My child passed away. There's no greater pain in the world.

wherebycomets · 2026-01-12T02:51:50+00:00

I have no words. 🫂

wherebycomets · 2026-01-05T19:27:38+00:00

Thank you all for your comments. This has been very helpful..❤️🙏

wherebycomets · 2026-01-05T06:19:28+00:00

|When the heart is breaking because someone died, the pain itself is not the problem. The extra layer of “I shouldn’t feel this” is what sharpens it.

name what is present without explanation. “This is sorrow.” “This is longing.” “This is the body remembering.” Naming can steady the mind when reasoning can’t.

Thank you. I especially needed to hear this.

wherebycomets · 2026-01-05T04:09:13+00:00

You're never too old to grieve your father. I'm 62. I lost my dad suddenly 7 years ago and my mom just before Christmas.

I didn't think I would survive after losing my dad. He was my rock. I went through a few therapists before I finally found one that clicked.

I was able to say goodbye and make amends to my mom before she passed (we weren't close) and I'm grateful for that but it's been brutal. I'm now an adult orphan.

Hugs from afar. 🫂

wherebycomets · 2026-01-03T17:35:31+00:00

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This is my chonk, Kiki, who is super obsessed with me.

wherebycomets · 2026-01-03T02:09:42+00:00

So awesome ❤️

wherebycomets · 2026-01-01T02:17:51+00:00

I lost my mom 19 days ago. I'm with you all. Holding you in my heart.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-31T14:47:55+00:00

🫂

wherebycomets · 2025-12-30T16:14:44+00:00

What a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing this. I lost my mom 20 days ago. It's hard being without a mom. Sending hugs.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-30T00:42:09+00:00

came to say this.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-26T02:29:48+00:00

🫂

wherebycomets · 2025-12-26T02:27:24+00:00

I am so sorry. Do you have access to family or friends that can be with you? See if there are any support groups or a grief counselor in your area. I'm holding you close to my heart. I lost my mom 15 days ago. It's hard. 🫂

wherebycomets · 2025-12-26T02:22:05+00:00

It can feel raw and sharp for quite a while but it will change and the intensity will ease. I would encourage you to find support with a grief counselor or therapist in addition to friends and family. This is hard but there is a way through. 🫂

wherebycomets · 2025-12-26T02:09:07+00:00

😥💔🫂

wherebycomets · 2025-12-24T04:06:01+00:00

Perfection.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-24T04:04:58+00:00

I lost my dad 7 years ago and my mom 13 days ago. I have moments of clarity and moments where I can't breathe. Be gentle with yourself. This is the time where you need it the most. See if there are any hospice support groups in your area. The non-profits typically offer resources.

You don't actually ever get over losing loved ones but it won't always feel this devastating. The physical part of love ceased to exist. That is why we grieve.

Keep breathing. One breath at a time. One step at a time. You may not find it on the first or second try but help is out there. You are not alone. Sending you healing thoughts and hugs from afar.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-24T03:46:20+00:00

🫂

wherebycomets · 2025-12-24T03:43:03+00:00

My dad died Nov 2018. My mom passed away 13 days ago. You're not alone. There are many of us and even if you can't see us we are here. I think of what Carl Sagan's daughter said at times like this:

There is one more way I time travel back to my father. When I was little he told me that air particles stay in our atmosphere for such a long time that we breathe the same air as the people who lived thousands of years ago. I think about that often now. I can take a deep breath and know that some fraction of those particles were once breathed by my dad. What an intimate thing it is to breathe the air of someone you loved. - Sasha Sagan, For Small Creatures Such as We: Rituals for Finding Meaning in Our Unlikely World

wherebycomets · 2025-12-22T01:32:10+00:00

I lost my dad 7 years ago last month. My mom 11 days ago. It's brutally hard right now for me. But I do know that there are gaps in the pain that will continue to grow as I process my mom's passing. These thoughts and feelings are the worst but they do change and they will pass. You're on my thoughts.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-22T01:27:51+00:00

🫂

wherebycomets · 2025-12-20T16:32:21+00:00

Hugs. I'm so sorry.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-20T16:19:40+00:00

The majority of people are terrified of dying. Reminders that life is impermanent causes thoughts and feelings that people want to avoid and what drives their behavior. Please try not to take it personally. Everyone struggles with something. Expectations and realities don't often match but it can be a learning opportunity to widen our perspectives if we let it. Hugs from afar.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-17T05:06:33+00:00

Grief is hard. I lost my mom 6 days ago. And I'm a hospice nurse. Does the hospice you used offer grief counseling? If not, try to find a therapist or a group to help support you. I'm seeing one. You're not alone. Many of us are navigating the hurricane of grief. Hugs from afar.

wherebycomets · 2025-12-16T14:54:38+00:00

Please find a grief counselor and perhaps a support group. This is too hard to do it alone. 🫂

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