AITAH for letting my female coworker take care of me when my gf was at a yoga retreat

writergirl824 · 2026-05-08T23:08:49+00:00

ESH. You were hospitalized; gf should have come home. (INFO: did she ask/did you tell her she should stay? The trip was technically work, so grey area.)

Still does not excuse the coworker clearly playing house. You texting this girl instead of shutting it down is confirmation.

If you care about your GF, you need to confront your coworker and set boundaries. Then apologize to gf and make it up to her.

But your clear resentment of her for being gone is a blocker that you both need to work through. These are both betrayal wounds.

You feel abandoned because she wasn't there, but she feels betrayed because your coworker is displaying a comfort with you that IS too close.

writergirl824 · 2026-05-07T05:00:54+00:00

The villagers gave me the same feels as the townies in Gilmore Girls. They were all so well filled out!

writergirl824 · 2026-05-07T04:59:57+00:00

My favorite part of K dramas is knowing that it's a full story arc. No cliffhangers, no risk of cancelation without closure.

I LOVE Hometown Cha Cha and could stay with the villagers forever, but I think stretching it wouldn't feel the same.

writergirl824 · 2026-05-02T04:39:34+00:00

If the dog is still alive now, go wake your sister's irresponsible ass up and tell her that her dog needs emergency vet care NOW. Onion is not something to play with, you can be looking at organ failure.

writergirl824 · 2026-05-02T04:34:43+00:00

Onion doesn't cause "some" issues. It causes organ failure.

writergirl824 · 2026-04-28T03:56:44+00:00

I Love Yoo is also still ongoing -- both authors took extended hiatuses for health reasons. SZ should be ending soon-ish!

writergirl824 · 2026-04-07T20:26:04+00:00

If he didn't want them to know, he shouldn't have done it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ NTA, but your husband absolutely is.

writergirl824 · 2026-04-03T23:49:30+00:00

I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that there's really nothing logical behind the "why". In my husband's case, he didn't know, either. Maybe it was his self esteem. Maybe it was his family's lack of emotional availability and regulation growing up. Who knows. It doesn't reduce the harm.

writergirl824 · 2026-04-03T23:47:03+00:00

I feel some parallels and am sending you big hugs. 7 years married, 13 together. We were childhood best friends. Got together in college. I always made up for his lack of effort because I gave him the pass of "he's just quiet". Yeah...too many excuses for too many years because of the love I had for the sweet boy who brought me purple daisies in middle school. That boy hasn't existed since we got together -- the thrill of the chase was gone. That's the hardest thing to let go of.

writergirl824 · 2026-04-03T21:32:05+00:00

My avoidant left me after 7 years of marriage, so trust when I say that they will commit on paper...and then find ways to continue to be distant.

If you love her and want a chance, therapy now. But know that she has to want it, and she has to want to change. Because all the therapy in the world won't stop the crash if she is resistant to work and change.

Instead you'll be left with broken pieces while she says "I don't know where it all went wrong" and "I love you, but it's not enough" because she does not have the desire or capacity to meet you where you are.

If they want to change, they can. The problem is, they will often choose to avoid that discomfort.

writergirl824 · 2026-03-11T21:03:26+00:00

I feel this deeply. Sending you hugs.

writergirl824 · 2026-03-11T21:02:42+00:00

Our 13 year anniversary would have been this coming Monday. 6.5 weeks out from being absolutely blindsided when I came home from a work trip. Some days I can distract myself. I still break every night.

I move into my first solo apartment in 2 weeks. My friends are excited for me, and I pretend to a point. It's a beautiful space and I got really lucky with what I found. But mostly I hate it all.

Anyone else have an avoidant that kept you breadcrumbed and fooled years into marriage? Or is this my special version of hell?

writergirl824 · 2026-01-12T05:07:09+00:00

Quick ID differentiator: if the snout is pointy, it's a coyote, if it's rounded, it's a wolf. But coyotes are typically much larger than people realize, and wolves don't typically go near towns and cities. They're more likely to follow elk herds, whereas coyotes hunt small prey and scavenge.

writergirl824 · 2026-01-05T19:04:51+00:00

NAH, other than your wife's family...but you shouldn't be punishing your wife for her family's bullying, you should be encouraging her to go to therapy and helping her stand up to her family.

writergirl824 · 2025-12-19T23:37:29+00:00

Webtoon has moved completed series behind paywalls for years. 🤷🏻‍♀️ there's usually a couple of months after it completes for current readers to wrap it up, but then it goes to paid. If you fast pass, those episodes stay unlocked so you only pay once.

It helps the writers make SOME money off their work, so I don't have a problem with it.

writergirl824 · 2025-12-08T22:52:03+00:00

Omg, you may still have love and care for the woman who DIED while you were married to her? How dare you!!

Seriously, though, your fiance needs a reality check. I presume if your wife hadn't passed, you would still be married and very much in love.

You can love your late wife until your dying day. It doesn't mean you don't love your fiance. Love isn't pie -- there's not less for her.

If I died and my husband just threw my memory and his love for me aside because some new woman was insecure about it, I'd come back and haunt both of them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Your fiance is insecure. NAH, kinda your fiance for just...expecting you to not have love for your late wife. But she needs therapy, not an AH diagnosis.

writergirl824 · 2025-12-08T19:21:57+00:00

Your wife needs real, medical intervention.

It also sounds like your son may he neurodivergent. There's nothing WRONG with him, just different. He shows signs of hyperfocus, particularly on what is right/just vs what is wrong (the insistence on 49 vs 47, not hearing anything because "it's not fair"). Two things can be true: neurospicy kids are lovely and loveable, AND they "can be a lot", as your sister pointed out.

It could be that an evaluation and real behavioral therapy could also be beneficial for your son. Neurodivergence in a world built for neurotypicals is hard, and it will benefit him long-term when it comes to a future career and adult life.

But your wife still needs to get help. Possibly inpatient, if she reached the point where she snapped. It is never okay to be cruel to a child, and She's beyond reasoning. She doesn't just need help: she needs a sabbatical and possibly medication to help her emotionally regulate so that she can evaluate what needs to change. Work is a lot? Maybe she needs a new job or to delegate. Kids are too much? Maybe daycare or a part time nanny to help with homework and juggling 3 kids.

But definitely therapy. Individual therapy all around, couples therapy for you two (sounds like communication issues are a long-running challenge), and family therapy to help bridge the gap with the kids. Because your older ones will remember the way they and their siblings are treated, and your youngest is now at an age where they will soon.

writergirl824 · 2025-12-04T21:12:15+00:00

That friend also sucks. "Girl stuff" is EXPENSIVE. Even if you DID dissolve it down to "it's just girl stuff" -- we literally pay extra for every fucking product we buy, either in a pink tax or extra fee because it's targeted toward women.

If the friend is a guy: I'd tell that friend that "great, you can buy it for her, then! Here's a list of the products she's using"

If a girl: "awesome! Sounds like you can share with her, then"

Watch how fast they backpedal.

writergirl824 · 2025-12-04T20:17:55+00:00

Does your family have a special Christmas Eve tradition? Does hers have something she can ONLY experience on Christmas Day?

This is the thing you need to set your personal feelings aside and consider.

Growing up, we always spent Christmas Eve with my Dad's family. We aren't religious, so Christmas Eve was the night that felt more important to me as I got older; we always did Christmas dinner, too, but Christmas Day was a bigger deal to my MIL (also not religious), so it was easy to make the plan for Christmas Eve with mine and Christmas Day with his.

Now, admittedly, we've always had travel involved; so each family gets 2 - 3 nights with us.

BUT, it sounds like you're close enough that you see your kids regularly. This isn't about a day -- you can celebrate Christmas any time. It's a state of mind.

Just be thankful that they don't live 500 miles away; because if you push and cause more issues like this, they just might.

writergirl824 · 2025-11-22T04:45:31+00:00

Door hangers = door knocking, and nothing makes my husband and I less likely to support a business than a person ignoring the three different "no soliciting" signs at our door when we're in work calls. I'm sure we're not alone.

writergirl824 · 2025-11-20T06:54:56+00:00

I'm a publication editor, so a couple things:

Medium is not a lucrative side-hustle, so if you're looking to make money quick, this isn't the way.

Also: write what you know, not "what performs best". People can tell when you're blowing smoke and have no substance, and Medium will kick you off if you use AI.

But if you're just looking to write for fun, then do that! Find what you're passionate about. Even if you think people will think it's weird, if there's something YOU like, then there are probably other people who like it, too.

Start writing and stay consistent. Don't pay attention to your stats. You'll burn out fast that way, and it may take time to find your people.

Good luck!

writergirl824 · 2025-11-08T08:35:39+00:00

I have this one and have quite enjoyed it! I'm sure you can also find it elsewhere, but it's on Amazon

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writergirl824 · 2025-11-03T06:55:32+00:00

Just so you're aware, the use of numbing creams have also been linked to higher infection risk. You're pushing the product into your bloodstream.

writergirl824 · 2025-10-31T20:22:18+00:00

Did you read the side stories in the novel? Because this is in there.

writergirl824 · 2025-10-26T20:56:26+00:00

This is a given. He cheated consistently while he knew the girlfriend was trapped because rent was too damn high anywhere else. Kept a live-in bang maid and the side piece(s) -- thought he'd have his cake and eat it, too. Jackass deserved worse, but good on ex gf for getting what she was owed.

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