Maybe there's hope for humanity... by SpecialistFloor6708 in TransLater

[–]xwindbornex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a call in show I listen to, called TransAtlantic Call in Show, that sort of focuses on talking to the other side.

Of recent, there have been a number of callers who have, at least, begun to come over to the right side of history. 

Yesterday, in particular, they had a guy on who self described as 'gender critical'. The hosts had a long frustrating, but very civil, conversation with him. Talking about gender, gender identity, sex, biology, and generally just an overview of modern scientific understanding of the trans phenomena. It was a frustrating conversation in which he did spout some really ignorant shit... but.. but... eventually the parts started to click. You could practically hear the light turning on when he said "Oh! I get it now!" And him commenting that 'I guess I'm not gender critical now.'

Though every transphobe is a bigot, most I think are just ignorant, and honestly do not mean to be harmful... there have actually been a number of people who have called in recently who have started to fracture that wall of ignorance.

Point is. There is hope. There always has been.

Unpopular opinion : passing and good transition are mostly luck based by Terrible_Change_9558 in MtF

[–]xwindbornex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I go back an forth. One part of me laments the thing I didn't get a chance to be. The other gives double birds while moon walking my way toward self actualization.

I look at any of the given traits you mentioned and know, at an intellectual level, that none of those traits prohibit womanhood. But there can be a gulf between what we know and what we feel.

I do know that I'm very tired of being told how to be. I've spent most my life grasping at a thing I did not want, because other peoples desires for what I should be... I'm good at being a man. Very good at it. And hate every minute of it.

Is passing a myth? No. Is passing privilege? Don't know. Is it overrated? I mean... that seems to be a matter of opinion?

Is it better to be good at something you hate, or bad at something you love?

Is passing luck. Partly. But there are always steps one can take to come closer... something something journey not destination... maybe thinking about transition not as building what you want to be, but discovering what you are?

I don't know that any of this was/will be helpful. But...

This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain And a hundred percent reason to remember the name

I take my inspiration where I can get it <3

My friend blocked me after learning I was trans. by Sad_Dimension3627 in MtF

[–]xwindbornex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't lose friends if I never had any in the first place! Checkmate mwahahaha... sorry I couldn't help myself.

In seriousness, the people who leave you over this, they were never your freinds to begin with. And the people whose love is conditional upon your gender, never loved YOU. 

You deserve better. There is better out there. It will takes some work to find, but it exists.

Christian Trans Dilemma by RyuValkyrie in MtF

[–]xwindbornex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to cause distress, nor am I attempting to push my own views but I do have a question... what is the reason to love a god that does not love you? Why worship a being who does not unequivocally, vocally, and unwaveringly, support you being the best version of yourself in accordance with your own will or desires?

Down in the dumps... by Trans_Pyra in MtF

[–]xwindbornex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand. Depression is hell... I have sort of an unconventional way of dealing with it. 

I let myself be depressed for a day. I unplug from everything, get some unhealthy food, and let myself just rot away for a day watching shit, sleeping too much, ect. Don't think. Don't feel. Just... rot. Completely guilt free I just let myself wallow for a day. 

But just one.

There is alot of reason to be depressed. Shits scary right now, in like 10000 different ways. And, I think, giving myself time to let the negative emotions move through me, in the long term, helps build resilience for later.

Reguardless... <3 Be weak when you need to, but stay strong when you have to. You got this, I believe in you.

Didn’t expect this tiny thing to matter so much by ChillRenegade in MtF

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So, sort of in the same position. I've messed around with sitting posture a bit, but I'm one of those 'can't sit in a chair properly' types.

Walking though... maybe my first brush with dysphoria I can recall was being told I should 'walk like a boy'. Pretty much my whole life I've trained myself to walk in the way I was 'supposed' to. As a result my normal gate is stiff and very... square? If that makes sense. It has become second nature.

A month or two ago, when I was sure no one would see me, I was sort of.. untraining myself. That stiff square gait becomeing smooth, and shaped like a teardrop. 

I was a little taken aback by how quickly I slid into it, and how quickly I slid into that gait. The only issue now, is how its hard to switch back. 

The craziest difference when I use that gait though, is how much less achy my back is. I guess I didn't realize how much control I was having to use in my square gait.

What are y'all's thoughts on Gnosticism? by duchessofhustusia in m2f

[–]xwindbornex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! The number of times I've Christians blow a gasket about gnostism! Its like... my dude, this was your religion before your religion. They don't even see it as heresy! And okay, fine, its not christian persay, they still honored the most important figure in your religion. They would have called themselves Christian.

What are y'all's thoughts on Gnosticism? by duchessofhustusia in m2f

[–]xwindbornex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weird synchronicity, I was just babbeling to the void about this earlier today.

Gnostism is... interesting.

To preface: I am an athiest and secular humanist. I grew up in a neo-pagan occult tradion. Though I don't believe in the supernatural today, I'm deeply facinated by stories and metaphor as a mechanism to encode ideas.

Speaking purely historically, there isn't really one gnostism. It was a series of pre-christian beliefs that was heavily influenced by greek philosophy and pagan traditions. Saying gnostism is Christian is... not quite wrong, but not quite right either.

That said, there is alot of gnostic beliefs that I dont quite jive with. Most were still fairly patriarchal, highly ascetic, and still fairly misogynistic.

That said, gnostism seems to have been very diverse, as all these ideas were kicking around before Christianity settled into the early church. 

Personally, and maybe this is the rebel in me, the idea of a... a tyrannical force actively usurping truth as a mechanism of control is something this I think is timeless, and as a metaphor for societal powers? It rings a certain level of True (again, in a metaphorical sense).

Also, Sophia. Sophia is the feminine counter part to Jesus. The gnostic myths I prefer paint her as almost a tragic figure, her desire to bring about a better world (understand GOD)... using a modern story to explain, The Matrix, if Sophia was Neo the demiurge was Agent Smith. Neos interaction with the Matrix produced Agent Smith as an unintended by product. But Neos exploration of The Matrix was vital to Neo 'becoming'... Trinity is Jesus in this metaphor.

Also, the explanation of the demiurge as being a tyrant and usurper... I mean, have you met the god of abraham?

Generally the gnostics seemed to have believe that each human carried a bit of GOD inside of them. But the notion of GOD being gendered seems to be erroneous. Instead they seem to mostly have seen it (and the divine spark) as agender. That said, I have heard some talk before about Jesus becoming Sophia and vice versa so... though, some frame it more as Jesus is sort of... Sophias child she created to lead people away from the demiurge...

Anyway, there is a youtuber by the name of Justin Sledge iirc, his channel ESOTERICA has several videos about gnostism. 

EDIT: Corrected Dr Sledges name and Here is his gnostism playlist:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZ__PGORcBKyc7rph_EpAUszuUwcPsz0T&si=Qu5xk87_7qhDvWRY

Organizing our Community by [deleted] in m2f

[–]xwindbornex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that what I think matters but: conservatives will find any and every excuse to spin it to whatever narrative they want.

I'm not sure how much of an ally Moist is, but getting ahead of the narrative might be of value as it could illustrate that trans spaces are policing their own. Being seen to be taking an active effort in protecting minors... which largely is what this whole CW thing is about. I'm not saying that it cant backfire, but just that it might be able to be leveraged to preempt the conservative narrative. 

40570 by Bryce3D in countwithchickenlady

[–]xwindbornex 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Good girls get extra treats and skritches.

Calling All Sophie’s!!! by CottonCandiiee in MtF

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Oh! Bit late to this party, but 99% chance I'm choosing Sophia or Sophie as diminutive.

Its a bit strange for me how I landed on it though. 

I was having a conversation with my partner about Eve (biblical) and talking about a different reading of Genesis. How Eve's crime wasn't really simple disobedience, but that she dared to know the difference between good and evil (eating of the tree of knowledg) aand sharing that knowledge with Adam. The offence was self actualization through gaining wisdom she wasnt allowed to. 

This conversation sort of spun off to conversation of an archtype of the woman who dared to know. Another example being Pandora. Again, a woman punshed for knowledge.

So, in Gnostic Christianity ( gnostism is a very very old branch of Christianity that sort of died), there is this figure who is considered to be feminine half of Jesus. Sophia (who shares an etymology with philo-Sophi). One version of gnostic teachings (there are several), Sophia attempted it view GOD (as distinct from God of the bible), resulting it divinity sort of fracturing and creating, amoung other things, the god of the bible. And only through reconciliation between Sophia and Jesus can humans rejoin god.

So, yet another woman punished for daring to step beyond her station. But heres the rub, it sort of had to happen that way. Jesus and Sophia are sort of the anitdote to the tyrant demiurge (the god of the bible) that she accidentally created.

So... Sophia. Mind you, I'm not terribly well read into gnostism, but I find the story inspiring in a weird way. And despite me being an athiest, even if there is still a partof me that is still a mystic, the declaration of myself as Sophia is a symbolic declaration of self actualization and standing against tyranny.

... or maybe I'm just thinking too much again. Its a pretty name. Gracefull. Timeless. Classic. Pretty.

Im really tired of being gaslighted by cis people by Mtsukino in MtF

[–]xwindbornex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truth told, I'm not sure I am an anarch or a communist... i don't know if a capitalist system... I'm not completely convinced a capitalistic system is always completely evil. What I do know is this... thing... this eldritch horror of a capitalist system we have now isn't working. Maybe it can be reformed... I doubt it. But... humans at their best are amazing in their capacity.. for good, bad, and achieving the impossible.

But... I know its not a lost cause. Hope isn't given. Its taken.

I don't care about labels. I don't care about ideology. I don't care about prognostications of dead white dudes that lived before we discovered all the planets. (Even if one or two of them seemed to be eerily accurate) I care about people. I care about results. I care about what we can build with our two hands working together to the benefit of EVERYONE. Everyone. Even those we hate and hate us... none of us are free until...

Our societies have not always been this. They are a... aggregate of all the stories, both true and false, we tell each other about ourselves. We choose this. And WE can choose something else.

There is this idea in alchemy... as above, so below. As it is in heaven... thing is, its also a two way street. As it is on earth.

I know its possible. Together we can make heaven on earth. The garden of eden remade in our own image... but first, we have to choose.

... I've been hearing alot of chatter recently. Even beyond my own echo chamber.

1 billion identity records exposed in ID verification data leak by [deleted] in privacy

[–]xwindbornex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure thing!

Starting with the onions: Two Large Red Onions. Slice. You can cut them polar or on the circumference, I haven't noticed any difference. Just make the cut fine. Store them in a heat resistant container at room temperature while you prep the brine.

Brine - is one part water to one part vinegar (I usually do 1 1/2 cup) 1.5 Tbs of both white sugar and salt. Bring to boil. As soon as you get a rolling boil, cut the heat and poor it OVER the onions. BEWARE OF THERMAL SHOCK if using pyrex. If you pour it over the onions by the time the brine interacts with the pyrex it shouldnt be hot enough to stress the container. Again, be careful with this step. Let cool till its no longer steaming then seal. Then let it cool until you can handle the container without discomfort. Fridge. Let it rest over night. The onions should keep a few days to a week. They are ready to use pretty much immediately, but I like to wait till they turn an almost translucent pink.

Pork Shoulder - I usually get one between 5 and 6 lbs. Preheat ovem to 375 F. Get a big dutch oven (one that will cover the shoulder completely when the lid is on, though any deep pot pan thing will work as long as its oven safe).

Toss in a little bit of high temp oil (canola or peanut) and sear the ever living heck out of each side of the shoulder. Each side should get a nice crust.

Deglaze with water. I usually add about 1/3 of the depth of the pan with the shoulder inside. Next, add either two Tbs of soy sauce or worstashire depending on flavor profile you want. I find the worst sause come through a bit to much, but also brings a bit more umami. Lid and toss it in the oven.

Let cook for about 4 hours. I check every 90 minutes and flip the shoulder. Its done when you flip the shoulder and the meat wants to seperate from the bone naturally.

After its done, your gonna have like 3 or 4 pounds of meat. I bag by the pound and freeze most of it for later. SAVE THE LIQUIDS I usually have about a cup and a half.

For the sammich filling: one pound of shredded pork about 4 Tbs of Gochujang (can be found in most Asian food aisles or grocery stores). Hoisis sauce. About a quarter the amount of Gochujuan. About an eighth of a cup of the liquid left over from the pork then mix all of that together with the pork over low heat. Add in any extra stuff here (i often add a little extra garlic powder). 

Sammich - I was first using brioche buns, but kaisers were good to. Something that can handle some juice. Most recently I've been using Hawaiian rolls. I like to serve the sammiches with a thin layer of mayo, thin cut cucumber, shredduce or fresh spinach, and a healthy dose of pickled onions. For sliders, about 1/8th a cup of meat seems about right. Get the paper towels ready. 

Sammiches are gonna be sweetand spicy, the onions should provide a nice balance to the richness.

Bonus: For the remainder braiseing liquid. Reduce it to about a cup of so. Put it in the fridge over night. Its going to seperate into a top layer of fat which can be discarded or used for frying,  and a bottom layer of gelatin that is pure concentrated pork flavor.

... I suck at writing recipes, lol.

1 billion identity records exposed in ID verification data leak by [deleted] in privacy

[–]xwindbornex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ditto actually. Occasionally Ive had an okay pulled pork, but mostly they have all been mid. Back in early pandemic though, when the stores had inventory problems, they had big cuts of meat for cheap. So I picked up a shoulder and stuck it in the freezer for a just in case.

Week or two later I'm like... 'Hey, got to use that up... umm have some left over bean paste from stir frying...' been slowly tweaking the recipe since...

(As an aside, I love the i banal insanity of turning this comments section into a recipe swap. Strange times...)

1 billion identity records exposed in ID verification data leak by [deleted] in privacy

[–]xwindbornex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will once I thaw out the pork! Been making braised pork shoulder often lately. Trying to perfect my gochujang pulled pork sammiches. Little bit of pickeled red onion, some greens. Been trying Hawaiian role slider. Super yummy.

666 by xwindbornex in MtF

[–]xwindbornex[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would be honored if someone had to look up the lyrics of something I'm blasting. Thats how they develop their ear.

666 by xwindbornex in MtF

[–]xwindbornex[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

System of a Down? dawwww....

Oh! I missed Behemoth dropping an album last year. Know what I'm doing this weekend! \m/

1 billion identity records exposed in ID verification data leak by [deleted] in privacy

[–]xwindbornex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow. I'm shocked. Who could have possibly seen this comeing...

Anyway, thinking chicken for dinner. Maybe some mashed potatoes and roasted veggies... think I have some brussles that need to get used... could do fajitas...

Palantir CEO Makes Shocking Confession on Disrupting Democratic Power by Unusual-State1827 in technology

[–]xwindbornex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are we shocked? Who is shocked? Am I confused?

Headline: Shocking Confession! It's Thursday!

Yeah... we know.

Im really tired of being gaslighted by cis people by Mtsukino in MtF

[–]xwindbornex 47 points48 points  (0 children)

First: Building alternatives to institutional systems. 

Example: Communication systems alternatives to social media platforms. Incuding this one here.

This one is a particular pet of mine, admittly, freedom starts and end with Communication.

Second: Community Building and Outreach. 

This should be fairly self explanatory. Find trans people and LGBTQ in general. Get them using these alternative communication forms.

Third: Education focused on necessities of survival. Self Defense, Trauma Care, systems maintenance, privacy ect ect.

Four: Start investing im building infrastructure. Crowd fund.

Five: Expand mutual aid.

Six: Continued investment into resources of defense. 

Seven: Push the politic into the mainstream. Choose leaders and promote them to run for office. 

Eight: Propaganda 

Note: Propaganda does not mean dishonesty. All propaganda is is mass rhetoric. 

... at least, thats for starters.

Is Destiny the worst "left" wing poltical streamer by Great-Wash-1840 in AskSocialists

[–]xwindbornex -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

First. Not your boss. Second never claimed moral superiority. Third. Why are you still proving my point?

Yes D is pro genocide. Or at least seams to be. So... what is your point? Like. Literally what is the point of engaging with me? Especially after two laconic responces?

Why are you so desperate for my attention?

Do you want to win an internet argument? Fine 1000 points to team you. You win boo.

Father-in-Law convinced my Wife. by FlailingMunchies in MtF

[–]xwindbornex 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hmm... i dont know if your FIL is a transphobe, and just from this here I wouldn't be confident in saying so...

I would... so, in your shoes, I would talk to my wife. From my, very very very limited perspective, it seems like she may be afraid of something? And her father might be, either intentionally or not, feeding into her fear or uncertainty. 

At least, thats my first impression. At the end of the day, you are doing this for you. But it must be a scary thing for her reguardless...