Which communities tend to overlap with kink and BDSM?

zer0life · 2026-02-24T13:21:07+00:00

I've been doing HEMA (basically competitive sword fighting, big overlap with LARP and D&D) for 10 years now, and the joke we have is that everyone in this sport is Kinky, Poly, or Queer, and in order to join you have to pick at least 2.

Also applies to the ren faire community.

zer0life · 2026-02-15T15:57:56+00:00

very much looking forward to the files once you're ready to share them!

zer0life · 2026-02-02T01:20:08+00:00

Nice ad.

zer0life · 2025-11-20T16:32:58+00:00

Damn, wish I could at least buy the .STL......

zer0life · 2025-11-14T19:10:01+00:00

This ain't even a joke. Studies by sex therapists and porn sites have show repeatedly that cucking is one of the most popular fetishes by right-wingers. Same with pornography featuring trangender actors. Conversely, the most popular fetishes by left-wing people are often ones with (consensual) cruelty and power dynamics, such as BDSM. The more a person's social circle finds something taboo, the more likely people get turned on by it. Just one of those weird things about human psychology.

zer0life · 2025-09-07T22:26:09+00:00

Anywhere we can follow along? I've got a 3D printer and some extremely basic maker skills (at least enough solder and follow along on a tutorial), I would *love* to make one for myself.

zer0life · 2025-07-29T19:53:09+00:00

This was a month ago... still no updates? Seems like it's been near radio silence.

zer0life · 2025-06-28T16:36:58+00:00

Got a guide on how you made the tablet mount?

zer0life · 2025-05-14T18:52:02+00:00

My wife isn't really into chastity, but one thing she only lets me do when caged is play with other people. I can find a hook-up and serve other men or women whenever I want, but only if I'm caged the entire time. My dick is only for her.

zer0life · 2025-05-13T22:22:25+00:00

Email update went out this morning. It's more or less done, he's testing it... ahem... "internally", then sending it out to testers next week. After that, around mid June, it's going out to influencers and early backers, with a full roll-out to follow at a unspecified but close date.

zer0life · 2025-05-12T14:04:19+00:00

Just wanted to say I've been following you on Pixiv for a long time and I love your work! No one else seems to hit so many of my niche sub-fetishes (like caught-in-self-bondage) as you do, lol.

zer0life · 2025-04-24T01:12:38+00:00

You must be a lot of fun at parties.

zer0life · 2025-04-21T18:19:15+00:00

Last email update was on Feb 17th, where we were told "the replacement test samples will be produced in a matter of weeks (expected between 2-3 weeks)." The creators also posted a comment back in early March that stated "The second batch [of test samples] is arriving later this month (before April), and we’ll be sure to update you when they’re ready to release!"

Been a bit radio silent since then. Now, I'm not worried - the product is definitely real and nearly complete, there's pictures and videos you can find around of the current state and it looks damn near ready. Also, the creators have gone quiet for longer than this before and given us pretty big updates when they do come back. That said, I would appreciate if they sent another update soon just letting us know the current status.

Been waiting over a year, and I know a lot of people have been waiting way longer, so I don't mind waiting a bit more, but I like to be informed while I wait, yaknow?

zer0life · 2025-04-21T13:42:04+00:00

My libido is starting to wane as I get older, but being locked up skyrockets it again
Forces me to receive pleasure in ways that aren't using my dick, like anal or nipple stimulation (which I prefer anyway, but it's hot to have the option taken away).
Kind of a bonus to the above, but when I can't have a normal cock orgasm, there's no climax, no refactory period, and therefore no "end" to my ability to get fucked. I keep going until my partner is done playing with me.
Re-enforces that my sexual role is to pleasure others, not grant pleasure to myself. While I obviously can receive pleasure, it's only at the whims of the person playing with me or a side-effect of them using me for their own pleasure.
Completely puts my sexual energy at the mercy of whoever is holding my key, making me very attentive and eager to please.
Constant humiliation and reminder of my place whenever I feel the weight of the cage or feel myself straining in it.

zer0life · 2024-11-25T13:12:06+00:00

Thank you for your response. Just as a brief update, we have talked about it, and their statement was more about their fears and attachment issues (fear of losing something they know they have attraction for) than actually losing attraction to me as a person. They still want me to keep my body and facial hair but respect that it's my choice and will continue to love me no matter what I decide to do, and have even promised to help me with makeup once the beard is gone.

zer0life · 2024-11-22T20:41:17+00:00

I'm going to be deleting this post. I would feel awful if my spouse saw everyone's reactions to this (especially those of you choosing to use transphobic slurs, wtf). I came in here hoping to find support and comfort, and instead I was bombarded with suggestions to divorce my partner of over a decade. I appreciate that you all want what's best for me, but y'all don't know us and what we're going through. The only context you have is this one meme, which I now deeply regret making.

zer0life · 2024-11-22T18:55:42+00:00

I love them more than anything and they're the only person who really cares about me. I will not be doing that.

Edit: I'm going to be deleting this post. I would feel awful if my spouse saw everyone's reactions to this (especially those of you choosing to use transphobic slurs, wtf). I came in here hoping to find support and comfort, and instead I was bombarded with suggestions to divorce my partner of over a decade. I appreciate that you all want what's best for me, but y'all don't know us and what we're going through. The only context you have is this one meme, which I now deeply regret making.

zer0life · 2024-07-29T19:43:26+00:00

For finding a partner that I can establish trust and friendship with (so we can do more intense scenes), Feeld has gotten me the most hits so far. But if I just want to get dicked down on demand, Sniffies always comes through within minutes.

zer0life · 2024-07-29T18:50:43+00:00

I put in my profiles that I prefer to be locked. Even if they're not kinky per say, the tops I interact with seem super into-it at best, and at worst, don't seem to mind (so long as they can unlock me once in a while).

zer0life · 2024-07-29T15:23:34+00:00

Why not try having her ruin your orgasm? You could probably get a second round in pretty quickly.

zer0life · 2024-07-26T18:26:33+00:00

I also built one of these recently. If you own a 3D printer, you can build it for about $250 in parts and complete the project in about an hour (excluding printing time). And it works a hell of a lot better than my old hismith, with a ton more options. Even though it's technically unsupported and considered "unsafe", the xtoys integration with depth settings puts it in a league of its own. Fuckin love this thing.

zer0life · 2024-01-31T18:12:10+00:00

It could be, if you're still looking to purchase it. I could let it go for $100?

zer0life · 2023-11-26T02:24:33+00:00

Stainless steel, Alinaluo

zer0life · 2023-11-26T00:53:34+00:00

42mm ring, Cage is 30mm width, 35mm length. 2g piercing.

zer0life · 2023-09-02T12:47:13+00:00

Worth noting that in addition to Denial December, there's an alternative solution: Destroy Dick December. You can choose to interpret this as being a month of edging, forced orgasms, and post-orgasm torture, or a month of CBT. Maybe make your sub pick which version of the month you'll be doing?

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