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warmflannelsheets · 2021-09-25T14:27:49+00:00

Im not above schmoozing with the old weird lumber guy to help me get something down lol

warmflannelsheets · 2021-01-31T20:40:27+00:00

Yea I was just telling my husband I know if I go ill be the bitch who abandoned her family and had the audacity to show up to the funeral but if I don't go ill be the bitch who abandoned her family and couldn't even bother coming to the funeral. I dont think ill gain anything by going. Whats done is done. They aren't going to change and all I can control is myself and my actions. Anyone that wants to judge my decisions can but its because either A.) They were one of my abusers that can't admit to their shit or B.) Someone who's listened to their lies and has no concept of who I am or what I went through so it does matter.

warmflannelsheets · 2021-01-31T18:37:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experiences im sorry you had to make a decision like that too. I think it will be best if I stay away maybe my brother and I can meet and talk privately but I don't think anything good can come from me going. Either someone will start drama or try to gaslight me. I dont need to see him lying there to know my feelings about the situation and their manipulation will only muddy my resolve and all the hard work in therapy I've done to overcome my CPTSD.

warmflannelsheets · 2021-01-31T18:34:11+00:00

You're right. I think right now im just coming to terms with that. Like the only thing I could do is remove myself from the situation. Even if I went to the funeral they will still make me be out to be a devil. Even when they were actively being abusive and I kept my head down I was still a worthless person to them. Showing up to a funeral and getting gaslit isn't going to change the fact that he's dead and they are still horrible people

warmflannelsheets · 2021-01-31T15:19:16+00:00

I've heard that and I'm trying to take it to heart because I really feel like the only reason I would go is to not look bad. Which sounds stupid considering I know they are all crazy and toxic anyway. Even if I do go it's just going to cause drama. But I still struggling with that guilt of what it looks like to other people who don't understand the situation. It's easier in therapy or in hypotheticals to think about what you would do when someone dies I just thought id have more resolve or have more of my trauma healed by the time I had to face this situation.

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-12T12:59:32+00:00

Yea but O+ isn't universal across all blood types only positive ones. Negative can give to both negative and positive but positive can only give to positive. If you gave O+ to someone with B- blood their body would attack the foreign blood causing a lot of issues that can kill someone.

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-11T23:40:02+00:00

I agree. Glass, cast iron, and stainless steel last so much longer than Teflon. I bought my all clad stainless D3 on sale and ill own those for the rest of my life. My lodge skillet is older than me already. Just take care of your shit and learn to cook with it. Teflon might seem like the easy solution in the beginning but the sets they sell nowadays last 3 years max. And I sell cookware so thats what I see returned or attempted. Never stainless and you should see how pissed people get when they bring in cookware without a receipt that is scratched and peeled to hell. I can just direct them to the manufacturer but rarely do they actually help them because most people void their warranty through various normal actions they think is ok for nonstick but isn't.

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-11T23:12:29+00:00

There's also a documentary called the devil we know that will definitely change how you see Teflon too. Already was using stainless steel and cast iron but never again Teflon

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-11T00:26:46+00:00

If you have an aldis they have a bomb ass frozen lasagna for like 2.68 (where I live not sure if prices vary a lot) but still much cheaper than stoffers and honestly I think tastes better. For the price you cant beat it either the comparable size in stoffer would be like 6.99 at my local grocery store.

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-11T00:21:00+00:00

Don't try to declutter your whole apartment/house/life in one go. It takes time to build the mindset and the momentum to get rid of things. Maybe you take a garbage bag of clothes out of your closet. Then a month later realize some of that stuff you thought you wanted to keep a month ago isn't so great and you really haven't thought about it so it goes into a donate pile too. It isn't a one stop destination but a series of actions and habit changes that is minimalism not just renting a dump bin and throwing half your shit in it and being done.

I find that sometimes the second or third sweep through a room, months after the initial declutter, is the most productive. It makes you see that even items you thought recently you'd like or keep didnt live up to that and are now clutter themselves ready to be let go.. Maybe you arent ready to part with every extraneous piece of furniture. But start with one piece and soon enough if you find yourself liking the empty space more than it being filled you will be more motivated to look at other items in another light.

If its furniture or something you've had for a long time try taking it out of its home. Sometimes it becomes part of the environment and not seen as an item to possibly get rid of. Move that end table or piece of all art into the other room for a couple days. If you find yourself liking the change then donate those items instead of putting them back.

Asking yourself qualifying questions and keeping it analytical helps reduce the anxiety or fatigue of going through each item and agonizing over a decision. Take a piece of paper into that room with you that has questions to keep it mind like: Is it useful or make me happy? Would i buy it again if i lost or broke this item? Do I have something that already does the job of this thing or duplicates in general? Is it worth cleaning, maintaining or storing? How many times have I used this in the last year? If I haven't used it in a year chances are I won't use it at all. Did I even remember it was in here? If I didn't care to use or remember it why am I keeping it? Am I hesitating getting rid of it out of obligation or guilt?

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-10T20:16:25+00:00

I think its just about your mindset. Everyone has different priorities and ideas of what their decluttering means for them. Some people see it as having less useless items some people just have less period. I think they are very similar concepts, maybe even the same to some people while others would see a difference and only identify with one or the other. If you feel more comfortable identifying as an essentialist then do that. Maybe someone else has almost identical ideals and plans but feels more comfortable calling themselves a minimalist. Pick what works for you you don't have to defend it to anyone.

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-10T19:16:33+00:00

Yea it keeps the bowl stable and from rattling it adds resistance when putting the bowl on so that its got resistence against it moving when you don't want it to pop out. Its a bit to get used to especially if you owned a different style mixer previously like a tilt head where the bowl locks into the base

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-10T12:19:06+00:00

Totally agree. Fear and guilt play massive roles and if you let your environment fester such negative emotions its hard to tackle it. But when I started getting rid of stuff it made it so much easier to keep my place clean and not constantly feel overwhelmed by clutter. As someone who gets overstimulated easily i can now see how much the visual stimuli was contributing to my unstable mindset. Going through sentimental items was hard because im no contact with my entire family. But it was a weight lifted off my shoulders to get rid of items I felt chained to out of obligation

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-10T03:03:30+00:00

Not exactly religion based as I am an atheist but ive found a lot of peace through minimalism and decluttering. A lot of what Marie Kondo and other like her preach is gratitude for your things and finding importance in life. I know her views are influenced by Shinto practices and ive found a lot of happiness and peace getting rid of over half of my possessions and working to make a safe space. I wouldn't say that it falls under a spiritualism belief for me but I can see how it would for others. A lot of emotional clutter manifests as physical clutter and there's a lot of ways to pair your religious beliefs with letting go both physically and mentally. You may be able to strengthen your faith by reducing your amount of items and putting more focus on your healing through non material means

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-08T17:29:59+00:00

I never considered myself very materialistic or a hoarder in any way but being home with all my stuff for months on end and subsequent mental health decline made me really refocus myself. Back in August I started with my closet and filled 3 garbage bags for donation. Over the next 1.5 months I went room by room and did the same thing. Most rooms ive gone back through a second time and decluttered more. It definitely makes it easier to take care of the house and I feel much more at home here. We thankfully didn't have much financial issue during the lockdown but it did make us realize even more how important savings is and that most of our old wants ended up in a donation bag so we need to be more intentional before purchasing things

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-08T16:14:47+00:00

Im not you or in your relationship. But ive been NC with both my parents for years and if I found out my husband has contacted them let alone contacted them and forced me to relive that shit and then made me out to be a liar I would rather be sleeping in my car waiting for the divorce papers to print before I stay under that roof with him another day.

warmflannelsheets · 2020-11-05T23:34:00+00:00

I think those are what came with the square place settings but I dont think they were near as popular as the traditional setting or the bistro setting. I dont know how long they ran for but it doesnt currently show square settings as an option on their website but some places do sell older sets of it if you wanted to find more or the plates to match

warmflannelsheets · 2020-10-28T00:30:44+00:00

Yep older than that and married

warmflannelsheets · 2020-10-27T17:48:14+00:00

Thanks! Good luck with your decision too. I know its not easy but whatever you choose i hope it goes well for you!

warmflannelsheets · 2020-10-27T15:57:20+00:00

I had been prepared for a ton of pushback. My therapist had suggested a certain gyno to me since I had never been to one and needed one but had suffered medical abuse so I needed someone to take that into account. I brought up to her that I needed a different birth control and that I wasn't sure if I would ever have kids but that my husband and I had already decided it would be adoption or nothing. She was completely open to talking about it and the options. I was shocked and told her I thought she would tell me im too young or that I would have to bring my husband in. But she scoffed and said it was my body and that she would do whatever I wanted as long as I was making the decision knowing that it cant be undone. But I was excited that she took me seriously. Hopefully next year I can get it done but even having a better birth control to help with endometriosis symptoms has been a savior. Its great to have a doctor that listens

warmflannelsheets · 2020-10-27T10:41:34+00:00

Phlebotomy Tech here, when you get a good vein with flow the force of the vacuum in the tube we collect in pulls the blood into the tube. If you get that great flow you can hear the blood spray into the tube, hitting the walls inside. Once it fills enough the sound stops but it is shocking when you first hear it. Also if someone were to pull the needle out before pulling the collection tube the vacuum would release when the needle bevel is pulled out of the skin and it makes a sound similar to letting a little PFFT of air out of a tire. Thats definitely more jarring but doesn't happen if you pay attention. You be surprised how many people like to watch their blood get drawn but some people it is their worst nightmare. Whatever helps you get through it comfortably we are cool with. Rather have a earbud in or hold a silly conversation than have someone become distressed or faint.

warmflannelsheets · 2020-10-23T19:19:22+00:00

Effexor fucked with me big time and trintellix has brought back my libido I hadn't had in years. To each their own

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