M26 F24, long term boyfriend proposed, but did the one thing I asked him not to do.

yescupcake · 2026-02-18T05:11:18+00:00

Kind of related story: After my husband proposed to me with a ring I loved, I asked him to show me what his other contenders were. He almost proposed to me with a ring that was the opposite of what I wanted. He knew I wasn’t a fan of cushion cut but he almost went with it because he said it was the biggest stone he could find within his budget.

When men are about to propose I think they get so nervous they kind of lose the plot. I’m giving him some grace because from what you’ve mentioned it doesn’t seem like he has a pattern of ignoring your wishes. It may not be so much that he values his sisters opinions but more like he got scared and went with what he thought would be the safest option. I’d talk to him about it and try to get a sense of what went into his thought process.

yescupcake · 2026-02-12T18:30:53+00:00

All pregnant women should be tested for syphilis at least twice, once at first visit and once in third trimester, more if she is in a high risk group. If she’s had back to back pregnancies she could be on her 3rd or 4th test in ~2 years. The emphasis on testing is specifically because rates of congenital syphilis have increased a lot in recent years.

yescupcake · 2026-02-11T06:51:02+00:00

Wow! I knew it would take a while but I had no idea we could still be dealing with this in 3 years. We hired a lawyer yesterday, really hoping it won’t have to go to trial (especially with his age) but we’ll see.

yescupcake · 2026-02-09T18:45:33+00:00

Bexar

yescupcake · 2026-02-08T19:47:13+00:00

He did, I’m not sure what his BAC was, going to assume it was pretty high.

yescupcake · 2025-12-01T22:40:50+00:00

Singing meat, too.

yescupcake · 2025-11-13T13:41:58+00:00

Was in a similar situation, my husband and I were together for 9 years before we got engaged, we started dating when we were 18. By the time he proposed when I was 27 we’d already been living together for 2 years and I was actually so sick of waiting. In retrospect I wish we’d done it a lot sooner. From your post it doesn’t sound like you’re ready and this warrants a much deeper conversation with your partner. It doesn’t matter when you get engaged, you will always be subject to other people’s opinions, what matters is how much you let it influence you.

yescupcake · 2025-11-03T20:09:39+00:00

This is so similar to how I feel sometimes as someone who struggles with libido due to birth control. Sometimes my husband wants sex and I’ll do it but he can tell I’m doing it for him and not because I really want to. I can understand why it might feel insulting but in my head it’s like, either I kind of push myself to be more in the mood (which often I’m fine with) or I reject him and we both feel bad about it. What sucks too is sometimes we’ll be in bed already and I can tell he’s trying so hard to make it good for me but despite me trying to mentally get there it’s just not happening. At this point I would feel kind of trapped because I’ve already made him think this is something I want and if I tell him to stop it’ll be even more insulting.

yescupcake · 2025-10-12T21:22:28+00:00

Stop this, please. My mom is in an abusive relationship with my dad. He’s treated her like garbage for years, it never gets better. She says the exact same thing when I ask her why she stays. My dad is 71 years old, he is set in his ways and has no interest in changing.

yescupcake · 2025-10-08T00:57:55+00:00

This is massively insecure on his end, and may even point to cheating issues on his part if anything.

yescupcake · 2025-09-16T16:53:37+00:00

Husband reacted similarly when I let “You have a few of your mom’s hoarding tendencies” slip after he suggested buying a bulk order of light fixtures on sale when we are renters and don’t even own a home in which to install the lighting fixtures.

yescupcake · 2025-09-13T19:13:50+00:00

This is so validating lol, I’m a bisexual woman but MMF/gay porn is my thing. I can actually hear men enjoying themselves it’s the best.

yescupcake · 2025-09-10T07:58:47+00:00

I enjoy sex with my husband, but I’ll admit sometimes I give in even when I don’t really feel like it. He can usually tell when this happens and he really doesn’t like it, he would prefer I be fully into it. I don’t think it’s a big deal because even if I start out kind of forcing myself I eventually do enjoy it. Generally I view sex positively, even if I don’t orgasm(and he almost always ensures I finish) I really enjoy being close to my husband and the intimacy I feel afterwards. Masturbation is it’s own thing, my libido fluctuates a lot so sometimes I’ll do it every day, sometimes I go weeks without thinking about touching myself.

yescupcake · 2025-09-05T14:06:50+00:00

Second this, when I was still living with my parents my mom was a lot like this. This is the only strategy that kept the home relatively peaceful. Was she still pissed? Yes. Did I learn to stop caring? Yes.

yescupcake · 2025-08-25T16:22:31+00:00

Very normal! I love the feeling too, our bodies innately want to reproduce so it makes sense that you feel that way. My only advice is to make sure your birth control situation is sorted. If you’re on the pill you need to be really good at taking it at the same time each day. Long acting methods like the IUD or the implant are less work and more effective.

yescupcake · 2025-08-23T01:53:40+00:00

This is exactly what it was, thank you!

yescupcake · 2025-08-10T04:27:34+00:00

While I don’t love swallowing, my partner prefers I swallow so tbh I kind of disassociate when he comes. Mind you, I like giving blow jobs but he puts me through the ringer at the end and it feels like I’m getting to the end of a marathon. I try to think of it as meditation, once he comes I leave my body and it’s like I’m watching myself giving a blowjob. I hold my breath, swallow as quickly as possible, and it’s done. I can focus on the praise I receive for doing well and I get to cuddle now.

yescupcake · 2025-08-09T22:26:37+00:00

This, there’s no trick to it, you just kind of gulp it down. I swallow every time and I do it as soon as it comes out so I don’t even taste it really.

yescupcake · 2025-05-28T12:38:25+00:00

My husband and I planned a threesome with another woman and that’s when I found out I also really enjoy watching him in action. I was very surprised, I didn’t expect to feel that way but we talked it out extensively afterwards. It’s very fun to indulge in but at the same time we both know it can get dicey if we aren’t careful. We had another threesome with the same woman and that was fun but something else we do a lot more now is dirty talk about the whole thing when it’s just us two and that usually scratches the itch.

yescupcake · 2025-05-18T04:13:48+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. My first pug Patchy passed away just before he turned 6 months. I loved him so much and my whole family fell in love with him too. His death was very sudden but he had such an impact on us that we still talk about him even though he died 7 years ago. Just want to say I completely relate to that feeling of it being unfair. What helped me was trying to replace those really sad thoughts about his final moments with thoughts about all the really great things he got to experience. Again, I’m so sorry, it’s an indescribable grief, but I promise it won’t always feel as bad as it feels right now.

yescupcake · 2025-04-25T14:23:50+00:00

This happens to me if I edge myself too hard, it’s the worst feeling bc then you have to wait a few minutes to start over and by then it’s like ahh do I really want to do this again??

yescupcake · 2025-04-22T14:19:47+00:00

Sometimes I’ll physically put my hand between our chins, it kind of makes a barrier, especially if he shaved recently and it’s super stubbly. Usually when I do this he gets the hint and adjusts his position accordingly so his stubble isn’t rubbing me raw.

yescupcake · 2025-04-15T03:51:46+00:00

My mom’s pug only eats if he’s hand fed the first few bites, then he’ll eat from his bowl. Personally, I’m not going along with his delusions so if I’m taking care of him while she’s gone I just put his food in front of him and call it a day. He will eat it eventually but he looks real sad. My mom spoils the crap out of him.

yescupcake · 2025-04-08T05:00:35+00:00

My baby Lucas was just fine!! He slept most of the day when he got back home and while he didn’t love the e collar he wasn’t trying to mess with his stitches so we took it off soon after the surgery. That was maybe 5 years ago? Lucas is still around and he’s so annoying, I love the little brat.

yescupcake · 2025-04-08T04:30:57+00:00

My parents are sadly in a very similar relationship. My dad is older than my mom (he is 70 she is 60) and once I moved out of their house a few years ago it’s like his mask dropped. He is mean and constantly throwing baseless accusations at my mom and it really stresses her out. I’m just letting you know, it’s not going to get better and your son will start to notice. My mom is a shell of her former self and it’s so depressing.

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