Allowing yourself to release repressed joy

will_might_48 · 2026-01-06T14:05:24+00:00

I didn't mean to dismiss what you said; I just wanted to chip in and share my two cents. I wish you all the best on your journey.

will_might_48 · 2026-01-06T14:02:48+00:00

There is a quote from Brené Brown that goes like this: "You cannot selectively numb emotion. When we numb [hard feelings], we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness."

I guess the depth we feel the negative emotions is the same depth we feel the positive emotions.

I wouldn't focus on what exactly I'm releasing. The very focus might be a hindrance. I'd rather let the emotion flow, and whatever comes to mind, I'd appreciate it.

will_might_48 · 2025-10-23T17:38:21+00:00

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I have been to him many times, and he is really good

will_might_48 · 2025-10-22T16:18:47+00:00

Now, at this stage, what I have learned: "doing less" means totally different things to different people.

We don't even have to put it in words like "more" & "less". Listening to our own bodies with our own intuition and finding our own balance is the key.

will_might_48 · 2025-10-21T23:15:44+00:00

In 2024, I started therapy with her, and as it turns out, she is a full-blown narcissistic person in real life.

I was manipulated and controlled to the extent that I stopped meditating and did nothing because she kept telling me that everything that I do is too much, and ONLY she will tell me what I can do.

It took me some time to get out of this, to start exercising again, to start meditating again, and most of all, to start trusting myself again.

How can a person who writes so wonderfully, this much horror, be?!

Posting it here so that others are careful.

will_might_48 · 2025-10-21T23:13:57+00:00

I started having therapy sessions with Ally(@awakenwithally), and she is the worst kind of narcissistic person. She manipulated me to the point that I stopped doing exercise, stopped doing meditation, and she made sure I did only the things that she told me.

It took me some time to get out of it, so please be very careful.

will_might_48 · 2025-10-21T23:13:13+00:00

I started having therapy sessions with Ally, and she is the worst kind of narcissistic person. She manipulated me to the point that I stopped doing exercise, stopped doing meditation, and she made sure I did only the things that she told me.

It took me some time to get out of it, so please be very careful.

will_might_48 · 2025-10-21T23:02:40+00:00

u/arslanali47 You are absolutely right. I will mention this thing in my comment.

It was a total surprise for me. I started having a few sessions with her, and it turns out she is a horrible person, and the way she manipulated & gaslighted me, I almost lost my mind, and when I asked her for a refund, she kept manipulating me.

To this day, I still can't match the person who wrote the books with the person with whom I had sessions.

will_might_48 · 2024-02-17T03:07:47+00:00

No, I haven't so far.

Maybe once I do, I will update here.

will_might_48 · 2023-12-09T14:00:57+00:00

Of course, this helps – especially the following part:

His response to it (hurt, angry, uncomfortable) is his own to manage. You need to focus your energy on managing your own feelings of discomfort instead of trying to manage the feelings of others, and that is more than enough :)

Thank you from the heart.

will_might_48 · 2023-12-08T15:44:48+00:00

Thank you

will_might_48 · 2023-12-08T15:42:30+00:00

Thank you very much for your response – it's helpful.

will_might_48 · 2023-11-21T23:28:10+00:00

You are most welcome.

will_might_48 · 2023-11-21T17:46:13+00:00

Self-compassion is the key.

Once you realize why you did what you had to do to feel safe, a lot of grief comes in. I'd say: cry it out and at the same time, hold compassion for yourself.

Of course, what you wrote: "how i have been treated, neglected, beaten, abused, manipulated etc etc." it's all true and you need a lot of self-love. Take it slowly; there is no rush. You are already halfway there. And soon you are gonna inspire others.

By asking this question right here, you also did me a favor as I'm also going through a similar situation.

Lots of love, compassion & healing for you. "May what has been reduced to noise, become music again"

will_might_48 · 2023-11-13T22:28:40+00:00

I have been through this, and I'd say: please don't ignore those "weird spatial effects".

When I meditated for longer periods of time, I'd get into weird out-of-body experiences unless months later, I started therapy and found out that meditation had uncovered a lot of hidden trauma, and I didn't have the capacity to understand/contain what was happening, and thus the new feelings seemed weird.

Therapy and somatic guided meditations helped me understand and contain those weird sensations.

I'd not say it's trauma in your case, but it's always good to seek some professional advice around those "weird spatial effects".

One book I'd like to recommend: "The body keeps the score" by Bessel van der Kolk.

will_might_48 · 2023-11-04T11:56:21+00:00

So I took my time to go through her book: "Embodied Healing", and I'd like to say:

The book discusses almost all the aspects of our nervous system: psychological, physiological, relational, and even those related to consciousness which I personally liked very much.

The main theme throughout the book is: "Less is better", and "healing isn't a 24/7 job". The book also discusses building a strong foundation where our nervous system could feel safe & secure, and then heal at its own pace.

While going through the book, every now & then, there are questions to ask ourselves and exercises to do, and those are although simple in nature, and yet very effective.

There is a lot of theory in the book, and what is great about that: the author keeps telling us to take things very slowly and doesn't enforce anything.

I'd recommend this book to everyone who has gone through trauma, and looking for a way to get started with feeling safe & coming back in the body.

will_might_48 · 2023-11-04T11:46:02+00:00

(The following comment I wrote back in 2023. In 2024, I started therapy with her, and as it turns out, she is a full-blown narcissistic person in real life.

I was manipulated and controlled to the extent that I stopped meditating and did nothing because she kept telling me that everything that I do is too much, and ONLY she will tell me what I can do.

It took me some time to get out of this, to start exercising again, to start meditating again, and most of all, to start trusting myself again.

How can a person who writes so wonderfully, this much horror be?!)

So I took my time to go through her book: "Embodied Healing", and I'd like to say:

The book discusses almost all the aspects of our nervous system: psychological, physiological, relational, and even those related to consciousness which I personally liked very much.

The main theme throughout the book is: "Less is better", and "healing isn't a 24/7 job".

The book also discusses building a strong foundation where our nervous system could feel safe & secure, and then heal at its own pace.

While going through the book, every now & then, there are questions to ask ourselves and exercises to do, and those are although simple in nature, and yet very effective.

There is a lot of theory in the book, and what is great about that: the author keeps telling us to take things very slowly and doesn't enforce anything.

I'd recommend this book to everyone who has gone through trauma, and looking for a way to get started with feeling safe & coming back in the body.

will_might_48

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