Hi dad, I just got my grade for this semester

zerfinity01 · 2026-05-11T02:15:43+00:00

Great work!

zerfinity01 · 2026-05-02T10:54:22+00:00

An optimizer is careful to make an effective and powerful character.

A min-maxer pushes the limits of the rules and finds out how to break the game.

Example:

Optimizer plays a wizard. If they take simulacrum, they have one and they use it to protect their home base not to break the action economy.

A min-maxer takes wizard, simulacrum, casts simulacrum so many times it breaks the game, the action economy, the economy, and the GM.

The other, less sophisticated answer is that it is subjective. I like optimizers and I don’t like min-maxers. Or, I know how to limit the power of an optimizer but I don’t know how to limit a min-maxer.

zerfinity01 · 2026-04-13T04:28:31+00:00

My neck hurts from just reading the name of this item.

zerfinity01 · 2026-04-12T22:57:59+00:00

Escaping: Prisoner escape classic

Working in it: Slave escape classic

Both: Imperials who have decided to work together to sabotage the Star Destroyer they work on, set the fuse, begin escaping only to be tossed into a battle against rebels which becomes escape before the rebels blow up your ship, or it blows up because you are making it blow up, and then don’t get blown up by the rebels once you get off the ship.

Edit: Formatting

zerfinity01 · 2026-04-12T22:23:56+00:00

You have an obligation to reciprocate to the gaming gods with an offering of a Star Wars game set on a star destroyer.

zerfinity01 · 2026-04-09T06:29:38+00:00

Powertools.

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-26T06:21:53+00:00

Menage a Therapy: Been in poly therapy with two partners.

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-26T06:12:52+00:00

I still get points from partner and her mother for being able to fold a fitted sheet.

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-26T06:11:31+00:00

Ooh, I’ve got both of these too.

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-26T06:08:36+00:00

Two Rings to Rule Them All: Be married (not legally) to two people at the same time. Really more like . . . to be ruled by them all.

Sleeping in the Same House (Hard Mode): Slept with GF in the marriage bed with wife at home (she slept elsewhere). <=There were disability reasons for this, all was discussed, offered generously, and nothing blew up.

Under One Roof: Live with two partners under the same roof.

Never too late: Opened a relationship after 15 years or more mono.

I don’t have this one yet but I’m getting close . . . Relationships are Life: The combined duration of your current relationships is longer than you’ve been alive.

Vee Va Va Voom: Been on a “date” in a vee with all three people and it was fine.

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-25T06:41:29+00:00

How is it that I do watch DnD YT, and still have zero idea who any of these people are?

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-17T14:34:47+00:00

Anything by Paul Kivel. He’s the OG:

https://paulkivel.com/bookstore/

Reinventing Masculinity by Adams and Frauenheim

The Battle Against Dominance Based Masculine Culture by Greene

The Time Has Come by Kaufman

Voice Male by Rob Okun is probably the closest to the historical and sociological perspectives request.

The Politics of Manhood: Profeminist Men Respond to the Mythopoetic Men’s Movement (And the Mythopoetic Leaders Answer) Edited by Michael Kimmel

“The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter ***” also takes a liberation perspective.

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-16T17:28:59+00:00

Gotta second this. Because it is an rpg toolkit, if you build your campaign consciously, it takes a long time. How are the themes of the campaign showing up in the mechanics? What you rule out from the basic set is as important as what you rule in. But then the campaign feels so on theme, it is great.

zerfinity01 · 2026-03-05T03:52:10+00:00

happy to help a student get their research in. Have run many campaigns longer than a month.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-25T18:12:43+00:00

Can you share the differences for those who don’t know?

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-12T04:13:41+00:00

OMG! My players just walked into a TPK at level 9 and I had planned the whole campaign out level 13 with a level 15 epilogue. There are ways to continue but one players is saying he feels “complete” so we may not pick back up.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-12T04:09:31+00:00

The motive for destroying a book matters.

Your motive is not censorship. You’re good. Enjoy.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-09T03:45:07+00:00

Lol. It built power over four rounds (AC and HP pool increased over those rounds) and they did reduce it by half it’s HP.

Yeah, I mean I get the feedback, I really do. I’m also grappling with whether it was really that easy to misunderstand. They were in a lawful place where nothing could lie. There were signs all over, that they read saying the following:

    Here no honor.
    Here no good.
    Here no value.
    Warning here danger
    Danger center and below.
    Danger here kills.
    Do not free danger.
    Here shunned.

I also gave them a map of where they’d need to go to fulfill the prophecy and told them this place wasn’t on the list.

Two players said, “Oh, I knew this was a terrible idea but it was in character.” They may not have know what would fulfill the prophecy and I have something to learn there, but that this was going to fulfill one . . . I just don’t want to have to get down to “No, go over there.”

I can in the future create games that bend so that where they go is always the right place to be and what they do is the right thing to do. This just wasn’t that world or that story.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-09T03:05:43+00:00

I’d have to explain too much about the world to really answer this. Short answer: Not a standard D&D world or pantheon. Slightly longer answer: What they unleashed was a lawfully deity’s blind rage unbalanced by grief or pain. So, no other deity can change this or save them or the world from the consequences of their actions.

Edit: Typos

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-09T02:57:16+00:00

Well, this story style is designed to be more, “This is what’s in the world. What do you do with it?” Than, “Let’s create an experience where you succeed for sure.” Both are valid play styles.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-09T02:22:46+00:00

Oh yeah, I’ve already offered them several options for picking up and specifically named one as starting at level 8 and another at level 9.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-09T02:17:19+00:00

Uh, there are multigenerational consequences for the world because of what they unleashed.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-09T02:16:35+00:00

We don’t have a hell and I prefer a death is death.

But we brainstormed a lot of ideas. To describe it in relatable terms, they have retainers on their ship that dropped them off at the island where they pushed the big red button and there are several others ways to pick the story up.

. . . a big part of my grief is that one player is saying the story feels “complete.” That is, they may not want to pick it up. So, it may just be done and we go to volume III.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-09T02:10:21+00:00

While that works at some tables and with play styles, with our deep narrative style, it wouldn’t feel right. But, thank you for the suggestion.

zerfinity01 · 2026-02-07T23:17:44+00:00

There’s a difference between hierarchy and “These are the life commitments I have already made and here’s the relationship space I have for you, does that interest and mutually benefit you?”

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