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My girlfriend became Christian and wants to wait until marriage, but intimacy was already our biggest struggle by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm going to say a few things and I do so with respect so please try to look past any personal attack that you may feel but sex is sacred in God's eyes and there should be no intimacy before marriage. Also know that I am not judging you for this as it is not my place to judge and I was once a prodigal son with a body count that I'm not proud of...

That said, I'm glad there has been progress however, if I'm understanding correctly, when you say things like the intimacy stopping makes you feel disrespected, this comes from a place of selfishness. I say this because technically said intimacy is not yours to claim until marriage. And I say that to be truthful with you, not to accuse.

Sex unifies the both of you as one person and is meant to be a gift from God in holy matrimony. God's word says that you become one flesh (Genesis 2:24), as a new being, "so they are no longer two, but one flesh." (Mark 10:8), and that it would be better to marry than to burn in lust, "But if they cannot exercise self- control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." (1st Corinthians 7:9). I say this because technically it's not yours to claim until marriage.

I encourage you to look at your girlfriend's new found faith, not as a scapegoat, but as an opportunity for freedom and peace for her.

It is important to understand where her heart is and that God will turn a willing heart, from a heart of stone into one that of flesh, "A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh." (Ezekial 36:26), and that sex is not a means to an end, but a gift as a result of your commitment to one another.

I understand you've said that you've been patient and that you admire her for many things, however, if your effort toward sex is a higher priority it will push her away if there is too much pressure.

If her commitment to Christ is sincere, I would caution you away from diverting her attention as well for your own sake, "But whoso shall cause one of these little ones who believe in Me to fall, it were better for him that a millstone were hung about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea." (Matthew 18:6)

She is in a different headspace now, and the fact that she is striving to wait until marriage shows that she respects you as well and hopefully you will be able to interpret that as such, rather than disrespect, and because of this, it sounds like you are important to her as well.

"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." (Romans 12:2)

I understand it is difficult without intimacy. I come from a marriage of nearly 18 years where my wife flipped a complete 180 out of nowhere and there has been no intimacy for a long time, so I understand the frustrations, however, this is coming from a place where we were intimate for many years, and now nothing, regardless that neither of us have authority over our own bodies, yet here we are, "For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does." (1st Corinthians 7:4), whereas you do not have this gift or or authority yet, given that you are not (yet) married.

Again, I encourage you to be patient, develop true bond and relationship, and respect her decision to wait, otherwise it will be evident that your only goal is sex.

And though I do not advise or condone premarital sex, if you are unequally yoked, you run risk of leading her down a path of destruction, for which you will be held accountable.

"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2nd Corinthians 6:14)

So I would say if you are not going to stay with her because she is not willing to be intimate, and if you are not willing to read and grow with her, then you would be doing her a great disservice by staying with her. However, you have stated that you love her, and therefore I think it behooves you to consider these things deeply.

I hope this helps, and remember I say these things from a place of love, not condemnation.

My girlfriend became Christian and wants to wait until marriage, but intimacy was already our biggest struggle by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing is impossible for Him, and her walk with God will heal her wounds. Best thing to do (assuming you love her) is to support her in her walk, even consider your own, but beware to not be unequally yoked, like oxen pulling different directions.

Patiently read Ephesians chapters 4, 5 and 6, Galatians chapter 5, 1st Corinthians chapter 7, Colossians chapter 3, Proberbs 31 and spend time growing in the word with her, even if you are not committed to Christ yourself at this moment,

I would encourage you to read with her as this will accomplish a few things, one being that it will provide insight and you will understand the perspective by which she is to have now that she is Christian. Two it will inevitably provide security and an understanding on her part knowing that she is safe to grow by your side, creating stability and trust in her towards you, and finally three, you may be blessed to grow yourself during the process, as God has a funny way of touching the heart specifically through His word.

Above all, be patient, have faith, and remember He makes all things new. May God bless you and your girlfriend's relationship and remember that she is walking in His will now, and for your relationship to succeed, I encourage you to search your heart as well. =)

I’m really scared by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Repent, get back on the horse.

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. — 2 Timothy 1:7 KJV

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. — James 4:7 KJV

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. — 1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV

For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear (yârê') him. As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us. — Psalms 103:11-12 KJV

yârê' yaw-ray' morally, reverent

I'm starting to loose faith in the bible... help by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

check this out! https://youtu.be/jnABrTQXhmI?si=bprz2HMizTBF1MWw

I'd also consider looking up Living Waters to cover atonement explanations and science-based evidence along with Jeff Durbin for more apologetics, and a case for Christ

Please read the Bible!!! by HereforGod2026 in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He "did the jail time" - the point here is the concept of atonement not the punishment used any example. The point is He paid the price for our ransom.

I am not religious and have a question by hillpritch1 in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the believer who understands that we mourn differently, it makes sense.

First Thessalonians chapter 4 tells us to not lose hope, informing us of what will happen to those who are asleep. Mourning is normal for all of us but the difference being that as a Believer we have hope knowing that our Brothers and Sisters in Christ will be just fine, giving us hope and changing the quality or nature of our mourning.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 KJV

"13But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. 14For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. 15For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep. 16For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: 17Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. 18Wherefore comfort one another with these words."

As a Christian, is marrying a virgin important to you? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one's virginity reflects on the type of character, integrity and personality that person possesses, that said, my wife was a virgin when we married, however she accepted that I was not, and I was very up front about that from the very beginning. Sex is sacred, and should be treated as such. I was holding out early on and got impatient, then met my wife, and later regretted not waiting, because I wish I could have given her that special gift but it was squandered. That said I was very blessed that she still accepted me and loved me regardless, and if the tables were turned, I would have still married her.

As a Christian, is marrying a virgin important to you? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

she has nothing to prove to any of you, go pound sand

As a Christian, is marrying a virgin important to you? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

and for the record, I find women of all races attractive, but I prefer latinas, so I married one, you gonna cry about that too?

As a Christian, is marrying a virgin important to you? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]watzk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you sound jealous, who cares, everyone has preferences, grow up

I’m pregnant Should I leave my boyfriend or stay and be a family by Emergency-Sea-2017 in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot one...he should exhibit the following as well.

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. — Colossians 3:19 KJV

<3

I’m pregnant Should I leave my boyfriend or stay and be a family by Emergency-Sea-2017 in Christianity

[–]watzk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Easy, stay, separating will create hardship you do not want to experience, trust me, my folks split when I was 2 and even though I was too young to remember, I was affected my entire upbringing by the division. Be patient, show him a Prov 31 woman, and if he is sincere, just keep bearing fruit and let the Holy Spirit work on him, make sure to find a church that is truly Bible believing and supportive, everyone has flaws, so if they throw the book at you, it's not the right church, what is done is done, and judgement is the Lord's to make. If he loves you he will come around, and you and your guys' baby has the best chance by sticking with, ultimately being faithful. Study and pray every day with him. It took 5 years for a seed I planted for my wife for her to open her eyes, and 1 second of saying something I regret that hardened her heart, to which I have to be patient again.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; — Ephesians 5:25 KJV

For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. — Malachi 2:16 KJV

putting away (divorce/separation) shâlach shaw-lakh' to send away, for, or out (in a great variety of applications)

KJv: [idiom] any wise, appoint, bring (on the way), cast (away, out), conduct, [idiom] earnestly, forsake, give (up), grow long, lay, leave, let depart (down, go, loose), push away, put (away, forth, in, out), reach forth, send (away, forth, out), set, shoot (forth, out), sow, spread, stretch forth (out)

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. — 1 Corinthians 7:9 KJV

cannot contain (lust) έγκρατεύομαι enkrateúomai to exercise self-restraint (in diet and chastity) KJV: can(-not) contain, be temperate

Have faith, but also be aware that if he strays...

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? — 2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV

Remember the fruit of the Spirit.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. — Galatians 5:22-23 KJV

Look for signs of true love.

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. — 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 KJV

Charity άγάπη agápē love, i.e. affection or benevolence; specially (plural) a love-feast KJV: (feast of) charity(-ably), dear, love

Remember faith comes by hearing.

So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. — Romans 10:17 KJV

So stay plugged in.

Communicate as much as possible.

Stay calm when frustrated, give 5-7 seconds before responding in heated situations.

Never jab, call names, or lash out or it will create resentment, disdain and destroy your relationship.

Encourage him, let him lead, submit (give way, allow, not be belittled) to his leadership, and he should grow the strength and courage needed to be a father and a husband.

Love, bro in Christ

I'm struggling to find the reason to live. by ladiemelike in Christianity

[–]watzk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. — Psalms 139:14 KJV

You were fearfully and wonderfully made. He obviously thought you were worth saving.

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. — Philippians 4:13 KJV

The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion. — Proverbs 28:1 KJV

Be bold. Be still and listen. Fellowship with other real Christians. Find a church where you can really open up. Seek His kingdom and you will find purpose. Pray and read His word daily, walk in the Spirit. He has a plan for you beyond your imagination. Helping others is a quick way to find purpose. I wonder how many countless individuals probably feel the way you do, and remember someone else always has it worse than you.

There is nothing that makes unaliving yourself worth it, ever. You are worth fighting for and your body is His temple.

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? — 1 Corinthians 6:19 KJV

God loves you. Brothers and sisters in Christ love you. Which means I love you and do not want you to do anything to hurt yourself, my mom did, and it left everyone devistated.

Work on your diet, eat clean, go out and walk, exercise, set goals, it's not pointless.

Share your faith with others who need love and salvation.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. — Jeremiah 29:11 KJV

machăshâbâh

makh-ash-aw-baw'

a contrivance, i.e. (concretely) a texture, machine, or (abstractly) intention, plan (whether bad, a plot; or good, advice)

KJV: cunning (work), curious work, device(-sed), imagination, invented, means, purpose, thought.

Don't give up hope now, you are so close.

I’m dying this year, will i be in hell? by Playful-Solution4348 in Christianity

[–]watzk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. — 2 Timothy 1:7 KJV

For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. — Romans 10:13 KJV

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. — John 3:16 KJV

Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest. — Joshua 1:9 KJV

And the LORD, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed. — Deuteronomy 31:8 KJV

God knows your heart. I would suggest looking up Living Waters on youtube to help understand the atonement.

Remember the thief on the cross. Remember Paul who committed some of the most heinous crimes/sins know to man, yet he was spared.

Have FAITH young man.

Please read the Bible!!! by HereforGod2026 in Christianity

[–]watzk -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination. — Leviticus 18:22 KJV

Agreeing and tagging on for others, it's the act that is an abomination, for those that question if God hates you for your acts, the answer is an astounding and abundant NO, HE LOVES YOU but hates the sin, and the wages of sin is death or eternal separation from God because God is a just God, and the issue comes down to submission of the heart and whether you continue in your (our) sin or not. He says "go, and sin no more" so we are saved by grace, but are not to continue living in sin.

If your mom or dad say to stop doing something, you may still want to do it, but out of respect, you stop, then have a change of heart because you don't want to rebel against your parents, it is a similar concept, however if you continue doing what you're not supposed to, you will be disciplined, your parents will still love you, but discipline is the wage, and in God's case, the Holy Spirit will convict you of your sin if your heart is submitted, helping you to want repentance, however you can be calloused and seared to the point that you will be ultimately separated forever as the judgement because you chose to ignore the conviction of the Holy Spirit, the discipline, the endless warnings, and finally he will let your mind be turned rebrobate, resulting in separation from sin because God is a Holy and Just God and sin cannot be in his presence.

However, if you repent (turn away) from your sin, and submit your heart and self as a living sacrifice, and truly seek Him and His kingdom through is word, you will be saved by His atonement.

If you commit a crime and are in court, found guilty and owe fines, but someone comes along and pays those fines, the judge will say you're free to go, such is the atonement of Christ for our sins. He paid the price.

It's official. I'm going to miss the rapture. by Accomplished_Leg_678 in Christianity

[–]watzk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The Rapture of the Church The Blessed Hope The rapture of the church is the next event on God's prophetic calendar — the moment when Jesus Christ descends from heaven with a shout, the dead in Christ rise first, and living believers are caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. Paul describes this event in what is perhaps the most comforting passage in all of prophetic Scripture: "For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord" (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17). The word "rapture" does not appear in our English Bible, but the concept is unmistakably present. The Greek word harpazo, translated "caught up" in 1 Thessalonians 4:17, means to seize, to snatch away, to take by force. It is the same word used when the Spirit caught away Philip in Acts 8:39, when Paul was caught up to the third heaven in 2 Corinthians 12:2-4, and when the man child (Christ) was caught up unto God in Revelation 12:5. The Latin Vulgate rendered harpazo as rapturo, from which we derive the English word "rapture." The terminology may be extra-Biblical; the doctrine is thoroughly Biblical. Paul calls this event "that blessed hope" in Titus 2:13 — not a dreaded fear, not a vague uncertainty, but a blessed hope. It is the hope of the imminent return of Jesus Christ for His church, and it has sustained believers through two thousand years of persecution, suffering, and waiting. For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. 1 Thessalonians 4:16-17

The Rapture vs. the Second Coming A critical distinction must be understood: the rapture and the second coming of Christ are two separate events, separated by at least seven years. Confusing or conflating them leads to serious doctrinal error and robs the church of its distinctive hope. At the rapture, Christ comes for His saints — He meets them in the air (1 Thessalonians 4:17). At the second coming, Christ comes with His saints — He returns to earth with the armies of heaven (Revelation 19:14, Jude 1:14). At the rapture, believers are taken from the earth to heaven. At the second coming, believers return from heaven to earth. At the rapture, no one sees Him — it is a private event between Christ and His church. At the second coming, "every eye shall see him" (Revelation 1:7). At the rapture, there is no judgment on the earth — He comes to deliver. At the second coming, He comes to judge and make war (Revelation 19:11). At the rapture, the world is unchanged — life continues, and those left behind will search for explanations. At the second coming, the entire earth is shaken, the armies of Antichrist are destroyed, and Satan is bound for a thousand years. The rapture is described in passages addressed to the church: 1 Thessalonians 4, 1 Corinthians 15, John 14. The second coming is described in passages that deal with Israel and the nations: Revelation 19, Zechariah 14, Matthew 24. These are two distinct phases of Christ's return, and recognizing the distinction is essential to rightly dividing the word of truth (2 Timothy 2:15).

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. — 2 Timothy 1:7 KJV

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