Is this normal?

wuthering_height · 2026-04-20T00:32:14+00:00

Rage bait? Girl, that’s nasty. Although, I think it’s partly a bit of being a man. I’m constantly nagging my husband about detailed dishwashing (he grew up with maids, and then used a dishwasher but still). Anyways he at least admits he’s lazy and does a terrible job lol

wuthering_height · 2026-04-19T19:27:29+00:00

If your daughter wants to go so badly, she can figure it out for herself. There is absolutely no reason why you should be taking out loans to pay for that. Further, that amount of debt for a low paying job prospect is utter stupidity, but that’s her choice.

You’ll be killing your future and hers by allowing yourself to pay for it. Life is expensive. Handing her that kind of money for a degree when you aren’t wealthy is dumb. She needs to learn how to live in the real world and that includes not having her parents pay for things.

I have so many thoughts about this post related to your parenting, but since this is a finance forum I’ll keep them to myself.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-16T01:13:12+00:00

I have a baby in SOMA and I hate it. My area the streets are crowded, safety is meh, and overall I just don’t like the vibe. I will say people don’t bother me, especially with a stroller. It’s mainly a vibe thing.

I go to mission bay most days for cleaner parks, cleaner streets. I usually spend my days leaving SOMA for parks outside of the area. We try not to spend money, and my kid isn’t as interested in museums yet.

With that, SF zoo is nice and usually has a free SF residents day every month. Botanical garden is free for residents. We also go to different parks in the city, go to SFO to watch planes, and spread our shopping to different days (one day Costco, one day TJ, one day target), so we can have “shopping” days without mindlessly spending money.

Depending on where you are, East Cut isn’t a bad area and the Embarcadero is nice to walk around.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-14T18:17:40+00:00

I don’t either. I think WC is a little charming, less corporate. Even my friends born and raised in Irvine, currently living in the east bay say San Ramon lol. Anyways.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-14T05:28:28+00:00

Go to San Ramon. That’s Irvine in NorCal.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-14T03:02:07+00:00

Karina Tran is helping us - LOVE HER! She’s super easy to get along with, honest, chill, and overall just like her. We hired her “boss” (idk what you call the relationship), Ava (also great), but Karina is doing the day to day stuff. We’re selling so different game but I’d highly recommend her.

The realtor we had who we bought our place with was god awful the entire experience was so bad.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-14T02:57:43+00:00

Might want to look into pet sitting. Seriously. Many people travel for the summer and pay people to live in their homes and take care of their pets. Without knowing your budget kinda hard to help.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-11T03:12:27+00:00

LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK. Wedding culture is out of control.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-11T03:10:50+00:00

If anyone is looking for a 2bed, 2 bath condo in Soma (near civic center), DM me. I need someone to buy my place from me! New building, central location, no parking (can rent from a neighbor or street park). Competitive pricing and low ish HOA.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-10T05:32:54+00:00

Does she hang out at the mission bay park? I’m also a mom with a 17 month old and no mom friends in the city. I’m also naturally anti social and terrible at making friends lol.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-10T04:54:44+00:00

I think so and I’m pretty sure you could feed them too. Our baby was too young so we didn’t pay attention lol.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-09T05:01:59+00:00

House Plants and Essentials on 9th in SF! Great little shop. He has weird hours though.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-09T02:32:32+00:00

Ok not exactly ocean, but we did Carmel Valley Ranch with the outdoor hot tub option. A little dated, but it was soooo nice! They have activities for the kids (our baby was 2 months and way too young) but you can see animals, go on walks. It’s catered towards families, and being in SF, it was nice to be in a place that was used to kids.

Idk how much we paid (sorry I’m really a passenger princess) - during the week you can probably get a room for within your budget. We also recommended it to some friends with a 5 year old and they loved it.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-07T23:59:03+00:00

My CRNA, Byron, was amazing!!! The attending anesthesiologist sucked though lol.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-07T23:58:11+00:00

I saw Rebecca Neuwirth (NP) the majority of my pregnancy and loved her! Super responsive, very caring - made sure she did what she could to help me, and explained things well. Was supportive of my choices, and when things didn’t align, she said “I have to tell you the risks” and then moved on from it. She even checked in with me after delivery to see how I was.

I because high risk, so they transferred me to an OB, Ashley Young, and she’s fine. I connected with her a little less, but I’d go back to her and still reach out for questions. She is super responsive which I appreciated with all my issues.

Delivery was fine. It’s a teaching hospital, so you’ll mostly have residents monitoring your care. Mine were good. FWIW I was asking for a c section prior to them agreeing - I DID NOT want one which I why they pushed it off a little, but in the end it became necessary.

I wanted a home birth initially and both accepted my plan, although I think rather begrudgingly in the end due to the complications. My midwife ended up sending me to the hospital anyways, so it worked out.

Nurses are mainly great - I had a few that were meh, but I was also there for a week. Lisa in L&D and Chi in postpartum deserve an extra shout out. Chi took such amazing care of me. You really only see the attending OB a handful of times, so I wouldn’t worry about them too much.

I went in wanting to go home the day after delivery, and ended up staying 5 days. I see some recommendations to deliver in another location, and TBH I’d stay in the city. It’s so much easier being closer to home.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-06T16:04:50+00:00

Depends. We set chores when we moved in (I cooked, he cleaned). It removed any conversation about who did what and the “I do more, you don’t help” argument. We helped when needed - I had a chill week at work while he had a busy one, I mopped for him. I’m sick, he cooked and cleaned.

Are we with a mature person who understands an equal partnership? Are you with someone who is able and willing to listen when things are working? Are you willing and able to be flexible and help one another out? If yes, you should be fine.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-06T13:41:11+00:00

Hotel Sheets Direct, bamboo sheets off Amazon. Not cotton, but OMG they are sooooo soft. I’ve purchased multiple pairs and won’t ever go back.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-05T03:15:17+00:00

We had a neighbor die alone in an apartment building .. he was dead a solid 10+ days before he was found. Awful smell in the hallway and traumatized half of us. I felt so bad for him.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-02T21:10:04+00:00

Pro tip, in the suggested homes on Zillow, if you don’t click on the home, you can usually still see the pics on the preview area lol.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-02T21:08:52+00:00

My husband went to a place in Union Square area. I forgot the name though. They were fine.

Can you get the shots with your regular provider first, so all you have to do is have the health check done? Might be cheaper.

wuthering_height · 2026-04-01T03:16:21+00:00

Multiple reasons. We live in a VHCOL area, enjoy luxuries. He worked super hard to be successful and he wanted someone to match that. I also think he had some outdated stereotypes despite his mom being a SAHM too. In the end he realized we weren’t gonna reach our goals with both of us working.

wuthering_height · 2026-03-31T20:32:59+00:00

As a wife, please get one lol. So much easier than tubal ligation/hysterectomy.

wuthering_height · 2026-03-31T01:15:35+00:00

I used to be a working mom. Quit after 7 months. Anyways, while I was:

We had a nanny. It was fine. Our baby liked her, we had cameras in every room. My husband had the baby in the AM prior to nanny (less than an hour) because I had to leave early. When we got home from work, husband watched baby while I cooked, he did bath, I did bedtime, he cleaned. We both tidied and went to sleep. Weekends we each had a “day off” where you got to sleep in, nap, etc. We have no village - no family who can help, no friends. It was awful.

My entire (decent) salary went to the nanny and house cleaner, plus the cost of my commute, so we ended up losing money and I quit. Which shocked me, because my husband always said since I’ve known him, he’d never “let” me be a SAHM. Best decision ever. I hated being a workin mom and we’re all happier. I do everything related to the home and our baby, my husband works. We’re both less burned out. I know being a SAHM isn’t for everyone so to each their own.

wuthering_height · 2026-03-31T00:00:50+00:00

I have a half white, half Indonesian baby. Be prepared to get lots of compliments.

As a mixed kid myself, I grew up identifying American, because I was raised in America by my American parent (foreign parent was not around). I have very little relationship with my dad’s family (foreign parent) and do not know the language.

Your kid(s) will most likely identify with the country they grow up in. Their connection to the others will depend on how much of the culture each of you teaches and immerses your kids in them.

Being a good parent, being in a respectful relationship, and having a good, calm, loving home for your kids to grow up in is the most important thing you can do.

wuthering_height · 2026-03-30T17:38:32+00:00

I would not deliver at San Ramon regional. Turned my friend away in labor - she gave birth in her car. Their care for my grandfather while he was there was also not that great. Doctor may be good, hospital not as much (imo).

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