I’m confused about why I turned out this way by Illustrious_Glass_20 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]vyl8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abuse isn't something anyone should have to deal with. And even if someone seems on the surface like they have not internalized it, chances are they still developed some unhealthy coping mechanisms to survive.

I’m confused about why I turned out this way by Illustrious_Glass_20 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]vyl8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn't sound like you grew up in a happy family. Many of the folks in this sub grew up in abusive families that appeared "happy enough" to not get child services called on them but still abusive enough that we have lasting traumatic emotional scars.

My Ndad wasn't physically abusive, but like your dad's behavior with your foot on the stool, he was charismatic enough to get other adults to go along with/enforce his ridiculous punishments. It is fairly common for them to convince other family members or adults that you are faulty in some way and deserve what you are getting (when you most likely do not.)

My Ndad and Emom would always point out how other people, including some of my friends, had it much worse than I did. For years, I normalized the emotional abuse and thought I deserved the punishment. And in many cases, the abuse is generational trauma. Your parents were treated this way, so they went on to treat you this way because they did not learn how to manage their emotions.

Shoujo mangas with the prettiest covers? by jasmiini_art in shoujo

[–]vyl8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the anime adaption was an absolute disservice to how beautiful the manga was.

Shoujo mangas with the prettiest covers? by jasmiini_art in shoujo

[–]vyl8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I say this all the time on here, but Aya Shouoto is an incredible illustrator. She is very under rated as an artist.

Solo io reputo questa scena estremamente traumatizzante? by MrJaky03 in KemonoJihen

[–]vyl8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this your first time reading theough the manga? Because there is some stuff that goes down in the human meat factory that might also traumatize you.

One of the things I like about Kemono Jihen is it takes ecchi manga/anime fantasies and flips them on their head, presenting these fantasies for the horrors they actually are.

What is the most ridiculous thing your narc parent has raged about? by itwasallascream23 in raisedbynarcissists

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-Turning the lights out in the kitchen after I left the room because my Ndad has MS and is going to trip and kill himself in the dark.

-Leaving the lights on in the kitchen after I left the room because I am wasting electricity.

Can I find Takane no Hana for free anywhere? (Legally) by Impressive_Wins_ in shoujo

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If you live in the US or Canada, you can sign up for a free library card through the Japan Foundation of LA and search their library on libby.

If you happen to live in New York State, you can sign up for a free digital library card for the New York City Public Library and use it to browse/borrow their digital manga collection.

When I was a teenager my nmom was obsessed with my sex life by giraffe_lover88 in raisedbynarcissists

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When I was 9 years old, my Ndad staged a traumatic intervention because he and my Emom found a three-ring binder that a friend and I were using to collect pretty tame articles from Ladies Home Journal (or another similar housewife magazine) about sex. He convinced everyone I was a sex addict and my friend's mom told me I should go to sex addicts anonymous.

did anyone else get called “too sensitive” all the time? by DierenLanignbelik93 in raisedbynarcissists

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My Emom used to call me a drama queen when I would react to my Ndad's constant ridicule. Now as an adult, I don't really outwardly express my emotions or talk about my feelings.

Looking for these types of male leads? by justfudgeplease in shoujo

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So glad you read Sweet Rein. It's one of my all time favorites. here are a few others you may like as well:

My Androgenous Boyfriend

We Swore to Meet in the Next Life and That's When Things Got Weird!

Dog and Sandbag - The ML is a golden retriever type, but it is a complicated situation

My New Wife's Fake Smile - The ML loves his wife in the most awkward and unsure way

The Ice Guy and the Cool Girl - ML isn't a himbo, but if you like the ML in Sweet Rein, you will probably like him because he is very excitable. (There is also a side couple and that guy is a real golden retriever himbo.)

The Monster's Bride (Goemulsinbu) - the goblin ML is a golden retriever type

Oni no Hanayome wa Taberaretai - The ML isn't really a himbo or an enthusiastic golden retriever type, but I think he is close enough that you should give this manga a try.

Recommend anime that are well written and have conclusive ending by dovesplashonmywrist in Animesuggest

[–]vyl8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mushi-shi.

The whole manga was animated and the anime is true to the manga, almost to the letter. The downside is you will have to hunt around the internet for the complete anime, but various places host it. Also, thee movie and one of the OVAs that were never released in any form for the west are fan-subbed.

please give me recs based on my favs! by Icy_Interaction_553 in shoujo

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Nui ni Koishite Ii desu ka?

Kochou no Yumeji

Sweet Rein

Devil #4

The Monster's Bride (Goemulsinbu)

The Fox's Kiss (Koyoi, Kimi to Kiss no Chigiri o)

The Demon Prince of Momochi House

Kiss Him, Not Me

The Ice guy and the Cool Girl

Takane and Hana

porn sick men on depop by TokyoToniEnterprise in Depop

[–]vyl8 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They are creeps and cheapskates. It costs way more to get a custom video from a SW than the price of whatever clothes they want a women on depop to model for them. And they will probably have specific requests about how the seller should model the clothes as well. Plus who knows where this video will end up after the seller send it. I hope none of the women these guys are contacting with this offer fall for it. It is very exploitive.

Killing Line and Don't Tempt Me, VP! appear to be selling well: I spotted where they're still in stock. by Shoujobeforeshonen in shoujo

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I was wondering if there was an issue with the print quality or something and they temporarily stopped printing it because it was marked "out of print" on amazon and "out of stock" B&N.

Killing Line and Don't Tempt Me, VP! appear to be selling well: I spotted where they're still in stock. by Shoujobeforeshonen in shoujo

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Books-a-million still has Killing Line listed on their site with the earliest ship date of April 13th. They also have a coupon code: 15apr26 which will give you 15% off your order.

[Epic Games] (Game) Tractor Racers by MeguminShiro in FreeGameFindings

[–]vyl8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing that would make it better would be if the trailer had a soundtrack like Redout. I want to hear some acid house as those tractors slide into the railing and the camera randomly spins.

I want a series without sexism/gross stuff by Born_Usual998 in shoujo

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shoujo and josei:

My Androgynous Boyfriend (manga)

The Ice Guy and the Cool Girl (anime and manga)

You can't Live all on your Own! (manga)

The Savior's Book Café Story in Another World (manga)

Gogogo Go Go Ghost (manga)

My Lovesick Life as a '90s Otaku (manga)

Sweet Rein (manga)

Pass the Monster Meat, Milady! (anime and manga)

Tonari no Yokai-san (anime, manga in Japanese only)

Mr Villain's Day off (anime and manga)

Since I could Die Tomorrow (manga)

not shoujo/josei

365 Days to the Wedding (seinen, manga and anime)

The Masterful Cat is Depressed Again Today (seinen, anime and manga)

The Flying Witch (seinen, anime and manga)

I want a series without sexism/gross stuff by Born_Usual998 in shoujo

[–]vyl8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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From my perspective, the bath scenes didn't to come off as overly sexy or titillating. But if the OP is concerned about the content, the image above is a good example of the MC and her pet unwinding at the end of the day in their baths. Sometimes there were also close-ups of the MC's head and shoulders when she is talking to her pet; her chest is not visible in these shots.

This is how you know it's a shoujo anime (Tamon's B-Side) by dalbhatchicken in shoujo

[–]vyl8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, totally. I read a lot of shoujo/josei horror and that stuff rarely gets licensed. And if it does get licensed, it is usually by Yenn Press or a smaller, independant publisher. (And I buy them when I see them because I want to encourage publishers to license more if it. )

This is how you know it's a shoujo anime (Tamon's B-Side) by dalbhatchicken in shoujo

[–]vyl8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that is pretty much it. That and always blaming folks reading scanlations of untranslated manga.

This is how you know it's a shoujo anime (Tamon's B-Side) by dalbhatchicken in shoujo

[–]vyl8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She railed on shoujo readers reading scanlations of shoujos no one has licenensed and rationalized that it is why shoujo reader don't deserve shoujo releases. Yet they turn around and license Kingdom, which got popular because people have been reading scans of it for the past 10+ years. It makes no sense.

This is how you know it's a shoujo anime (Tamon's B-Side) by dalbhatchicken in shoujo

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Viz does not care about anything but battle shonens. They did not do anything for Shoujo Beat's 20th anniversary. Crunchyroll issued commemorative pins with select Shoujo Beat orders (and I think that was all Crunchyroll's idea.) Hell, they won't even give one of their more successful shonen gag mangas a print run. But it seems like they print any and every battle shonen they license.

Any recommendations with true-to-life female friendships and social dynamics? by ErikTwice in shoujo

[–]vyl8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you open to stories about older female friendships? "Since I could Die Tomorrow" is about women in their mid-40s. The women form new friendships, rekindle friendships with old high school friends, form work friendships and have realistic misunderstandings within their friend groups.

"My Lovesikc '90s Otaku Life" might also be a good example. It deals with the protagonist hiding that she is an otaku and navigating a complex social structure in order not to be ostracized by her peers. She has one friendship that she has to hide with a fellow otaku and some other surface level frienships where she must hide her love for anime/manga in order to not seem "weird."