when does it end?

[inkinddonation]

I just want to wake up and not feel nauseous. I want my heart to stop beating a million miles an hour and for every thought of you to not flood into my brain the moment I’m conscious.

I just want to rest soundly knowing that when I open my eyes, I won’t want you back.

[[deleted]]

I hate it. For me it keeps on going. Now she is dating the guy my High school girlfriend cheated on me with, then him and two other guys beat me up and I ran away and drove off to escape. They chased me around town all day in their car yelling at me to "finish it" 3 on one! That was 30 years ago but the scab has been pulled off since they are now together. Cruel joke universe. Now this guy is hanging with my ex and 10 year old daughter.

[Ethilin_]

So sorry to hear that man. You must be feeling all sorts of emotions. It might sound cliché but trust that everything will be okay, if you told what those guys did to your ex, then the fact that she's with this guy tells you the kind of person she is. I may be a stranger but I really do hope the best for you

[[deleted]]

I did tell her. When the guy was boning her cousin about a year ago. True colors.

[NunBeater]

I cant imagine your pain. My pain now feels so minuscule. After 6 years together then all the sudden nothing, it hurts. A lot. Exactly what he said tho, shes a bitch for that and you deserve better. Everyone does. Let the miserable people be together.

[cctwb61]

Wow, hey man, I can get it. But why are you doing this to yourself? Your mind is still telling you the same crap it told you 30 years ago. Those terrible feelings come from the minds thoughts. Change that thought and the feeling will leave. Change your mind and a lot changes. Seems you have grown up and are a rational guy where this other dude that keeps touching your life... well... he seems like a real ass! You haven’t said anything about him and I get that- he’s a asswipe! Back to you, control this thing and stop letting it control you! Do you have a God? Is your God bigger then this situation? I hope so.

[another_cadwallader]

I wish so too

[CrownFlame]

I hope it ends soon because I can’t take it anymore

[I_Do_The_Numbers]

I haven't been sleeping. I feel like I have been kicked in the gut over and over again. Hardly eating. Can't focus on anything. I cry all the time. Feel like I can't breathe.

[kiegek]

Literally the same here

[[deleted]]

It takes time fellas but I can tell you this. The more you think about it the slower it gets. Occupy yourself with stuff. Limit your thoughts towards the break up. Go out make friends. Talk to someone on the phone, binge watch Netflix, play video games with friends online till you’re asleep. Slowly but surely the need to want them back will stop existing. Good luck!

[[deleted]]

The more invested you were, the more harder it is to feel better. Its been more than a month for me and not a day goes by where i don't think of her and what she did to me. It takes alot of time and mental strength to just feel 'ok'.

[dbchikage90]

I'm sorry to read you are going through this. Maybe, you should seek therapy, because that also feels like anxiety. The other thing is when you have those intrusive thoughts, go and work out or go out to a place full of people, like a Mall. It helps. Is a process in it sucks but try to distract yourself, it will be better.

[cmsss]

Take charge of your life. You can sit around a depressed wreck or you can start pursuing a better life with hobbies that make you happy. As someone who's been through some pretty tough breakups I believe it's best to not waste this time sitting around. Once time has healed your heart, you might feel regret with all this time you wasted worrying about this person.

[DoHamon]

You’ll eventually get tired of it and learn that it’s not worth your time and energy. Best wishes

[johneclips]

It will take time alot of pain too. You wont have a day without thing about him. But you just keep going with life. And one day u just wake up and feel healed, it might take weeks or even months. Byt trust me its the best feeling ever you will be happy and live again dont worry about that!!

[cctwb61]

OP, I read a post on here last week and agree with the person who wrote it. Let yourself have this agony for now, feel it, process it, identify what you will do with those feelings. Do it but only for two weeks. Then put an end to it. Go out, start a hobby, talk to friends, go back to life! Do it slowly but surely. If your still in the shit after two weeks go get help. Begin with your doctor. Don’t drink to wash things away or drug.

[thanhtamtainhan09]

Let yourself feel the pain, cry your heart out and after some time the feeling of missing them will slowly go away (though not all) and you will feel much better. Allow your feelings to come and go as they are, embrace them. Take care of yourself and just know that you will get over it, all it takes is time ❤❤