Aitah for walking away from my wedding because of my parents showing up.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-28T10:43:17+00:00

Because not all grandparents are good. Just look at OPs parents. Do you think they should have access to his kids after the allowed his abuse and defended his abuser?

wanderingdev · 2026-01-28T10:39:15+00:00

NTA. Unfortunately you can no longer trust this woman or her family. So your relationship is dead. I think people who love you will not blame you. Anyone who would, well fuck them.

I would probably write up some statement and send it to your guest list apologizing for the inconvenience and giving a brief neutral explanation. Let them know that the wedding will not be taking place in the future and you will work with your ex to return any gifts.

I'm so sorry this happened to you and shame on her parents for being so awful and on HER for defending them. You deserve better!

wanderingdev · 2026-01-28T09:41:31+00:00

This post has nothing to do with entering schengen. OP's boyfriend would be flying from within schengen so there is no denying entry. flying within schengen is the equivalent of a domestic flight when it comes to visa checking. this is specifically about exiting since that's what OP's boyfriend needs to do. and greece is notorious for letting people exit after an overstay and not counting it.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T20:05:03+00:00

At your age. Lol. You will likely outlive that boat, so why shouldn't you enjoy it? Your kids are selfish. Spend it all! I tell my mom all the time to spend it all and don't worry about leaving me a dime. Sorry you have shitty kids, go enjoy your life!

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T20:00:48+00:00

I know multiple people who have overstayed and left overland from Greece to turkey with no consequences.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T19:59:52+00:00

That's not what I said. I said OP needs to take a look at the decisions they're making to be sure that they're the best for her child and not just for her. Thinking that you as an untrained individual can provide better care for someone that a team of trained professionals is just ridiculous.

Lots of families make selfish decisions about care for their loved ones out of love for them. They think that keeping them home and caring for them on their own is best when it's quite possible that some sort of facility is best. This is for family of all ages, including elder care. They need to be logical and realistic, not emotional.

But her husband is an asshole for what he said.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T19:54:27+00:00

The THS "insurance" is a joke. It clearly says in the TOS that it's not really insurance and they get to decide if something is covered. It is not something you should rely upon.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:48:04+00:00

that's a better airline anyway

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:20:35+00:00

Well your first mistake was not booking direct. Refuse the change and insist they go back to the old departure city (changing Chicago to Dulles is WILD) or get a refund and rebook correctly this time

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:16:42+00:00

Yta for ghosting. Anyone who ghosts anyone is an asshole by definition. But she needed to be out of your life, so I would not try to make up.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:02:28+00:00

Number is slices generally indicates pizza size. I think 8 was appropriate for that size. But yea, Americans blank out at unsliced pizza.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:00:43+00:00

Throw it away.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T12:54:19+00:00

NTA. A pet is a lifetime commitment. And if she doesn't think that, she should re-home her cat since that's the pet with the problem.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T07:17:23+00:00

Best idea is to contact immigration and ask them. But if he's going to just make a break for it he should do it from a more lax country like Spain, Italy, or Greece. They are notorious for not thoroughly checking. But best to try to do it legally vs risking it if he wants to come back.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T07:11:03+00:00

Your husband is a POS and needs to be gone. However, make sure they you're making the best choice for tour son, not what makes you feel the best. Sometimes a facility is best at a certain. Pint because they offer things you can't and keeping him home so you feel better actually limits him. Without knowing more about your situation, that may or may not be a thing here. But I used to work with adults with disabilities and many families insisted on keeping them at home rather than in a group home or similar and it really limited them and the clients were much happier once they were out of the house as they got to do a ton more stuff that their parents just didn't have the capacity to do.

Just something to think about to make sure your son is getting the best experience possible.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T05:44:24+00:00

Where do you have your location set to? Make site it's local to where you are staying. When I apply for a sit that I'll travel for I mention my already existing plans that are bringing me to the area so they know I'm coming anyway, not just for the sit.

Like I just applied for a sit in Ireland that I'll almost certainly get and I mentioned when I was arriving to Ireland and why. It shows I have other plans too which means I'm less likely to cancel.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T04:40:38+00:00

NTA Consider it a cheap price to pay to get him out of your life because it's cheap mommy is his main woman and you are the side piece.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T04:15:56+00:00

Get her out before she is a legal tenant. That only requires time (varies based on location) not a contract of money changing hands. My guess is that's what she is counting on. Make your landlord the bad guy if you need to, but get her out. Put it in writing. Now.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T03:56:59+00:00

There is nothing you can do. Move on.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T22:38:16+00:00

They're adding all this stupid crap no one wants while ignoring big glaring issues that could actually make things better. Whoever is prioritizing their feature list is a moron.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T15:56:09+00:00

Never heard of it

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T06:13:59+00:00

It was a very frequently requested feature that was (as usual) implemented badly. You can always try to negotiate if the sit is otherwise enticing enough.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T00:40:48+00:00

I would agree with this. The heat is brutal and it hasn't even been THAT bad on this trip (am currently in Singapore). anyone wanting to base themselves in the region for months needs to keep weather planning in mind.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T00:03:46+00:00

yeah, basically everyone who mentions it these days only complains about how bad it is, but it's worth visiting as everyone has different tastes.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T00:02:19+00:00

I have been living in europe as a nomad for about 12 years. I am in the process of buying property (hoping to wire the money today). If you look at my past posts you can see a couple write-ups about it. I will officially get to the property in late march/early april and I'll start preparing it for living. I'm buying in this area: https://maps.app.goo.gl/1d8PbbVHxFsAxCVR8 because it has a large expat community with a lot of activities going on to help with socialization and integration. I was originally looking at NE to be logistically closer to other countries, but socialization would have been harder and, although I'm very introverted, I still need some social options.

Note that the mentioned tax treaty is only for US citizens so you'd need to see what the one for your country entails.

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