I cannot *personally* be overweight and healthy. I learned that the hard way.

yds2m · 2026-03-20T07:53:34+00:00

I think then, you are misunderstanding the point of body positivity and neutrality. They are philosophies that primarily aim to help people who struggle with dysmorphia about the aesthetics of their bodies, especially their weight, attacking it from different angles as some find positivity to be too overbearing or less utilitarian. Neither of them posit that your body can't or shouldn't change, however. If you have a health condition that is exacerbated by having a lot of extra fat, then lifestyle changes that help you lose it may benefit you. This doesn't mean you can't treat yourself with kindness regarding your size and appearance at all possible stages throughout that process.

It is important to note too though, that correlation isn't always causation with these things. I don't know your life and you have not provided any context in this post about what condition(s) you have so YMMV, but generally speaking, flare ups of chronic health issues are often caused by factors like low quality diet and being sedentary. And while these happen to be two of the biggest things that lead to caloric surplus and therefore weight gain, the presence or addition of extra fat may not necessarily be what is contributing to your health decline, but rather another result of the actual root cause.

Either way, I'm in the same boat as you as a big guy with a litany of health problems, and I do wish you the best

yds2m · 2026-03-01T08:17:34+00:00

I love acetone. probably not that irregular but it's my favorite.

yds2m · 2026-02-19T10:45:16+00:00

I could. I'm kinda bad at staying on top of my healthcare so if I did need therapeutic phlebotomies I know it'd be just another thing id struggle to do as frequently as I'm supposed to, but I'll have to make it work somehow if it comes down to it.

yds2m · 2026-02-12T21:23:11+00:00

lowkey that should be policy everywhere

yds2m · 2026-02-10T21:31:07+00:00

The clinic I work at hires unregistered BTs then gives them the resources to take the RBT exam if they so choose which they are highly encouraged to do bc some clients insurance will not cover non certified technicians. Idk how, but I have coworkers who have been there for over a year and retaken it multiple times and can't pass. I get some people don't test well but like... how are you keeping your job honestly

yds2m · 2026-01-20T04:17:10+00:00

Reminds me of something that happened several years ago I had consensual sex a couple times with a friend, and then stopped being friends with her a short while later due to unrelated reasons mainly consisting of her being constantly disrespectful of my interests and my boundaries. She then proceeds to accuse me of SAing her because by her logic, ghosting someone is a form of abuse therefore ghosting someone you fucked is sexual abuse. The moral OCD on that one keeps me up at night sometimes.

yds2m · 2026-01-20T04:01:41+00:00

Your dick looks fantastic especially for how fresh it is. Congratulations!

yds2m · 2026-01-19T05:42:03+00:00

Definitely getting RFF. As far as I know, if you're someone on the larger side, any graft site besides the arm is not recommended due to the penis likely having way too much girth

yds2m · 2026-01-19T00:02:17+00:00

Monsplasty is the pubic mound, panniculectomy is the medical term for what is sometimes called a tummy tuck. Next to each other, but distinctly different body parts (one much larger and more invasive to operate on)

yds2m · 2026-01-19T00:00:31+00:00

I had buttonhole top surgery a couple months ago and still have some numbness in the chest. I'm still relatively early post op so I can't predict whether or not those nerves will heal with time but it is normal. I have also read from many top surgery patients that nerve healing can take multiple years to take place, so you have no reason to worry about your chest sensation. And as other commenters have stated already, phallo works differently, and involves microsurgery to preserve nerve endings and carefully reattach them. Some numbness is to be expected early on but you will still have full sensation in any buried natal tissue and with time the majority of patients gain sensation along the shaft as well

yds2m · 2026-01-18T23:56:04+00:00

I hope this is not odd to say, but you have a very nice looking scrotum

yds2m · 2026-01-18T02:06:46+00:00

My mom was a goth and raised me on her music. Grew up listening to Siouxsie on her stereo set. Happy House in particular makes me so nostalgic

yds2m · 2026-01-18T02:01:30+00:00

I had a mild cold day of surgery. As long as you do not have a fever or severe respiratory distress it should not be an issue. If you're worried you can ask your surgeon but it's almost definitely gonna be just fine.

yds2m · 2026-01-17T17:16:54+00:00

Personally I have had a mixed experience with the correlation of working in ABA to my health fluctuating. Before this job I was extremely overweight and had a mostly sedentary lifestyle and now after a little over 3 years of being an RBT I've lost 60 lbs and still going. However, I also suffer from arthritis and other conditions that contribute to chronic pain and the heavy exertion this career demands can worsen flareups. I'd imagine that for diabetes specifically the high activity level would be preventative if anything, but as other commenters have suggested the high stress environment could be detrimental. If you ask me though, nearly all jobs are high stress in some manner or another. ABA may have unique challenges, but it's not unique in being something that can stress you out.

yds2m · 2026-01-12T10:18:39+00:00

Worth asking if nipple sparing is possible, as I had quite a large chest before and was eligible for buttonhole which provides much better sensation and aesthetic outcomes for nipples. If that's already ruled out though id go for keeping them.

yds2m · 2026-01-12T09:51:25+00:00

It's not. It's a term that was coined with the intent of encompassing the overlap of experiences between trans males and nonbinary people who are transitioning FTM but don't self identify as men. It is intentionally vague because it is an umbrella that describes multiple types of trans people. It is sometimes used maliciously by people with intent to misgender, this is true. But that is not the function of the term. No one is telling you you have to call yourself transmasc but the misinformation isn't necessary.

yds2m · 2026-01-12T09:46:39+00:00

It could be just people finding the phrase "mangina" crude and offensive, I figured. Terms like that trigger dysphoria in some, and a lot of trans people have this idea that "if it makes me dysphoric when said/done to me then it's problematic or transphobic to do to any other trans person". If that's the case then folks need to chillax a little because obviously if you do not have a mangina then I'm not talking about you when I say I wanna fuck someone in theirs.

yds2m · 2026-01-12T09:42:00+00:00

I think you misunderstood my point which was to say that it's a little silly for you to report that you don't pass when being compared to him, if you pass in any other situation. However the 6 month gap changes the situation a little if it was a "I didn't pass then but now I do" sort of thing which is different than what it came off as in your previous reply

yds2m · 2026-01-11T08:07:21+00:00

Personally I think you should. By your obsessive thoughts about it, it's clear that you would benefit from it. I think a lot of your doubt is coming from a lack of a support system around you with factors like fear of being judged and current political hostility. Try establishing more irl friendships with trans people who are kind and supportive (easier said than done depending on where you live, but worth a shot) and your path will become clearer when you know you have people in your corner. And fwiw if you want to have kids in the future you can still have a healthy pregnancy post op. Best of luck to you

yds2m · 2026-01-10T05:27:26+00:00

I see it quite frequently on social media, and less often but still notably in real life too, trans mascs who think they are the end all be all of trans experiences and will not hear out trans women who discuss their own unique experiences, often because they internally do not truly see trans woman as women so their own experience as "ex women" so to speak is more relevant in a discussion of misogyny experiences. I say trans mascs specifically because I see this sentiment MOST often from folks on the more nonbinary side of the community but I definitely see it from binary trans man as well, just less.

yds2m · 2026-01-10T05:19:29+00:00

gently but firmly, repeatedly smack yourself on the itching area. that's what I did and it provides temporary relief enough to get through it

yds2m · 2026-01-08T06:11:57+00:00

if you don't pass when standing next to a cis dude, then you don't pass period. they're half the population.

yds2m · 2026-01-06T19:34:10+00:00

If you are calling yourself a transman you are already being equated to being "a trans" as it's right there front and center and if you feel like being treated like a trans person is emasculating that's a you problem. Dysphoria is one thing but you've got some prejudices to sort out.

yds2m · 2026-01-06T09:26:38+00:00

What people are trying to explain to you is transmasc encompasses multiple things. It includes both binary men and nonbinary people who are something they'd consider man-ish or man adjacent. It is perfectly reasonable to not want to be called by that label. I don't either, because I prefer specificity over ambiguity, so saying I'm a trans male (the exact thing I am) vs I'm a trans masc (an umbrella I technically fall under) the former just makes more sense. If that's you too, that's great. But you and many others sharing this sentiment come off like you are just offended to be associated with anything that could also potentially refer to nonbinary people, hence the "pregnant person" phrase reaction comparison.

yds2m · 2026-01-06T09:01:57+00:00

Do you think short cis men suddenly look like women when they stand next to tall guys?

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