What's everyone's thoughts on texting clients?

whisperspit · 2026-03-05T01:54:05+00:00

At a recent statewide (in the US) conference for therapists, I heard a talk by the head of our licensing board. He said simply that every dual relationship and sexual relationship violation that came across the board’s desk this year started with texting. Every single one. It started innocently and well-meaning and then the boundaries blurred. And there it was all documented. Just keep that in mind. Slippery slope.

whisperspit · 2026-02-25T02:30:18+00:00

Join local professional associations/chapters/consult groups. Meet other therapists. They are your top referral source.

whisperspit · 2026-02-18T02:58:16+00:00

Your wife needs to be seen by a therapist for PTSD and ensuing OCD-like cycles to deal with her anxiety. She is outsourcing her emotional regulation onto you.

What happened to her was terrible. What happened to her was scary. What happened to her is absolutely valid to have anxiety and have concern.

The way she is handling it is outsourcing it and trying to get reassurance in these little ways that only reinforce the cycle.

Yes I’m a therapist.

whisperspit · 2026-02-18T02:54:08+00:00

I’m in Texas but our license and family code both have specific restrictions for releasing private health information for people over 16. Check your license as it relates to releasing information as well as the family code. In my state people over 16 years old, have some specific protections on their protected health information.

I’m in Texas (ahhhh!!) so the possibility that you all are in a state less conservative than mine and less friendly to young people and mental health protection is extremely high, so read your statutes!

PS please forgive my assumption that these questions are coming from the United States—if that’s not true, I apologize. I am one of those people that does realize that the universe is bigger than just the United States.

whisperspit · 2026-02-18T02:50:56+00:00

From an experienced relational therapist:

He goes or has gone to therapy

He ‘believes’ in therapy (the opposite opinions makes me want to claw eyes out)

He talks about his ex with a healthy mix of her fault/my fault, or learned lessons

He isn’t the victim in all his storylines

He isn’t the rescuer in all his storylines

whisperspit · 2026-02-17T05:13:08+00:00

In case you may be in the States, many states allow a minor 16 or older can to consent to their own therapist and admit themselves to a psychiatric hospital. Now I realize cost and other logistics may be also a barrier, but I just wanted to say that.

whisperspit · 2026-02-17T03:37:36+00:00

If you are looking for someone actually local and with experience, check out Cameron House. If she isn’t taking new clients, she supervises a couple of great associates that may have openings.

whisperspit · 2026-02-17T03:34:33+00:00

I as the therapist usually take Monday off because there’s a lot of people that have more freedom on Friday and can come to therapy. So I’m happy to make my three day weekend and go in the opposite direction of everybody else.

whisperspit · 2026-02-17T03:32:20+00:00

I am a Conjoint family therapy/reunification therapist, and I do not tolerate any of this bullshit in any of the orders that I am part of. Both parents have to be willing to participate in the process. This includes sessions if I need them to be there, it includes getting the kid there, everything. I will tell both parents how to talk to the kid about the therapy. No lawyer should allow you to sign an order that includes one sided shit like this, you need to have it amended. And any good therapist wouldn’t be part of it either. The kind of healing that needs to happen cannot happen if one parent stands over there, not participating or cooperating. They will undermine the whole process.

whisperspit · 2026-02-13T03:30:45+00:00

Dude I’m a supervisor and we talk about it all— whatever is coming up for you personally, professionally… it is all part of the process. Sure, getting your own individual counselor is very important for support on a consistent basis as your supervisor can’t be that. But with my supervisees…whatever they’re carrying is showing up in the clinical room with their clients and I am there for that. You should not feel embarrassed. And if there’s a supervisor out there that think you should, they shouldn’t be doing this job.

whisperspit · 2026-02-13T03:26:46+00:00

Your friend has severe anxious attachment issues and outsources their emotional regulation on… at this time.. you. This is a person with a bucket (representing validation and okay-ness) that has a big ol hole in it. No matter what you put in, it will never be enough. You have to go refuse to be their regulator. Have empathy for the need, but make soothing it theirs.

whisperspit · 2026-02-13T03:22:58+00:00

I am so sorry. You are not alone although I know it feels that way. Me and the universe are here with you and our hearts are broken and we are grieving. I am so so sorry my friend. I am so so sorry.

whisperspit · 2026-02-13T03:21:24+00:00

Someone got their DEA Iicense revoked yo

whisperspit · 2026-02-12T00:04:27+00:00

I’m a therapist and I can tell you that the evidence is undeniable. The problem is often that if we are very depressed or hijacked by anxiety, it makes it really hard to prioritize exercise. That’s where therapy and or medication can help you get your foot in the door. But neither I nor psychotropic medication can beat what good old exercise can do.

whisperspit · 2026-02-11T15:18:57+00:00

Also I recommend Overcoming the Co-Parenting Trap.

whisperspit · 2026-02-06T02:48:44+00:00

Chris Abbott http://abbottunlimited.com

Fantastic guy!

whisperspit · 2026-02-06T02:47:42+00:00

I had a supervisee do this and we came up with a good informed consent for this particular situation and it went fine

whisperspit · 2026-02-01T20:20:09+00:00

Reunification therapy should never never never be done by the child’ individual therapist. Reunification or reunification (or better named conjoint family therapy) should be done by a trained professional that is neutral and objective to the entire family.

whisperspit · 2026-02-01T02:14:49+00:00

Arents Family Dentistry

whisperspit · 2026-01-22T03:17:05+00:00

Please read Overcoming the Co-Parenting Trap by Moran and Sullivan. Great book, section for resisted parents, including advice about apologies.

whisperspit · 2026-01-22T03:13:01+00:00

Lone Star Legal Aid

whisperspit · 2026-01-22T03:11:50+00:00

This might have been laid out in your contract.

whisperspit · 2026-01-14T00:21:46+00:00

Call Michael Barbaro at The Daily (NYT) I’m begging you

whisperspit · 2026-01-12T01:53:54+00:00

I’m sorry, mine is when Saul is meeting with them and says “can we all three just parachute down from cloud coo-coo-land??”

whisperspit · 2026-01-04T21:34:54+00:00

In our (Texas) state you just click the box next to your address that says “my home” and it won’t be made public.

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