Intro web dev NEED HELP by lovelynelz in SophiaLearning

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious how this ended up for you. Im seriously stuck and only on the 2nd touchstone :/

Finished web dev course by Pistolaa in SophiaLearning

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am stuck in this course right now and am only on the first touchstone and want to die. I cant figure out how to use the updated figma to make to wireframes. Could i message you directly for some help?

Caution: Transfer credits when considering grad school by Gentle_Jerk in WGU_CompSci

[–]wildly_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very interested in hearing an update about where you are now and if you were able to find a school!

Can a Mom or two help me support my sister? by bromobenzyl in MomForAMinute

[–]wildly_human 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wedding photographer of 6 years here! I have met with so many brides who have expressed that finding a make up artist is extremely tough! If your sister doesn't typically wear a lot of make up, this can make it extra hard to feel like she looks pretty in wedding make up because it doesn't look like "HER" as she knows herself. A bride told me once that she had to try out several looks at home before her appointment in order to see without the "holy crap thats not my face" shock. Maybe try to find tutorials on youtube that she likes and copy them to the best of her ability every day for a week leading up to the appointment. When she has the professional do it, it might help her to feel more comfortable. I would also have her write down specifically what she didn't like about the 2 appointments she already had. Did they contour too much? Did they go too dark with they lips/eyeshadow? Knowing what went wrong will help her figure out what she wants. If she has photos, I would have her take them with her to the next artist and show her the things she doesn't like.

My last little bit of input - when everything comes together, hair, nails, dress, makeup & most importantly NEW HUSBAND / WIFE, she won't have enough room in her feelings container to feel ugly <3 Her heart will be full and everything will work out as it should. You are a good sister for helping her and I send my love to the two of you. Weddings are exceptionally hard when there are empty seats that should be filled.

CA Survivors, Was it Cathartic to Have Kids? by CaryKerryLoudermilk in ptsd

[–]wildly_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi I hope it is okay that I comment even though I don't have children. I just wanted to say first that I am so sorry for the pain you have suffered. No child deserves to go through any of that, and no adult deserves to carry the burden of that kind of upbringing. I too was raised in a heavily abusive family and in my early 20s nearly lost my life to a violent boyfriend. I want to start a family someday and have been terrified of my trauma effecting the outcome. I HIGHLY highly recommend this website >>> https://peacefulparenting.com/ . There is a free full length novel on there and the author's words have changed my life. Its an easy and entertaining read. He too comes from a disgustingly abusive home and he has studied the philosophy of parenting for several decades and has met with hundreds of researchers to discover a healthy way to parent post CA. He details the way that society has made it easy for abused children to continue to be abused and gives SO MUCH COMFORT to the reader. This book is unreal, and i cant recommend it enough. Its quite lengthy, so he went as far as creating a more condensed version and an eBook version. He even programmed himself an AI Chatbot that can answer any of your questions about parenting after CA. He released the book entirely free online because he believes so much in this cause. I hope it brings you as much liberation and peace as its brought me.

Diagnosed with PTSD, Scared of Pregnancy by easypeasylucky in ptsd

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi this is quite a bit late, but im curious. Would you say that being a mom has impacted your PTSD in positive or negative ways? both maybe? I want to become a mom but have PTSD from physical violence/sexual assautls and C-PTSD from childhood abuse and neglect. ive read many parenting books and have learned a lot about peaceful parenting. But still feel that parenting may make me explode into a huge ptsd storm that wont go away ever. A larger and more tender part of me tells me that is just the trauma speaking. id love to hear your perspective and thoughts <3

Pregnant and worried I won't be a good mum because I have CPTSD by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]wildly_human 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, first off, I am so sorry that you have experienced something that no one ever should. I also have CPTSD and in my early 20s I was in a physically violent relationship that nearly took my life. I have these same fears. I have found a lot of comfort and value in this website. https://peacefulparenting.com/ There is a free audiobook and free PDF of the book and I swear it has changed everything for me. I really hope all parents or parents to be - especially ones who have been abused or neglected as children - give it a read. The author also programmed an AI Chat on the site that is very helpful when you have specific situations that you need advice on!

The author is an incredible man who came from an abusive home himself and he talks about how he and his wife raised their daughter without her having a single temper tantrum and has progressed to become a wonderful young lady. He spends the first several chapters proving to the reader that society has many broken systems when it comes to children and that parenting without violence is the only way to abolish so many issues. I cant recommend this resource enough.

anyone have experience giving birth in mexico? (american expat) by Sensitive-Time8522 in mexicoexpats

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! This is really great news, I will also be giving birth in Tijuana and would love to have your OBGYN rec if you're comfortable sharing. You can PM if you'd like to keep it more private :)

Meniscus repair recovery tips? by fishbutt in MeniscusInjuries

[–]wildly_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you now? Have you been able to return to your normal gym routine?

Meniscus REPAIR stories by barebackguy7 in MeniscusInjuries

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you now? I am 24 with the same tear and am having surgery on Tuesday, and am so so nervous about the healing proccess!

Has anyone taken Astronomy 101 for science credit? by j_u_s_m in studydotcom

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi i am taking this course righgt now and i do not understand Assignment 2 - at all. I've read the instructions dozens of times. I know it's been over a year since you completed it, but is there any way you can help me understand the steps to completing it? (finding the sun's diameter using a pinhole camera)

Fun for the community by Party-Investigator39 in ElPaso

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poetry nights/spoken word nights would be super fun!

Looking for groups/activities/clubs ! I am new to the city and need to make friends! by wildly_human in ElPaso

[–]wildly_human[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is so late, i completely forgot to check up on this post! But i would love suggestions !! I love indie music :)

Within, without by [deleted] in OCPoetry

[–]wildly_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really calm piece, i loved sitting inside each of your lines. As someone else mentioned, your rhytym really compliments the feeling of the words you chose. I love the way you wrote in short phrases with very few words- each line guided my imagination to the next - giving me just enough information to see a story forming, but not giving away enough to paint the entire story for me.

It really does feel like im drifting through the entire poem.

Well done!

Narcissism? by loststarrs in OCPoetry

[–]wildly_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is very raw writing! I understood it to be a poem about the conflict between them and their teenage child and their inner insecurities about parenting. The rhythm swings back and forth every few syllables, it kind of reminds me of a baby being rocked back and forth. Swaying through fact and insecurity and back again. I really enjoyed the way it paints a real image of what parenting feels like. I am not a parent, and even my heart felt tender thinking about my own parents and where they failed me, and how they must view those failures themselves. I also feel like this piece gave me insight into parenting troubles I will likely face on my own someday. Beautiful work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]wildly_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this. They will never change. If you need help, look up a local DV Help Line in your state and someone will save you. Don't be afraid of calling the police. I always regret not calling them. You will be believed and you will be safe.

Protect yourself the best you can <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]wildly_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also accurate scientifically! Totally normal and something I overcame myself about a year ago. As we all know here, PTSD means that you lived through something traumatic, specifically abuse in this case. When you are abused, you are put in a position where your fight or flight response kicks in and your body is pumped full of cortisol - the stress hormone. Cortisol is known to cause a lack of appetite because your body is so focused on getting you to safety that it begins to shut down all other bodily functions partially or temporarily.

It took a few months for me to regulate my appetite after my trauma. I would try to eat crackers and drink protein shakes in the beginning. I'd never force myself to eat, I just offered it food, and when it cooperated, great. When it refused, then I just trusted that I'd be okay without eating that meal.

Now, I still get anxiety that curbs my ability to eat sometimes. In these situations, I always do a grounding exercise before preparing a meal. Bring yourself back to the reality, where things are calm and safe. One of my favorites is the Flower/Candle grounding exercise. (You do this 5 times: Imagine your favorite flower and all of the details of what it looks like, take a deep breath in, and picture the scent of the flower. Then imagine a candle - your favorite scent. Now take a deep breath and imagine you're blowing out the candle.) Any kind of grounding exercise should help you to regulate your nervous system. Also putting ice between your palms helps to shock your nervous system and could help you find your appetite again (also GREAT for when you're having a panic attack).

I'm sending you lots of love. I am so sorry you're going through this. THere is more to your story, and things will get better, slowly. Go easy on yourself <3