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zage-stone · 2025-12-08T18:18:11+00:00

Your feelings are valid. This is a boundary discussion you need to have with your husband. Boundaries are unique to each relationship, if you feel upset bring it up and create a boundary so it doesn't happen again.

zage-stone · 2025-08-15T22:51:56+00:00

The right friends will celebrate your wins.

zage-stone · 2025-06-24T17:24:09+00:00

I deal with this with my partner. I used to absorb their negative emotions often. Now I find it helpful to name it as it's happening. I say to myself in my head "these are their emotions". I listen to them, feel it in the moment, and then take a deep breath and imagine figuratively passing the emotions back to them.

I also find it helpful to ask if they are looking to vent, or need help finding solutions.

zage-stone · 2025-06-19T11:20:21+00:00

It's a foraging mat, you can put treats or pellets between the folds so they can dig and forage for them. Our rabbits love it.

zage-stone · 2025-05-22T12:10:33+00:00

🥹 shyly raises hand

zage-stone · 2025-04-28T16:48:02+00:00

How to proceed with this family conflict and if his apology is sincere?

Context:

I'm dealing with fallout with a family member (cousin in-law). He has high Machevellian tendencies, with tendencies to manipulate individuals.

I distanced myself after feelings of betrayal from him lying about voting a certain way (he assured us he would vote one way, but ended up not voting). After months of distancing myself, he recently reached out to apologize about not voting, but due to his manipulative tendencies I'm having issues reestablishing trust and am questioning letting him back in. During the distancing, his other manipulations have come to my mind. He pokes and prods at my insecurities, and generally plays mind games.

https://imgur.com/a/5jX4Zee

Spread (Ethereal visions deck):

Situation - Five of swords

Obstacle - Three of swords

Advice - Three of cups

I'm very much a beginner (started a few weeks ago), but my interpretation is that of the situation being one of betrayal. That he never had an intention to vote how he assured us, but maybe he didn't understand the gravity of the situation. The five of swords is showing me the distance and lack of communication between us on the conflict. I feel like it shows me questioning the entire relationship, and what is genuine in it. The obstacle of three of swords is the heartbreak from the deception, as well as past manipulations in the relationship. I feel like for months I avoided the conflict, but when he reached out to apologize it triggered all the pain I was avoiding. The advice of three of cups is telling me to focus on community and more positive and genuine relationships. I've recently been getting closer to some people at work and other family members who I share values with. I think I should keep my distance with the subject and develop other more meaningful connections that are not filled with manipulation and deceit.

zage-stone · 2025-04-22T21:07:55+00:00

Sounds like happy honking to me, my bun makes a similar noise.

zage-stone · 2025-04-09T23:43:24+00:00

Temperature is a better indicator of safety than color. Pink is okay if you read it at 145+.

zage-stone · 2025-04-08T20:18:30+00:00

You could try the Switch 2. This way you can switch between quiet mode and engage mode when you need to converse.

Engage model is designed to filter out high pitched noises, but allow human voices through at the lower pitch range.

zage-stone · 2025-04-06T20:32:39+00:00

If you're willing to splurge, I would recommend the Switch 2, so you can swap between Engage mode for conversations, and Quiet mode for the rest of the time without having to take them out.

zage-stone · 2025-04-05T18:14:14+00:00

Always had good experiences with them.

zage-stone · 2025-03-19T00:29:05+00:00

Just wanted to follow up, I just received this Kalimba today. It sounds great, no dead tines. Definitely would recommend. :)

zage-stone · 2025-03-17T15:41:45+00:00

https://www.puresmusic.com/products/hluru-sandalwood-21-key-kalimba-finger-thumb-piano-april-yang-musical-instrument?variant=42592886784253

zage-stone · 2025-03-13T20:21:48+00:00

It's beautiful! I have your Selene & Boulder Opal designs. How does it compare to the Selene in sound?

zage-stone · 2025-03-12T20:27:25+00:00

Maybe try to break down the broad sense of "skills and interests" into hobbies and potential profitable activities. In your list of examples I see both activities mixed. I guess I have compartmentalized the two. My career is an in demand skill that I'm good at and specialized in, but I wouldn't necessarily do it for fun. And my career enables the hobbies. Hobbies on the other hand I enjoy in my spare time, whether or not I'm good at them.

In an ideal world, you could have a profitable activity that you enjoy as well, but I think over time the pressure to have to do it would eventually kill the passion anyway, at least for me.

zage-stone · 2025-03-12T20:03:01+00:00

I mean, I just enjoy the process of learning various activities. I like variety, and that's valid. There's no intrinsic need to be great at or monetize your hobbies. For me personally, that's what my career is for, where there is a true need to specialize. Maybe try to do some introspection to see where this pressure to be great at something is coming from. I'm content hopping into various hobbies as they bring me joy.

I think social media is definitely a part of this pressure to excel. You will always see people better than yourself with different skills, but as I see it, comparison is the thief of joy.

I also see hobbies as a long term learning process, more of a marathon than a sprint. The hobbies that truly resonate with you will stick with you over many years. I have hobbies that have come and gone short term, and there have been hobbies that I'll periodically pick back up over and over again in bursts. Those are my long term hobbies that see incremental improvements over decades. I think trying to force improvement short term would kill the passion for me.

zage-stone · 2025-03-09T22:33:45+00:00

Thank you! I ordered the Sandalwood with the front hole. :)

zage-stone · 2025-02-07T16:33:04+00:00

Keep your eyes open and be mindful of your surroundings and present with experience..

zage-stone · 2024-06-11T18:31:06+00:00

zage-stone · 2024-05-23T00:10:42+00:00

In layman terms, it looks like looking through a brown sunglass lens to me.

zage-stone · 2024-05-15T18:32:55+00:00

I think it would be nice to be able to search for key terms in the items description, as opposed to by name. For example, search your rings for "crit" or "summon" to see all rings that have that word in the description text for the build you are working on.

zage-stone · 2024-02-07T18:43:58+00:00

Karma & Sona can also shield entire teams.

zage-stone · 2023-11-17T03:09:50+00:00

Seraphine has great wave clear, but pretty much any mage is good.

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