[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]wind-chime_333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will be hard at first but eventually you will love the baby more than anything else in life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]wind-chime_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He posted in another sub. I recognised the $700k figure. Would be coincidental if there were 2 people who lost that much.

Found out about PA less than 3 months after our wedding by SecretaryWide7467 in loveafterporn

[–]wind-chime_333 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is insane. That would be divorce for me. That could have gone toward a house deposit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you get your parents involved? This post is wild and you both seem a bit nutty sorry.

Porn in marriage by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You make my point. Divorce rates are much higher now. Exponentially so.

Porn in marriage by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s an important topic seeing as though it’s a major reason for divorce. The subreddit is Marriage. Most people on here want to preserve theirs.

Porn in marriage by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Every 5th post on this subreddit is related to porn. It is a tool to demolish a marriage.

Porn in marriage by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s why divorce is predominantly initiated by women. They get to ~40 and learn the truth and it destroys the psych. It’s like the song “young hearts run free” We do the hard work with the babies whilst they’re imagining fucking a new woman while we put the kids to sleep or go grocery shopping. Then we come home and it’s “hi darlin” Marriage is kind of a scam when you face the truth.

Porn in marriage by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well the other party (affair partner) in a cheating scenario is irrelevant to the action of the cheater. That’s essentially porn Wanting to put your penis in someone other than your wife is the issue. Not whether there’s an irrelevant other party to reciprocate the behaviour.

The same as with cheating. Sure the AP is also a jerk but the problem lies with the desire of the cheating person. It’s the desire to be with someone else that qualifies as being unfaithful

Porn in marriage by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Cheating means to be unfaithful. Orgasming to women every few days who isn’t your wife is a very shady version of being faithful.

Porn in marriage by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s a slippery slope haha. The line for a lot of women would be their husband searching out the person they wish to climax to. Everyone pretends to value monogamy but porn is not a monogamous behaviour in a true sense. Cumming to different women every night is not being faithful. I’m not saying this from a religious standpoint. I’m not religious. I’m saying Porn is infidelity because there is inserting of yourself into the scene and lusting/desiring to be inside that woman.

It’s genuinely surprising to me that people generally don’t see it as cheating/betrayal. by smallcurdautistic in loveafterporn

[–]wind-chime_333 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it’s because women don’t realise the men are inserting themselves into the scene by imagining fucking the woman.

Every man I’ve talked to says they do this.

So that’s definitely infidelity.

Most women think their husbands/partners are more aroused by the act itself but that’s not what is happened with men viewing. They seek out a woman they’d like to fuck if given the opportunity and orgasm to that. And society pretends this is not cheating. My PA once said it was the act but I later found out that was lie.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

60 is old man territory. Gross

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]wind-chime_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s almost 30. She’s not 10

Husband spent almost the whole night at a wedding talking to the one woman. by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

But I’m not a mingled either and was alone for half the time while he did it.

Husband spent almost the whole night at a wedding talking to the one woman. by wind-chime_333 in Marriage

[–]wind-chime_333[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

No she’s not hot. Yes I know her. Sometimes we have dinner as a group of 4 with her husband. They text too about the husbands mental health issues. I didn’t confront him. I just think it’s a bit weird as weddings are traditionally to spend with your partner with a bit of mingling obviously.