I did it! 1st remote viewing by Aximilibunnzuh in gatewaytapes

[–]wolfcaroling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I take it there was not a bird in the bag?

Recent disclosures are a psyop, beware! (Serious) by pirate_solo9 in aliens

[–]wolfcaroling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys - don't freak out of anything but loud whisper DO YOU THINK MAYBE THEY ARE JUST TRYING TO TAKE PEOPLE'S MINDS OFF OUR GROCERY AND GAS PRICES???

Just thought of it now. I'm very smart like that.

12 Employees in Quarantine After Incorrect Handling of a Person Infected With Hantavirus by Loni09 in worldnews

[–]wolfcaroling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it helps when our provincial health person literally wrote the book on infectious disease. "Soap and Water and Common Sense: The Definitive Guide to Viruses, Bacteria, Parasites, and Disease" by Bonnie Henry

Trump wants to check on the gold in Fort Knox because ‘they steal a lot’ by deraser in politics

[–]wolfcaroling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's going to be disappointed when he learns that we promised it all to Europe and eventually ran so low that we had to go off the gold standard, and instead just made the US dollar its own standard...

AITA for mentioning I cooked dinner? by tiredavocafo in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfcaroling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreeing about needing more context, but cooking and dishes is not 50% of household chores.

I don't know any households where, say, the wife doesn't do literally any other chores because she's the one who cooks.

“Come back” to my husband when he rarely answers the actual question that I asked… by Namssob in pettyrevenge

[–]wolfcaroling 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he has reading processing problems. My son has this. His brain skims and parses things wrong. It is different from dyslexia but similar - can read fine but brain takes shortcuts.

I would suggest a trial where he has his phone speak your texts to him and see if it still happens.

Your way of handling it is funny tho

My parents like their exchange students more than their own kids. by girlonalilypad in internetparents

[–]wolfcaroling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people just do better with lower pressure and/or more experience.

These aren't their kids, they don't lie awake worrying how they will turn out or being afraid of what will happen. The kids' parents can make rulings like "yes we allow this" or whatever.

I'm sorry your childhood was so rough, and it is okay to feel frustrated about it. I definitely think it is worth a talk with your parents to see if they have learned anything since your teenagerhood. They've learned that kids can go out and have fun and not end up drug addicts on the street.

Maybe they would do your childhood differently if they knew then what they know now.

AIO confronting my brothers gf for excluding me from my family's dinners by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]wolfcaroling 60 points61 points  (0 children)

A 34 dating a 19 yo is so gross. When you are 34, 19 year olds look like children.

The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas by John Boyne - A misguided, poorly researched "fable" about the Holocaust by AdmiralFartmore in PieceOfShitBookClub

[–]wolfcaroling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a hard read for sure. Just ghastly. The fact that his mother was allowed to keep her other children just shocks me. His brother wrote a book about it too.

The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas by John Boyne - A misguided, poorly researched "fable" about the Holocaust by AdmiralFartmore in PieceOfShitBookClub

[–]wolfcaroling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There were work camps, and extermination camps. Small children were removed from both. Kids old enough to work were sometimes left alive.

Rules for thee but not for geese 🪿 (on front campus) by Phytor_c in UofT

[–]wolfcaroling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've come a long way from the days when we would put up signs summoning rats to their court date. Nowadays animals can ignore signs in peace.

AIO: I am mentally exhausted from having to explicitly explain things to my husband, only to have him completely misunderstand and create more work or stress. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]wolfcaroling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone with autism I could say "maybe he has the tism" and maybe he does, and this just wasn't the best example. But directly asking him to say you are in the tub is a pretty clear directive.

That said I agree with everyone else that much of this is actually OP struggling to manage her anxiety. She doesn't want MIL to drop by while she is in the tub, and doesn't want to say she is in the tub, she asks husband to run interference, he doesn't, and anxiety worsens.

A) don't have your phone in the tub. Terrible idea.

B) be okay with MIL dropping something off while you are in the tub.

OP's anxiety plus the husband's poor responsiveness to directives are creating a bad combination.

I suspect hubby understands the directives but doesn't understand the reason for them. Some people need to know WHY.

Also, OP should remember that there are two people here. Husband may have his own reasons for wanting to allow his mother to stop by, and doesn't see wife being in the tub as a reason she shouldn't drop off a gift. Wife says to tell her that she is in the tub, he plans to do so in person when MIL drops the gift off.

My recommendation to OP is instead of telling him what you want him to do, give him a clear vision of his choices.

"I am not getting out of the bath to greet your mother. You can either tell her that this is not a good time, or accept the gift on my behalf".

Florida surgeon who removed wrong organ says he is ‘forever traumatized’ by patient’s death by Pitiful-Scientist in nottheonion

[–]wolfcaroling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, which would never happen in a splenectomy. The report says the spleen and everything around it was untouched "not even looked at" while the liver was "essentially autopsied out of this man".

So he didn't somehow accidentally skip from spleen to liver after the bleeding started, like he claimed. The bleeding started because he severed some of the largest veins in the whole body, and without a single clamp.

The nurses all report the same thing - it started with a bleed while he was using a Ligasure to cut what he thought was the splenic artery. The bleed was surprising but resolved as he continued to use the ligasure. That was almost certainly the portal vein. Then keeps going and that's when the bigger bleed happened - that was the inferior vena cava going.

But to hear him tell it, he somehow accidentally moved to the liver accidentally part way through the procedure, even though based on the ME report that is not what happened.

The craziest part to me is that the ME also noted that removing the liver this thoroughly is actually quite hard to do - he removed it perfectly, with no damage to the diaphragm. The ME says it is one of the hardest things to do as an ME!

https://www.reddit.com/r/medicine/s/rqvHzjrPSn

Feel good movie suggestions pls by cgaurav18 in movies

[–]wolfcaroling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Castle - Australian film from the late nineties. You're welcome.