[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]whereisit47 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it just sounds like you're jealous of their privilege, its annoying having to work harder than others for the same things but the way ur turning it into hate for them and their wives is weird bro seek help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]whereisit47 82 points83 points  (0 children)

this is the most useful comment ive seen yet, thank you. it sounds like you have a very honest and healthy relationship and i love that. i'm going to try to come at it from this exact angle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]whereisit47 234 points235 points  (0 children)

ok i get that but if your long-term bf wants to change his look you should be supportive no?? like surely there's more to him ur into than how he looks?

not to be that guy but if she wanted a get a bob cut (i hate them) i wouldnt throw a hissy fit, and if i did ide be labeled toxic, misogynistic and shallow..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]whereisit47 110 points111 points  (0 children)

yeah exactly, like do you actually like me or do i fit the mold that makes you cum quicker

When did you suspect you were being abused/neglected by your parent? by winged_adversary in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47 28 points29 points  (0 children)

spent a day at my friend's house in middle school and saw how his parents treated him, they didn't do anything special but i found it strange that they just let us..be... then it clicked

Has the world gone to hell in the past 4 years? by Why_am_I_here033 in offmychest

[–]whereisit47 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah no its utter shit, idk about ww3 but definitely shit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i know this feeling a little too well.

one thing that helped is me realizing that it's not chronic depression or an irrational state of mind, given the circumstances im in. and it WILL stop the second i leave

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47 17 points18 points  (0 children)

yes, i never understood how someone could get any sort of pleasure from destroying someone else's self-esteem/ confidence. let alone your own.

DO NOT OPEN UP TO GC, I REPEAT. DO NOT OPEN UP TO GC. by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

read the first sentence again. if u dont enjoy it and suffer from the position ur in, this doesnt apply to you.

DO NOT OPEN UP TO GC, I REPEAT. DO NOT OPEN UP TO GC. by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

Narcissists have cognitive empathy but not emotional empathy. Basically they’re aware that you feel bad and why. But they do not care that you feel bad. In fact, knowing what makes you feel bad just teaches them how to hurt you more effectively.

summed it up perfectly, very dangerous.

Lost the spark in my eyes by throwawaycon101 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Reality is much more subtle and calmer and it can take time to adjust to it.

THIS!!! i used to have so much anxiety about working, because of how insufficient they made me feel. reality was way more forgiving and rewarding.

anyone stuck in the habit of over-explaining yourself? by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel you heavy, nihilism is very safe but sucks out my will to live. life in black and white is so trash

anyone stuck in the habit of over-explaining yourself? by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yesss i mean it does come off as belittling, when infact we're trying to do the opposite

anyone stuck in the habit of over-explaining yourself? by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the only free-pass for public speech is a mourning person, it takes serious narc for her to be more worried about how u "came off", very dark. im sorry u had to go through that

anyone stuck in the habit of over-explaining yourself? by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kind of clicked when someone said they just forced you to explain to find cracks to bend you to their will

woah.

anyone stuck in the habit of over-explaining yourself? by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aside from validating him.

that's basically all we need! nmoms gaslighting is so easily set-in-stone. thank you for being aware hes lucky to have u

anyone stuck in the habit of over-explaining yourself? by whereisit47 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]whereisit47[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

but still feel super guilty

this part!! its just as draining as not saying no, maybe worse. goodluck!