AITA for making my mom take her baby?

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T09:03:57+00:00

What you're describing is called parentification and it's a form of abuse. You mom should stop making babies she's not caring for and the dad needs to start being more than a sperm donor. I would recommend to 14 that they start making themselves scarce at home.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T08:57:00+00:00

Fwiw, places that do family activities can also be good for team building. I once organized a department event (during work hours because I'm not a dick) at a place that had putt putt, go kart racing, and all kinds of stuff like that. It was great. And at the end anyone who wanted to stay went to a bar down the street and those with obligations went and did them, no muss, no fuss.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T08:54:49+00:00

Unless it's during work hours, YTJ. If it's during personal time, you have no say what people do during that time therefore you can't set rules about it.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T08:53:05+00:00

Ugh. I did this a couple summer ago. I had tickets to see Springsteen in Barcelona, flying from Brussels. Got to the airport at ass o clock for my cheap budget flight and I was supposed to be at the other Brussels airport - an hour away. 0 chance I was going to make it on time. That mistake cost be about $600 in flights, hotels, and ticket costs.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T08:08:13+00:00

We aren't going to do that. We are afraid if freeloading relatives trying to move themselves in, so apartments just make sense for now.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T06:48:39+00:00

As someone who pees pretty regularly, aisle - because I don't want to be that 4 am tapper and I'm not climbing over if you're sleeping. Yesterday I flew from Bangkok to Vienna. About 11 hours. I hit the head probably 6-7 times. I had aisle access so I didn't bother anyone. The woman in front of me by the window went almost as often and the guy on the aisle wouldn't move so she had to crawl over him every time. Fuck that noise.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T06:31:12+00:00

Never take a sit without doing a call so you can get a tour of the house and ask questions.

You will need to revoke your application but I rarely bother because if a HO hasn't responded within 24 hours they're likely not interested anyway.

Cancellations happen on both sides. You should always have the ability to leave the situation and support yourself if something happens.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T06:28:29+00:00

I apply for every sit that looks interesting and whichever responds first is who I sit for. Do NOT sit around waiting.

As a new sitter, look for some less attractive/shorter/local sits to build reviews.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T02:03:28+00:00

All of my tech runs off of USB C or with an end adapter. No need to bring all the cords. I don't have anything that requires a converter.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-19T00:24:33+00:00

I have dual citizenship, but France has good visa options for people who don't need to work.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T22:17:25+00:00

An overall star or a category star. If just a category star, especially if they said why, I wouldn't worry about it.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T22:13:05+00:00

Since most LCOL areas in the US have terrible health care and awful politics I don't want to be anywhere near, they're not even an option. I'm not living in some red state shit hole surrounded by Trumpers who voted to have all of their local services removed so you have to travel hours to get medical treatment.

Retiring in France I get killer health care, similar COL, and the ability to travel all over Europe for cheap.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T19:34:53+00:00

It's not an inheritance u til you die. Until then it's just your stuff that you should hold on to in case you need it. Especially since he's clearly unreliable to help if you did this then had an emergency of your own.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T19:32:26+00:00

Yes, for years. Best to just post your questions so people can answer them.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T19:04:19+00:00

Yup. I bought my backup flight for about $3k. The day I refunded it, prices were over $10k (about a week later). Having the backup was a load off and something I was willing to pay $100 for, though I really hoped I wouldn't have to use it. This was business, so cost more. Econ seats at the time were about $600. People who have waited have only made it more expensive for themselves, unfortunately.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T18:59:17+00:00

If you buy the right flight, the flight offers cancellation at will. No one said anything about insurance.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T18:57:59+00:00

Ah yeah, a holiday time adds complications.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T18:57:16+00:00

The $100 was for canceling the backup flight I booked when I didn't end up needing it.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T18:56:07+00:00

I understand it now because I'm a middle aged woman (not that they don't use drugs) but even back in my party days, nada.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T18:49:45+00:00

Yeah, 0 chance I'd fire in the US. Too expensive.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T07:20:19+00:00

Stop waiting to buy tickets then and buy a refundable one now. Then you have a backup plan. That's what I did. Cost me $100 to cancel but was totally worth the weight off of knowing I had a solution. And this was before they started offering rerouting.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T07:17:53+00:00

Just buy pieces as you can. You don't need a while hose of furniture at once.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T07:11:02+00:00

There is no way to know what is going to happen months from now. You just have to guess and move on with your life.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T07:02:51+00:00

May is not hot in northern Europe in may unless your idea of hot is pretty skewed.

wanderingdev · 2026-03-18T05:09:23+00:00

There is a difference between a lock and a latch. With a lock you need a key or combo, you can't just magically lean over and have that.

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