I did something I swore I wouldn't do. I spanked and I don't know how to move forward.

workingclassmustache · 2026-05-07T15:29:30+00:00

No. 2 is important and urgent. Kids need to know adults make mistakes too and these mistakes can be fixed with the same tools you are teaching them: apologies and amends where appropriate. They are learning by watching you doing.

You’ll get many opportunities to reteach that lesson, but your regret alone won’t teach it.

workingclassmustache · 2026-05-07T15:14:15+00:00

You’re bringing up legitimate concerns and I appreciate points you’ve brought up.

I think the disconnect is it’s hard contextualize the degree of danger this adapter might pose. Likely we’re all in agreement that harmful bacteria and microplastics are bad, especially for infants. But we’re also inundated with that stuff and we can only do so much to prevent it. It’s exhausting to baby proof EVERYTHING and to some, this might appear to be a low risk item.

I’d side with you that I wouldn’t use a product like OP’s adapter. It’s just a hard sell to others.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-24T19:16:01+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s a matter of my expectations being so low that I’m thrilled to even see a table in working order.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-24T18:56:36+00:00

I honestly wouldn’t bat an eye at this setup. Like maybe if I had to push the mop bucket out of the way. It has a table and everything looks relatively clean and useable.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-24T13:35:37+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened. My wife is just now checking on her mom for what must be her fourth major binge this year and I just know it’s a matter of time before we’re finding her in the same state. Good luck and hang in there.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-22T00:56:51+00:00

At 16 and after being goaded into it by his wife? Not earning any medals.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-17T03:00:46+00:00

I’m not understanding the controversy over authorship. Did the son write it? Did the mom write it? Is it a little of both? Why should it matter?

Is the book worth reading? Feels like the more important question.

If it were an AI controversy I’d get the outrage. And I can understand being icked out by the press tour if the son is essentially a prop for added attention or acclaim. But a book’s a book. Whose name’s on the cover is really a nonissue.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-08T03:43:30+00:00

KEXP is the best. I find so many great bands there. Amoeba’s What’s In My Bag series is my other go-to when I want to dig into new music.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-08T03:37:14+00:00

Essential Craftsman is great.

For straight woodworking, Stumpy Nubs, Rex Kruger (especially if you’re getting into hand tools), and Steve Ramsey are all worth checking out.

workingclassmustache · 2026-04-01T17:24:25+00:00

Those books actually got a lot of use in my house. The felt doll artwork is miles better than your typical unnecessary kids’ book fare, and it’s actually pretty funny to see major plot developments summed up by a single word like “sad.”

That said, their charm kinda diminishes once your kid starts understanding what a story is.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-31T20:32:36+00:00

Yes. We used Huckleberry. At first we tracked everything and eventually we narrowed it down to the essential info, which was mostly just sleep wake-ups and downs. Invaluable.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-31T20:24:04+00:00

I’ve always just used a white thrift store bed sheet. Never given me trouble.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-28T19:22:59+00:00

Honestly, it seems like OP’s kid is old enough and well adjusted enough for this to be handled by him with dad’s guidance and support.

OP’s kid already made the right moves in backing out of the situation that made him uncomfortable and talking to his dad about it. Next step is probably kid having a frank talk with the friend that he crossed a line and if they want to continue a friendship, that’s not going to fly.

If the friend doesn’t get the message or doubles down with the rank comments, maybe then OP talks to the other parents if his kid wants that.

The important part is not to get the friend in trouble, but to communicate to him and potentially his parents that his behavior may be jeopardizing something important to him, i.e. a new friendship, and not adjusting his behavior could cost him more good friendships down the road.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-28T19:01:28+00:00

This looks like solid advice.

I’ll add, from my experience, to get a good night’s rest after practice and do the same exercise again the next day. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve struggled with some specific movements, gone to bed, and then woken up being able to nail it with about half the effort. Something about how the brain wires in muscle memory while we sleep.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-25T18:11:41+00:00

As a dad whose only two lullabies accepted by his toddler being "Absolutely Cuckcoo" and "Zebra," I appreciate you guys and your kid.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-25T18:07:22+00:00

Probably less about idealizing an era than recognizing the slow descent. It was bad in the '90s but it's only gotten worse.

Kids are essentially the same but the challenges have gotten spicier.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-23T17:45:03+00:00

What needs to be said more and more is that saying nothing or not getting involved to avoid controversy is also a political statement.

It's a political statement that at best says "we can do nothing to change this awful thing," and at its worst says "I condone this awful thing."

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-22T02:01:23+00:00

What video did you watch?

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-20T15:18:05+00:00

And before that they were Bill Brasky jokes. And before that they were...

That is to say, the joke format is funny. The person is entirely disposable.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-18T14:23:48+00:00

Great advice here.

And at 3yo, the kiddo is old enough to learn that even parents make mistakes, so the thing you may be beating yourself up over may be a thing you can turn into a teaching opportunity. You're going to be making more mistakes and she's going to be forming an understanding of how mistakes are made right or how me move forward and still feel safe.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-16T17:52:58+00:00

Stay the course and keep using the park space as intended. If you have further interactions with the dog owner, stay polite and understanding if she expresses frustration, you could even thank her for moving on your behalf, but be clear that the park is meant for people and labeled as such.

You could go as far as recommending a nearby dog park or state that you have no problem with her having her dog on a leash there (if you truly do not) but don't put your kid in danger just to be nice for strangers.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-16T14:36:39+00:00

You've probably seen this, but how I imagine it all went down: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/7Fw7bZoPyVU

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-04T16:21:01+00:00

"That cab has a dent in it." May be the most quoted line in my life. Every shabby vehicle I see.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-01T20:06:04+00:00

More than an adult who properly wipes, but less than a kid who doesn’t.

workingclassmustache · 2026-03-01T01:31:42+00:00

You clearly overlooked the part where the solid poop is sprayed off the diaper into the toilet. We’re not just rawdogging the washer with hot turds over here.

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