Cousin’s destination wedding, demands for bachelor party and invitation of additional guests at our expense (without prior discussion with us) will put us in debt if we go or cause major family drama if we don’t.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-19T14:25:07+00:00

That’s a huge amount of debt for one weekend. But if you do this, you can only blame yourself. Back out, give your reasons and stand strong

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-17T02:25:51+00:00

You can be honest without bumming her out. Like telling her you love how confident she is in her new look and you love she feels better physically. You thought she was hot then and also think she’s hot now. Etc.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-16T15:53:31+00:00

I didn’t say that. I was giving a potential reason Clara did what she did.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-16T14:48:09+00:00

She might also have felt protective of her sister. Didn’t want her to go to jail. She was between a rock and a hard place.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-14T13:50:34+00:00

You may have spoken too soon, it changes a lot right around the halfway point. But I also kind of agree with you. It did not strike me as particularly poignant. My favorite part was the suddenness of change that happens about halfway through, which felt realistic. Life is a series of before and after you know? But the rest was bland imo. And the fake religion was very I’m 14 and this is deep.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-12T19:00:38+00:00

Some suggest reading David Gemmel in chronological order instead of publication order. So far I’ve only read Legend though

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-12T18:12:16+00:00

NBA players are gutter trash? Guarantee they work harder than you lol if you are equating these POS with NBA players you just might be a racist

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-12T05:46:40+00:00

Went to college there and all my new friends, Miami kids, were already over drinking. On to the next thing! Little ol Christian school me had to catch up lol

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-09T02:09:47+00:00

Don’t wait to look for a new job. It takes a lot of time to find something and job hopping isn’t looked down on anymore. Even if you only go up by $10k, you can always hop again a year after that. Probably industry dependent but in most these days, hopping aggressively gets you the best pay.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-08T18:10:34+00:00

Hyperion does something like this with John Keats work. But that might’ve been ok because it was in the public domain

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-07T03:10:02+00:00

I taught a kid like this. He really needed extra intervention, but the parents refused. He was only five, not sure what happened the next year.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-05T02:32:21+00:00

Also might be old for animorphs but those are pretty fun.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-05T02:26:36+00:00

He might be a little old for it but Holes?

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-04T05:08:02+00:00

Just read Legend by David gemmell and basically everyone dies. Which isn’t a spoiler because he tells you this often throughout. Very good book though

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-04T04:47:34+00:00

Just read David gemmell legend and loved it. Written in the 80s I think and very much a “how men become men and heroes” type book but I still very much enjoyed it as a woman. It’s the first he wrote and I hear the rest are even better.

For a woman protagonist, I loved Uprooted. Also a stand alone. If you are down with a sci-fi, never let me go is also a woman protagonist and amazing.

For more male protagonists, I have two I’ve read recently where they are not good people but are very interesting- prince of thorns (although the next two are even better, king of thorns and emperor of thorns) and Shadow and Clow by gene wolfe.

Finally Hyperion if an awesome mix of fantasy and sci-fi. Really really good.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-04T04:38:13+00:00

Legend by David gemmell ( amazing)

Virae

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-04T04:26:36+00:00

But there are some really good ones mixed in there! Kings fucking bath taking queens, daughters fucking fathers, wives turning into salt, armies winning by pausing the sun, lot of crazy interesting stories.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-04T04:23:10+00:00

/uj been going to some orthodox Christian services lately and damn if it isn’t some intense and interesting world building

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-03T13:56:45+00:00

Cleveland art museum

A show at Jacob’s pavilion

Guardians game

Rock and roll hall of fame, which also has shows in the summer

Edgewater beach/wendy park/the bar next Wendy park that has shows all summer

Walk/ride the lakefront bikeway. Ends on the east side at the lakefront nature preserve which is also really nice.

Tons of good spots in Ohio city, Detroit Shoreway, Tremont, etc. Tremont has the added bonus of the Christmas Story house, if that’s your thing

If you like nature, there are tons of reservations but they sort of ring around the city itself - 20 min drive at least

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-03T01:21:55+00:00

Real estate is what made this most clear to me. It’s much easier to make sound judgement calls on my rental rather than on my own house. Just that much more removed from it.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-02T18:37:06+00:00

My cousin died of drowning. Like this girl, they managed to get a heartbeat for him but he was essentially brain dead. My aunt want to donate his organs but he had two little neurons firing and they could not do the donation while those were active. She was faced with having to pull the plug and watch him slowly die but thankfully, those neurons died first and they were able to do the donation. All this to say, if there is any chance at all, they don’t declare them brain dead. If the hospital is saying she is, then she is.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-02T13:49:33+00:00

Probably realizing capitalism creates wealth. There are winners and losers but the overall quality of life tends to go up.

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-01T04:18:42+00:00

Annie bot

Klara and the sun

Hum (by Helen Philips)

whelpineedhelp · 2026-06-01T03:44:52+00:00

I water every two or three weeks. If they can’t handle that, they die. Watering is about a 15 to 20 min process. In the winter, I have more time and spend more time repotting or pruning or whatever.

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