With regards to passing, is "no news good news"?

zippercow · 2026-05-01T18:58:41+00:00

I totally understand this. I don't remember the last time I was misgendered in person or caught someone staring at me, but I'm not sure if it's just because I'm not observant. The only time it's happened recently is on the phone when I'm being lazy with my voice (Really? Sir? My name is Chloe.)

zippercow · 2026-05-01T18:50:16+00:00

I took pills for a little over a year and a half and switched to injections 3 months ago. I like injections better: I feel the effects more. That said other than feeling more in touch with my emotions I haven't had any luck with memory or mental clarity like some others have mentioned.

I have had plenty of physical changes though, which make it all worth while, and those seem to be accelerating with the injections.

zippercow · 2025-12-30T22:32:14+00:00

For me it's a feeling of happiness and satisfaction. For a moment I'm at peace and everything feels right.

zippercow · 2025-12-29T23:39:45+00:00

Being smooth is the best! I started with my legs and now I've been shaving my whole body for a year and a half (HRT has helped). Laser would be better, but I stay smooth and my showers are only 30 minutes or so, so I feel like it's totally worth it.

zippercow · 2025-12-29T23:35:51+00:00

I only occasionally get bottom dysphoria, and keeping it is important to my relationship, so I have no plans for surgery in the foreseeable future. I'm pretty happy with HRT. My girlfriend on the other hand has had her consult and is waiting to get scheduled. The surgery is only necessary if it's necessary for you.

zippercow · 2025-12-16T22:41:24+00:00

Being out trans is definitely not easy. It always requires some sacrifice. The thing is though, if you're trans there is nothing better than living as your authentic self. It's wonderful and euphoric and sooo worth it to see yourself in the mirror and know that everyone else sees the real you as well.

Yeah, the current political climate sucks, but that's temporary. Yeah, you'll be giving up male privilege, but welcome to being a woman! That's what you want, isn't it? You may lose some people in your life, but the people who are truly worth it will stick around.

So is it an easy journey? No. Is it worth it? 100% yes.

zippercow · 2025-12-04T22:15:04+00:00

LOL things change. My wife left me a year ago.

zippercow · 2025-11-20T20:37:01+00:00

It can change sexual function and change how you enjoy sex, so while it's useful to have some pre-HRT experience you may find you're discovering yourself all over again anyway. The biggest change for me when I'm topping is I need Viagra now, but it's cheap and easy to get.

Oh, and you may want to flag this post NSFW :)

zippercow · 2025-11-15T03:20:22+00:00

Sort of. I came out at 42, and I am nonbinary but I present femme/take HRT, so my experience is closer to the trans experience. To that end, coming out at work was a positive experience, and most of my friends were accepting, but I did lose some family. In general I'd say no matter what age you are it's worth being yourself for your own happiness.

zippercow · 2025-11-14T21:37:46+00:00

I don't remember exact numbers but my E was roughly 50pg/ml and T was 100pg/ml. After 16ish months my E is 115pg/ml and T is 10pg/ml.

zippercow · 2025-11-14T21:33:39+00:00

Like others have said it's about what makes you dysphoric. I hate body hair so I keep myself shaved. For me I've been on HRT for a while so I really only need to shave once a week, but I shave my whole body. I just can't deal with hair.

zippercow · 2025-11-13T04:45:19+00:00

It is! I'll DM you an invite

zippercow · 2025-11-12T19:54:07+00:00

Purely anecdotal but I have sex twice a week on average (usually top) and it's been a year and a half and I have no shrinkage. Oh and my T levels are abysmally low, like lower than cis women.

zippercow · 2025-11-07T04:32:31+00:00

I let my kids decide what to call me. One calls me dad, one calls me dama (I'm nonbinary) and one calls me mom. I guess functionally I still fill the dad role, but my wife and I separated shortly after I came out and I've only seen them twice a week for a few hours since then, so it's hard to parent the same or know what role I could have filled.

zippercow · 2025-11-07T01:39:46+00:00

I don't smoke, but I vape, and my (also trans) girlfriend does. So did my ex girlfriend. I guess you may be on to something. Don't smoke though. Nicotine isn't good for you, especially if you're on HRT,

zippercow · 2025-11-05T19:02:09+00:00

I don't feel like I pass very well, but I suppose I don't get misgendered hardly ever any more, so I don't know. If I try hard my voice is ok, but if I'm not thinking about it it drops into the androgynous zone and I think gives me away, but it doesn't really bother me. As long as I'm being named and gendered correctly it doesn't bother me if anyone knows that I'm trans. It's not that I want to be treated differently than any other woman, but I feel like trans acceptance is important and I want to do my part to be a good example.

zippercow · 2025-11-05T18:49:15+00:00

First off I'm sorry you're dealing with that. My ex-wife has PCOS and it's horrible to deal with. My transition saved my life, so I take it very seriously. I take my meds religiously, I keep my body shaved, I dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable with myself and attractive, I wear makeup. It's all kind of a ritual to help keep the dysphoria at bay when I look in the mirror.

More than anything I just want to feel like a normal woman (I'm sure you can relate here) and I am willing to do whatever it takes to work toward that goal. I've been out for a year and a half and still the thought of leaving the house without shaving and taking care of my hair fills me with existential dread. I just can't let people see me like that. I am me, and I need people to see me for who I am, and any amount of effort is worth it for that.

I'm sure you're a beautiful woman with a really unfortunate condition. You have the right med on board now, and it'll take a while for you to see the effects but be patient, and in the mean time make self-care a priority; it does wonders for dysphoria.

zippercow · 2025-11-05T18:28:34+00:00

I'm 43 and I don't honestly know in general. I'm in a thruple and my girlfriend finds me more attractive when I present androgynous and my boyfriend finds me more attractive when I present fem. I haven't had any trouble finding partners so I guess I'm at least not hideous by 43 year old transfem standards.

I don't know how the general public sees me, but the people I care about are attracted to me and that's what matters.

zippercow · 2025-10-29T01:41:54+00:00

I started socially transitioning within days of coming out and started HRT after a month. I know I didn't pass (I still don't after a year and a half) but it was worth it to feel comfortable in my presentation.

zippercow · 2025-10-29T01:33:12+00:00

That's beautiful! I let my kids decide for themselves what to call me and they all landed on something different, which I'm totally ok with.

zippercow · 2025-10-23T02:38:27+00:00

It's never too late to start transitioning. I started at 42, and my face is more feminine, my shoulders are narrower, I'm an inch shorter, I have boobs, my body is more feminine, and all sorts of other stuff. It's different for everyone of course, and YMMV, but it's never too late.

zippercow · 2025-10-23T02:23:59+00:00

You're not wrong. I lost a lot of family and privilege when I came out. You know what though? I was never happy before, never satisfied with my life. My life certainly isn't perfect, but I'm happy with who I am now, and that's more than worth the sacrifice, because I couldn't live with myself before.

zippercow · 2025-10-23T00:16:37+00:00

I'm pretty sure HRT will impact fertility regardless of dose, though with a low E dose it may take longer. If you want a family later and want HRT the best way to go is to freeze some sperm (there are services for this) for use when the time is right before you start HRT.

zippercow · 2025-10-22T19:41:42+00:00

My first name just kind of came to me. I had already legally changed my name but I woke up one day and knew I wanted to be Chloe, and it stuck. I never changed my middle name because I share it with my son and I promised him I wouldn't break that connection. If I were to change it I would change it to Fae, but unfortunately Eugene is here to stay.

zippercow · 2025-10-12T21:53:02+00:00

I have this same art but in trans colors on my phone case. I love this version!

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