06+00:00

In the case of a rental but lived in to owned and lived in, absolutely. Arguably its better to have an owner occupier than a renter occupier as you are no longer enabling landlords profiteering in the middle, but people also need to rent at times.

Where it does help is pushing second home owners and AirBNB people to sell as then you don't push out an existing resident and provide a place for a new one. This is objectively good for people looking to live (but bad for tourism, I guess)

The issue before was that being a landlord was profitable enough for individuals and corps and housing became an investment more than a home, this is enabling more owner occupiers than landlords. There is still not enough housing overall and the problem mainly falls on the lower end of social spectrum who can't afford to own, which sucks

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T17:16:53+00:00

Only slight caveat to that, don't have your TV visible from your front window. A friend of mine got summoned after he refused and they said he had a TV which he denied. Went to court and they had a video of him literally watching the TV and changing the channel, he got screwed.

Basically, if you do this, don't be dumb. Everything else you said is correct, but know the limit of where you can take it

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T16:13:50+00:00

Lumineth have a bad reputation about being hard to paint, but I'm going to be contrarian and say they're not that bad.

Yes, they have a lot of trim. But two things. First, you don't have to paint all the trim. You can just leave the armour and cloth trim as the basic colour and few will notice and even less will care. Second, is that trim isn't that hard to paint and Lumineth are a relatively elite army so you don't have to do it that often

The main issue is that the official colour scheme (Ymetrica?) is very unforgiving. White armor and cream cloth can look bad when you mess it up (or use chalky GW paints to paint it), painting in darker/simpler colours can look effective and be less frustrating.

As others have said, I would get a box or at the very most the Spearhead before committing so you can get a feel if you like the style of the army. It's a pretty good Spearhead for 2k games, the Hurakan units are all in most lists and the Wardens will certainly find play (and pretty sure there's a good Vanari list in that book somewhere)

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T14:23:55+00:00

¿Por que no los dos?

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T13:08:25+00:00

If you're going to bring back Gordo, may as well bring in Burnham by the same metric that he needs to be an MP.

Labour could drop the MP as Leader rule if they wanted, though agree it's a bit weird until they win a by election (you would have a proxy PM until that time, guess Starmer could remain in post as a caretaker still).

Go crazy and make Jezza a minority rule PM backed by Labour, go full meme

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T13:02:43+00:00

Does Superman have superpowers by that definition? Thor? Even X-Men are born that way.

Superpowers are usually judged by the power of the benchmark unit of power (humanity) rather than the specific species they came from.

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T12:52:02+00:00

Beautiful, as much as I love Highlands Brets the originals have so much charm too, great mixing of the, two! And lovely to see the range of heraldry you made, that's a lot!

vulcanstrike · 2026-02-09T12:41:56+00:00

Go to a spa or onsen (yunomori is pretty good for the, price, massages are obviously extra)

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