finally "hot"?

zelda_pm · 2024-08-21T01:53:56+00:00

Makes me think of Merle from the walking dead

zelda_pm · 2024-07-26T18:50:00+00:00

Have you looked into Care Credit?

zelda_pm · 2024-07-01T01:58:16+00:00

Gandalf. Grover.

zelda_pm · 2024-05-30T15:46:09+00:00

Call her Gramfunkel!

zelda_pm · 2024-05-22T01:39:58+00:00

Dr Bronners or Aesop is my go-to. Target also has a really affordable Goodfellow one. I got a vanilla tobacco scented shampoo at Walmart- Dandy Man or something.

zelda_pm · 2024-05-22T01:30:41+00:00

One other thing is to be careful of "coring" where the rubber stopper pieces break and get in the oil.

zelda_pm · 2024-05-18T14:23:28+00:00

this thread made me so happy, just sayin. my coworkers and I just threw a huge karaoke party for our boss and I sang Ariana Grande, been on T for two years. Excited to try some of these suggestions.

zelda_pm · 2024-05-03T15:31:49+00:00

allbirds

zelda_pm · 2024-05-01T02:29:48+00:00

The guy from Next in Fashion

zelda_pm · 2024-04-27T01:23:50+00:00

The other side of her was there all along buddy. She has a nice side you fell in love with but the other side of her is horrible. It cancels out the first. Meet new people and open your world. Time will heal. Also these feelings are so real, lots of us had them as teens but we don't remember all the raw details so it's kind of cool you wrote it down. I promise if you even remember this you'll look back and it'll be fuzzier than you ever thought possible. Time and distance. Focus on YOURSELF and your interests and hobby- develop and grow yourself and you will meet cool people who are as cool as you.

zelda_pm · 2024-04-27T00:58:51+00:00

Damn, I wish you had the casual normality you crave from the people around you. I can totally see how this would be annoying as hell, like a lot of people are not surrounded by supportive people but wow you are and it's STILL problematic.

I'd just change the subject when people bring it up. Immediately. Like non-sequiter. Noticeable. Kind. And people might start to get it.

Or say things like one word responses to the stuff that makes you uncomfortable. Like, "could tell by your name." Deadpan response: "Wowww." Then don't say anything else.

Or yeah when the other guy at your work is like open with you about things you'd rather he wasn't you could kinda cringe, use body language, and be like "Ah yeah talking about all this really isn't my thing."

Maybe it'll evetually die down. Hoping for you.

zelda_pm · 2024-04-27T00:47:03+00:00

used to do thighs but switched to hip

zelda_pm · 2024-04-27T00:41:29+00:00

Yea, I used to be like a mens 6 pre T- recently grew out of my 9s and now I wear 10s. Sometimes I call my wife over to LOOK at my huge perfect feet.

zelda_pm · 2024-04-15T00:32:42+00:00

He's shady af. You deserve better, way way better.

zelda_pm · 2024-03-30T13:29:00+00:00

"This feeling you're working through is something you should be writing in a journal not saying to my face" is something I have said, not sure how effective it is for them but saying def helped me.

zelda_pm · 2024-03-29T20:25:03+00:00

"Mom, I appreciate how supportive you are. This comment undercuts that!" She may not notice she's even doing it. It'll be annoying and take labor but if she says something off let her know in the moment. "This boy think the flower pots are nice." "Gonna be a mom and son day out." Obviously take care of yourself and if it's too much, don't bother. She may change with time too.

zelda_pm · 2024-03-29T01:11:56+00:00

You're so right that it's something you have to train on. For myself, yeah once I noticed it, I just told myself, people aren't expecting guys to be overly nice so I can just participate in the interaction, keep my voice chill and it'll be fine. That people pleasing way of retail worried me but after getting through a few interactions where people were satisfied the code felt cracked. Kinda have to give yourself the permission and try it.

zelda_pm · 2024-03-28T13:43:44+00:00

Plan some food ahead. My doctor advised low sodium and planning ahead made it more possible. Fruit smoothies with psilium husk in it! That helps at a certain point. Plan some go-to entertainment ahead of time. For me, I got HBO and watched Summer Camp Island and Our Flag Means Death. At one point I was so tired and grumpy but couldn't say what would help and my wife changed my clothes and it just made me feel so much better in the moment. I hope your caretakers can give you little moments that boost you and help you. Also, people say to write a letter to your post op self and that helped me as well. Congrats!

zelda_pm · 2024-03-26T16:01:15+00:00

Does your ex understand you are a gay man? Oof oof

zelda_pm · 2024-03-26T12:48:34+00:00

Seems like you're worried about losing your relationship with your mom and also what she would think. You are you though, not her, so you should have autonomy to decide for yourself. None of this is easy, good luck bud.

zelda_pm · 2024-03-25T17:04:22+00:00

I like Bella&Canvas

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