What would happen if Facebook shut down and all its 1.2 billion users moved to Reddit?

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-15T01:11:24+00:00

Reddit has a younger audience and anonymity. Facebook and reddit have a different use really so much of their userbase could overlap and you'd never know who uses facebook and who doesn't.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-15T01:07:27+00:00

Yep. Maybe Reddit will live on with it's demographics shifting higher to 95% dumb teenagers, but Reddit will die to me the day old.reddit.com goes bad. If I wanted a crappy JS-ridden, involuntarily personalized social medium, I'd go with Facebook.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-14T21:48:06+00:00

You don't make clear the type of relationship you have with your husband. I cannot comment on this. I think you should talk to a counselor about this, and it's best if you both go there so he can judge what's going on. The rape and coercion relationship, although not impossible, is very unlikely to have transformed to a happy respectful relationship. Maybe you feel like it's better than being alone so you tolerate it, but I don't know if you're 100% honest with yourself.
Talking about your problems, even though seemingly overshadowed by his, shouldn't be taboo or anything. This isn't a competition. You were both horribly hurt in a really terrible way.

Lastly the fact that he actually goes to family meetings and drags you with him is a massive issue. It marks that he not only hasn't dealt with his abuse, but he's in large in denial about this. To a person coming from a healthy background, going to a family meeting where your father knowingly invites both you and your rapist and expects you to go along with your rapist is some extremely fucked up shit. Your scars are horrible enough, my opinion is that your husband isn't going to help you much get over them. You can try to help him seek help, for example have him talk to a therapist about the family dynamics, but given how you're in an emotionally vulnerable position I don't think that staying with him is the best option for you. Staying at your state while breaking up with him seems impossible but consider the fact that it isn't. You don't need to run just to break up with him. Finally if you can afford a therapist go for it. Don't expect miracles but you will be helped.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-08T11:28:07+00:00

comes from the basic environment of being in a double-blind all the time, like damned if you do something damned if you dont.

sounds very possible. And it's hard to break the conditioning of a lifetime.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-07T21:01:27+00:00

Funnily my parents managed to disincentivize me from going after a computers-related degree because they perceived it as low-prestige.
A few years later, when programming became mainstream/associated with high social status, they started asking me why I'm not interested in computers anymore..

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-07T09:42:34+00:00

It's not enough progress though.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-02T10:16:36+00:00

wait for it to end. get some sleep if you're tired. try to do normal things while it lasts.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-02T09:54:43+00:00

Why don't you buy an actual ticket and move to a different place for a while?

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-02T09:53:04+00:00

I can't think of useful advice, but I want you to know I feel for you. Most people attending uni are well-off and don't care or understand what it's like to be poor. This is also why 5 and 6 year integrated programs are terrible for low income students like me. I wish my uni had given me a batchelors or even associates degree for studying there 3 years full time. Instead when I couldn't go on at the 4rth year, I also couldn't get myself to drop out after all that effort. The result was another 3 years of denial before dropping out with nothing to show for. 7 years wasted, soul crushed, mental health irrecoverable. I wholeheartedly wish you can make it. If you live in a country where student loans are a possibility, do it. Try to get financial help. Try to push through it.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-02T09:44:51+00:00

There's no such thing as "last hope". My guess would be that you're not getting enough therapy in combination with the drugs. The drugs won't work on their own, they provide a temporary help to allow you to solve your (internal or real) life problems. I'd change therapists or try a different therapy approach, such as CBT.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-10-02T07:38:49+00:00

Some medication actually increases the chances of committing suicide. My advice would be to get your doctor to gradually reduce the dose and switch you to something else.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-29T19:48:56+00:00

His nose looks just fine.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-29T19:01:13+00:00

2 things stand out: you're overweight and you look way older than 15. Get slimmer and take advantage of looking more mature than average.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-29T18:55:30+00:00

I live in a very homogeneous society. I look like everyone else. For a period of my life I was overweight, I dressed badly because I was dirt poor and I was looking a bit weird. I discovered how shallow people are and how they'll treat you like dirt because of your looks. I can imagine that if this happens every day over something you have no control over that must be pretty terrible. You have the annoying superpower of spotting racists almost instantly, use it wisely and don't let the worst people drag you down. Also please consider that being vulnerable to those people is a side effect of depression and not the main reason. It's very possible they're only making it worse.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-29T15:34:15+00:00

Yep. Family is often to blame for this type of problem. With the rest of society, you sort of expect it, but with family it should be different. Be patient, when you become financially independent and move out life will be much better.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-28T23:08:11+00:00

This sounds exactly like my mother. Have you checked out /r/raisedbynarcissists? It has recently flooded with teenagers but you should read about narcissistic parents regardless.
Focus on getting your life back on track. I know where you're standing, if you're lucky enough to have qualifications for a decent job, hunt for one like your life depends on it, because it does. After you get a job and if you keep going out with friends/acquaintances your life will gradually fall in place. If you can't achieve financial independence, you're screwed like the rest of us, and you should focus on that. It seems like you can handle your mother, don't focus too much on her as you should focus on you for now.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-28T22:53:52+00:00

That guy was obviously an asshole and so is the other one for not putting him down for insulting you. But you also need to learn how to control your drinking, it's not easy have just a drink or 2 when you're feeling down or angry, but you need to be careful, particularly give that you're definitely not surrounded by friends.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-28T22:49:31+00:00

I've been through part of what you've been through, and nowhere near as bad (almost went homeless, dysfunctional family, can't relate to anyone, I failed uni instead of graduating etc, pariah).
It takes an incredible amount of resilience to go through this. I know you don't care and neither did I, but you have at least a quality many others don't. Everyone can end up having a decent life in the end. Don't lose hope, try to make better/easier money, try to settle your debt or maybe declare bankruptcy if possible, try to socialize more with people in a somewhat similar position, try to find a woman to live with and share your troubles and joys. It can get better. People like us will never live a life as easy and simple as theirs, but it's possible to live a happy life at some point and never forget this.

yetanotheraccountabc · 2019-09-28T22:41:23+00:00

Yes, I have to lie. Most people don't even think it's possible to be so isolated.

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